Can anyone solve this riddle for me, please.

So the thing is that most of my life i've spent without any confidence whatsoever. Never got it as something particularly needed or wanted. Everywhere i look for information about getting the attention of a woman, it's always about that damn thing called confidence. Some sources state that they need to see that in a man, for various reasons. Testing you, making decisions based on how well you play that alpha role and whatnot. That masculinity is by my opinion so overrated. Why should anyone invest time in getting that skill if that's what it is? It's almost primarily needed for the first phase of the game where the lady should feel attracted to you. After some five years or so and even far less in many cases, if she decided to stay with you marry you or else be on your side, it doesn't even matter that if you fart around that woman. Why should anyone put so much effort in acquiring a skill that beyond the initial few months becomes useless. Most women required that in a man, but it's somehow never what they say they are with that guy for. And another thing best be answered from a woman if there's any reading that message... Why do you put up with just anyone having enough guts to ramble in your general direction while it's obvious he's not actually confident but faking it? I've seen it numerous times. You women in general don't even know what you are looking for. So many guys are just faking it and still got your attention. It's like the scene from Pirates of the Caribbean, when they ask Jack Sparrow if he got the key, respectively the confidence. And he is like: I've got better! A picture of a key! In other words just impudent and cheeky. As a man i see it so hilarious from the perspective of a observer. How impudent and cheeky pass for confident? By any means confident should be being yourself without fear of failure, not trying your best to bullshit the chick that this is yourself that you present there. That you are not asking an obvious question to foreigner colored woman like "Where are you from? Africa, really (some african country stated), and where exactly is that because my geography is a bit rusty..." Dude, is this all you've got? Is this all that's required actually? Shoot in the dark until you get a hit? Just the other day one of the guys at work just came and stated that one of the girls is a wh*re in her own foreign language, that being Polish and used without any conversational context is very offensive, somehow these guys got from Wh*re stated by the guy to "My friend told me how to pronounce I love you in your language." by the girl. If i just go to some girl and state that she's a wh*re, this by my opinion should be social suicide with that person. I am baffled... Database is incomplete on that matter.