How do i master lust

Stop putting them on a pedestal.

 

Like for real, I was streaming some movie on a free website, and you know how they overdo the popups and where they sometimes lead. For a minute while trying to close a window, ended up seeing a lude image. It was sudden and my abstinence streak isn't that long that I'm resistant enough, my heart pounded and for a second, I was tempted, I won't lie. But then I thought of just how many X's were on my habit chain (a page I cross boxes off for each day I abstain) and how many times I actually tried this and kept screwing myself (no pun intended) in this quest for transmutation and then I looked at the woman. She was beautiful, yeah, but she was not mine. Just a body with zero personality to me, and I wondered if I still wanted to be part of this industry as one of the cogs keeping it running, this objectifying system that holds all genders in bondage. I felt nothing at that moment, all that picture had been were breasts, cute skin and nice hair, and the people had the personality of a cat for all I cared. I closed the window and now I need to get a streaming service that doesn't keep pushing that stuff in my face. I wasn't about to blow my streak over a useless fantasy when that energy could be going into better things, like my work. I realise that it's all a mindset, and we always fail when we're not 100% on the side that we want to be on.

I think at some point we have to understand on a visceral level that we're all just sacks of meat. Stop worshipping the sack of meat and focus on the thing that actually gives that sack of meat value, the soul, spirit and mind. It's that association we make, the objectifying of people, into things to have sex with that makes it harder to control ourselves. We are in effect idolaters, worshipping bodies, and slaves to our lowest urges until we see things for what they are and reclaim control over our sense of self and dignity.

 

Im here at this point too in my nofap journey. The pixels are just that. Not real and of no benefit for me and actually cause huge harms in our society. Excellent post. Kerp at it brother.

 

Indeed brother, but boy is it a trip getting here.

 

I like this - really well said. 46 days, well done, keep grinding out the days bother

 

You don't. Anyone who has done a little meditation might appreciate the idea of watching it without acting on it, but aside from that you also have to own it. Owning it isn't automatically mastering it but it's an important distinction from the arms length kind of witness consciousness that may result in dissociation. When you relapse you might want to disown it, but it is a part of you. We have bodies and that's part of what bodies do.

What can happen is through developing yourself, which doesn't mean being self centered or an ego focus that can become a small part of you, in which case the matter of mastering it becomes smaller too because you're just more occupied with other worthwhile things in life. You are still a person with a body and its lust, but that's a smaller and smaller part of you.

And the self at that point is just a different person from the self now asking the question how to master lust.

 

That’s the question all of us are on the journey of finding the answer to!

 

Sorry, but if you think this, you're in for a world of hurt.

 

Thats a long streak. Congrats.

 

Much of this has probably been said here already but when you stop putting women on a pedestal (treating them like princesses, of which none of them are deserving) and see them for what they really are (i.e. energy drainers and attention seekers for the most part).
Instead, dedicate your time and life towards bigger and greater goals and purposes such as starting a business/focusing on your career, working on your physique/exercising, and learning and acquiring new skills that will benefit you in the future. This will draw your attention away from women and with time (as money and resources come your way) they will be drawn to you instead, like a magnet.

It is much about delayed gratification and visionary thinking, the stark opposite to busting a nut which is a form of instant gratification that will feel good at the moment but only give you more troubles as time goes by.