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Loosing erection while doing foreplay

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Yeti32, Jun 3, 2020.

  1. Yeti32

    Yeti32 Fapstronaut

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    I am loosing erection while doing the foreplay. I am married for last 7 years. Problem still persists. Doing Masturbation with wife. Not watching porn since 1 year. However, there is no improvement in our sexual activity. I reached out to sexologist for help and he admitted that all my sexual behaviour is copied from porn. Now, he is suggesting me to watch porn with my wife and then do the sex. I need inputs from you guys.
     
  2. No, that’s ridiculous, don’t go back to porn. That’s the easy way out of your problems and you’ll become more dependent than ever and will regress.
    Keep going strong, you’ve done well for yourself and your wife. it’s only a matter of time that the benefits and the results will show, but I am sure there are good days ahead for you and her even if the good days may not be consistent.
     
  3. Chasedarec1

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    Basically what they said, I don’t know why he would refer you back to porn. It’s never a good idea just never think about going back you are passed that.
     
  4. Yeti32

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    My wife is also asking me to watch a porn and give it a try. I am not sure how to deal with this situation.
     
  5. it would set you back. All you’ve worked on for an entire year gone down the drain...especially all you’ve worked for.
    Of course it could work to watch it and fuck her... but is it the real thing between you and her, are you making love or just masturbating using her pussy while watching porn stars fucking? That’s cheap
    If you guys watched it together while fucking.. Sure, you would both do it together but, it’d most likely turn out to be more than a one time thing, and then it would end up with you alone watching it again.. feeding into your addiction alone most of the time..
    Never achieving a genuine and pure erection from being aroused by only your wife and only thinking of her whilst making love
     
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  6. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    well-said! I agree.
     
  7. Yeti32

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    Well, I watched small porn clip with my wife and I really not aroused by watching that clip. Later, even my wife agreed that we should not watch this and continue to work without porn. We will also going to tell our sexologist about our decision of not watching porn. Is it something good we did? Pleas provide input.
     
  8. Coco99

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    Do you work out? It may by due to low testosterone levels. I would start doing some weights and possibly running and doing a bit of cardio. I have heard people talk about supplements that may help with this but not sure if they have worked. I sometimes have this problem as well. I felt like when I was actively working out my sex drive was much better.Also, stress may be a factor here.
     
  9. Yeti32

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    I am 37 and I do workouts like push ups and pull ups. Going for a walk for more than an hour.
     
  10. Rev2.0

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    What's happening here is that through porn and masturbation you've turned your entire sexual focus inward and specifically to your hand on your dick. As a result when pleasuring your wife, your dick won't respond. What's supposed to happen is that touching and kissing her, turning her on, turns you on just as much. I knew I was making progress in my recovery when this happened to me. I still haven't recovered to the point I can keep it up for PIV but it's progress.

    I agree with others, that counselor have you bad advice. I also agree women know when you're really into them or just using some part of their body as a sub for your hand. Porn got you into this situation... it's certainly not going to get you back out.
     

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