How to deal with her sex past

No, you're putting women on a pedestal.

 

@himmelstoss, why are you so angry towards women? Absence of a motherly figure? Abuse? I know it is none of my buisness, but the way you talk about women is just as I would talk about a piece of trash on the ground.

We no longer live in the early 1900s or before. We are evolving and with that comes a change in views of things. Women have always been degraded by people who hate them for some reason or another. We no longer live in an age of women stuck in the same housewife role and the big, strong man has the sole judgment on everything.

Women are equal to men. I know for a fact that you have made disgusting mistakes in your past. If you actually believe he shouldn't forgive her for her mistakes then you shouldn't be forgiven for yours. You can stay lonely and angry the rest of your miserable life.

I'm reaching a hand of friendship out to you buddy. This stuff has got to stop. Every single thread you decide to post on is hurt by your rude, sexist, objectifying comments or insults. I just want you to realize that you are not on the right path. I know what it feels like to hate women. To feel neglected and go unnoticed. If you feel this at all, please pm me. I would be happy to talk with you about it.

There are many users on here who obviously need to deal with some inner hate towards women. If any of you feel like you want to change, feel free to pm me. After my mother was murdered when I was a child, I began to hate her for leaving me. I hate no idea because I was so young what had actually happened. That idea corrupted me into a man who avoided contact with the opposite sex for many years. Hated them. Judged them. Society really wants to hold on to the idea that women are lesser, men are greater.

Many women can do many things men can not. One of the major ones being giving life (childbirth). As I was growing up in high school, all the "cool" guys treated women like trash. Younger women have been conditioned to rush into the arms of the attractive male, even if he treats them like a used condom.

Enough of my rant. himmelstross, your anger is my anger. You must let it out or you will continue to hate women, love, and life. If you are a man, these things are vital to you progressing through life. Hope to hear from you soon.

 

There were female doctors and judges before women could vote. But wait, in the northern states women could vote (including in presidential elections) long before the 19th amendment (which just made women's suffrage federal.) But most women legitimately wanted to be housewives. Women were being "degraded" in the past because everyone was being degraded in the past. Your portrayal of history is dishonest and ignores how grueling and dangerous most men's jobs were (to the point where women weren't cpable of performing them) until we started mechanizing everything.

Oh, now it all makes sense.

 

You completely ignored everything and took shit out of context so that you could sound like you actually know what the fuck you are talking about. I tried to seek reason from you. I now see you are a hopeless, egomaniac who's only goal in life is to argue and try to make people feel stupid.

I have no idea how you managed to make it as far as you did in your reboot, but I guess that doesn't matter as long as you feel like you got a rise out me. You are no better than Cute Hipster. Just looking for attention through always being the person to object. I am sorry you are so miserable and hope you find love one day.

 

Since you went there I'll tell you. Porn is emasculating and I hated that I couldn't get laid for real. But I needed to feel suicidal before I could finally quit. I still get urges but I know that even if I PMO I won't be able to escape that feeling that I'll never be good enough for any woman until she needs something from me.

Which brings us back to OP. Sorry for helping derail your thread. It's up to you whether you stay with this girl or not, but do it for the right reasons, not because one of us told you to.

 

I am also sorry for derailing.

And @himmelstoss, I know that feeling my friend. I was just trying to understand why you seem to be so cynical and angry. I think you could relate to a lot of these so called "white knights" you dislike so much.

 

I was a white knight originally.

 

That's the thing. You're comparing porn with people. That is so wrong man. How could you compare something that is scripted to something that is real and worthwhile. And this habit of comparing isn't a good thing. If anyone does it they aren't good enough for anyone. If she loves you she loves. Be content in that. Every one has a past.

 

Good one. Where's my insulin at?

 

Men and women are different.

A key that can open many locks is called a master key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock.

 

Thankfully none of you can even find the door.

 

OMG guys you are fighting over nothing. In this "free" times it's a matter of opinion. you ask 100 ppl you get 100 opinions simple as that. Sure I'd also like a virgin mate, which "door" hasn't been hammered by the whole town but it's not realistic. What if you meet the woman of your dreams, you gonna dump her because of irreversible fact? It make no sense!

 

wtf i am not a woman hater, but he should dump her, because he has a very uncomfortable feeling and its not a good relationship if you have to struggle with such feelings for ever... If it doesnt stop, definetly dump here, otherwise this ll make it worse. Dont know why someone has to insult me and some other members, because we have a different opinion. Pls stop this ... We are the NoFap Community, one big Team and the best in the world! I really love you guys

 

They believe the woman's feelings always take precedence. Men are just a support system.

 

Read his original post. He says he does not want to leave her and that he loves her. I gave advice based on that. If she attacked him with a hammer then yes dump her.

@AdamJibril I am sorry if my words offended you, I wasn't completely serious when I called you guys women haters. I really don't feel that way but some people have issues with women and need to be called out on it. Himmelstoss had no problem calling us out as "white knight" idiots. Sometimes my annoyance gets the better of me.

 

Do you have a citation for the appalling claim that women with long sexual histories are more likely to cheat?

 

Generally men are attracted to women who have had little to no sex partners. On the contrary, women generally desire a man with experience.

Personally, I find this unattractive in a woman, and I would more than likely discontinue the relationship. In my promiscuous days, after learning my ex was previously with 16 other men, I instinctively treated her 'differently' until the relationship was bitterly over.

 

My opinion is that it doesn't matter if you are a boy or a girl, if you have a lot of sexual encounters and you jump from relationship to relationship, that is a good and clear indicator on how do you treat yourself and others.
A lot of girls use sex as a means to show their love to their boyfriends, or just to feel good for a couple of minutes, because they don't know better. Also they will get ridiculed and shamed if they don't want to have sex all of a sudden.
On the other hand, guys try to have as much sex as they can, because they have been taught that that is what a "real man" does, right? Also, they don't know better, and they will also get shamed and ridiculed if their top priority in life is not having sex whenever they can.

I believe that eventually everybody wants to settle (or most people) and marry, or at least have a stable relationship with one person. But maintaining a relationship requires certain attributes and behaviors that only develop with time. If you quickly change your partners in your youth, it will become a habit, and you also rob yourself the opportunity to grow into the kind of person, who can maintain long relationships. Therefore your previous life will come back to haunt you later. Ever thought about why there are so many divorces? It's not all about finding the good person, it's also much about being the right person. No getting around that, sorry.

And that is just the physical level. When two people have sex, they get connected with very strong bonds spiritually. Ever wondered why there are couples who fight all the, love is all but gone, but they are stuck in a "not with you, nor without you" kind of relationship? This is why, the spiritual bonds are not easily severed. (Some say they can never be severed completely. Yikes.) Or that when you meet your ex, most of the time you end up having sex?

All in all, it all comes down to your preferences, but not in the moment, but in perspective. You may think that you'll never want a stable relationship, so you have sex all the time, but if you change your mind, you'll have a really hard time getting and maintaining it. But if you want to wait, or not have sex every time you can, you'll have to face the hypocrisy of the world, and that is a daunting task as well.

In the end, forgiveness can be the key, but if you had a lot of sexual partners, or your partner had a lot of sexual partners, being concerned about it, is -I say- a rightful thing to do. That's just my opinion.

 

I just dealt with this....becareful that you dont end up peeing in a cup. Always choose the less promiscuous woman. I really liked my ex, but part of being a man is claiming only the things that havent been trashed out by others... including woman.