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I don’t know what to do.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Toucan99, Jun 6, 2020.

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  1. Jun 6, 2020 #1
    Toucan99

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    I have been doing PMO since I was 13, and am 21 now. Between middle school and high school I was doing M every day, once or twice a day. Eventually I’d maybe skip a day or so, but my fetishes ended up getting more severe to accommodate my boredom with normality. I’ve had times where I’ve attempted to stop frequent PMO, but I feel that since I started so young and watched P so frequently, that I may be a lost cause. I have bad PIED, and can get an erection from kissing, but it does not stick around, as I leak pre-seminal fluid, and think about it too much. I had a girlfriend for a year and a half were PIED never occurred, but I still had little to no feeling in my penis from Oral or Hand induced sex. The problem still didn’t go away though, as I found myself indulged in porn fantasies and masturbating in the shower of my girlfriend’s apartment. I’m scared this problem will keep occurring, as I am now in the dating scene again and would like to engage in physical relationships with women. My issue has caused me to want to avoid encounters with women as to not embarrass myself or cause myself anxiety. I just wished I had never seen this stuff from the beginning. I’ve even got to the point of questioning my own sexuality.
     
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  2. Jun 6, 2020 #2
    BreakingBenjamin

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    You are not a lost cause, this is reversible, but you must invest all efforts and resources into quitting pornography.
     
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  3. Jun 6, 2020 #3
    Toucan99

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    I just fear that it’s been such a big part of daily life for me for so long that I will take years for me to recover physically.
     
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  4. Jun 6, 2020 #4
    Toucan99

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    The problem is I don’t know what I should and shouldn’t be doing while in the quitting progress. I began as of yesterday, and still have thoughts and memories that re-emerge. I’m also worried about the numbness of my genitals, and whether that will ever not be the case.
     
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  5. Jun 7, 2020 #5
    k3muthomi

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    The best thing you can do is stop porn all together. With regards to the quitting process you may have to take some drastic measures and eliminate all the cues that lead you to masturbation. Like quitting social media temporarily. Working out, reading and cold showers have worked for me
     
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  6. Jun 7, 2020 #6
    Boxerito

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    We are a guinea pig generation for Mindgeek and the porn tube lobby. They became rich out of screwing our brains and natural sexuality. It's an arousal McDonalds, junk stimulation, but instead of affecting the body, affecting the brain.
    I share your feelings I wish I had never found the heroin of internet. My recommendation for you would be to make a total digital detox, which means, to lower your internet time as much as possible. We have downregulation of dopamine receptors out of porn, social media, etc. Total detox is the fastest route to recovery. You can install apps on Playstore for complete digital detox.
     
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  7. Jun 7, 2020 #7
    Boxerito

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  8. Jun 9, 2020 #8
    Boxerito

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    I really encourage you to change your mindset from present hedonism or immediate gratification to future oriented hedonism and delayed gratification. A key mindset to overcome this addiction is to think about the kind of sexual life you want to have in the future, and the attachment style that you want with your loved ones, especially romantic partner. Even if you are single at the moment. Do you want to create resistence, or flow, in the path to arrive to a future better life?.
     
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