Do you like being called skinny?

It reminds me of when people say "smile more" or "life's not that bad", when you're doing absolutely nothing at all. What is the point? You claim it's people trying to be nice but honestly it's annoying, it's none of their business and they don't know what's going on with you or your life.

I guess you've never been told by strangers you're skinny, or how about repeatedly by your coworkers that you need to eat more? It's one thing when your family knows something is up (since they actually know you), and another when society thinks they're doing some kind of good when they make those comments.

Unless they're your friend or someone close to you it's honestly none of their business, you may not see it that way but those remarks are intrusive. Reminds me of a time a bank teller said to me "you're a quiet one, aren't you? because I didn't initiate small talk. People really need to keep to themselves sometimes.

 

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I think we are going in circles. I’m not invalidating your feelings. This thread asked about people’s opinions and your opinion is different than mine. I simply tried to say that people who tell someone they look very thin usually have good intentions. But someone having good intentions doesn’t necessarily mean you appreciate their intentions, if you personally see it as intrusive and an invasion of your privacy, then that’s obviously a valid feeling. Someone might feel offended if a random person wishes them a nice day, since they might think that person shouldn’t have any business to care about their day. But some people are actually just trying to be nice or helpful, even if it isn’t always welcome. At least to me it’s only logical and rational to assume someone is being nice rather than assuming a person that doesn’t even know me or care about me intends to hurt my feelings.

 

The problem is if it's something that really bothers you, how do you stop it from happening? You can't, and really the only thing you can do is refute what they say but its so infuriating when it keeps happening. I honestly really wish people would keep their supposed good intentions to themselves, because constantly having to explain something sucks.

I just don't think it's fair to call someone anything regardless of if you think you're somehow actually being helpful, you don't know that person or if they have issues surrounding anything. What I had an issue with isn't with what you said as that's your opinion, and rather it was your remark at the end that I thought was unfair.

 

To quote Coach and (not a doctor) Greg Doucette "Next time choose better parents!".
lol

 

The thing is, skinny people are already aware of the fact they're skinny in the first place, especially if it's something they're uncomfortable about. Telling them that they're skinny, overweight, or whatever label they want to slap on them does absolutely nothing. Good intentions or not.

 

What do you care about what other people say??

 

So what if you’re skinny?

If ever you want to change yourself, do so for yourself, don’t do it to impress people.
The people who mock you by calling you skinny don’t deserve your attention.
So just fuckin stop caring about ugly emotions.

Yeah u r skinny, so what? They r fat, so what? Talk about the health, not the size.

 

I guess unfortunately there isn’t much you can do, other than try to find a way to let people know that their concern is not welcome.

That point I made was a separate point, since you are saying you feel invaded in your privacy and annoyed when someone says you’re skinny, which is not the same as feeling offended/hurt by someone (unintentionally) pointing out your flaws. Assuming someone has good intentions and they are telling me I’m skinny, I would neither let myself get personally affected by them pointing out my "flaws" nor by thinking they are being malicious.

 

Chicken legs I can understand as an insult, I guess it depends on the context and how someone says it. In my experience, I never got any negative vibes from people calling me skinny.

Then I wonder, do you like looking in the mirror? If someone is fat, skinny or has a huge nose, and they don’t like those features about themselves, will they just stop looking in the mirror to not feel bad about themselves? Why not work on the insecurity and learn to accept and appreciate yourself with your flaws? This goes back to what I said initially, why let it affect you if people point something out that you don’t like about yourself? If you have truly accepted yourself the way you are, you shouldn’t feel insecure about other people pointing out your flaws. If I upload pictures on social media, there will always be someone saying ‘your eyebrows look ugly’ or ‘your ears look weird’ 'your clothes look stupid', why let words affect me if I am confident with the way I am?

 

Just because some one else says it’s a flaw dosen’t make it an objective statement.
Come on, its all RELATIVE.
Someone who looks “thin” for a person may be “just Okay” for someone else.

 

I prefer being called skinny to being called fat. I prefer being called muscular to being called skinny.

I prefer actually being in shape than any of the above.

 

TBH, you guys need to learn not to give a shit. Just a few decades ago, men our age worried about not getting killed in war, not lose a hand at the factory, or to just get a meal. Today its a big discussion about what words are offensive ...
If this is something you care about while at the same time struggle to find a woman, you got the reason why right there.

 

You're making it out to sound as if this was all we worried about, which isn't true. We were asked wether we like being called skinny or not, we answered. I don't think anyone here is going to have sleepless nights over it or anything like that. Personally I tend to be relatively indifferent towards all kinds of bullshit life or people throw at me, but if someone particularly asks me if I enjoy something, I'm going to take a look at it and answer honestly.

 

I didn't liked being called skinny but now I think i should have stayed skinny.
At 20 (years of age) I weighed 48kg.
Yeah didn't like it. but now I miss it badly. Those days I could eat almost anything and in any quantity. Never had to think twice for anything.

And now, I avoid pizza, cheese, sugar, ice cream, sweets.. almost everything I liked during those times. After full meal I used to eat almost 500gram of ice cream almost everyday during college, didn't think twice before eating entire chicken... awesome days.
and now its all gone..

During those times, I visited a doctor for gaining weight and he said why you are worried, you are healthy and fit. you are running, playing and doing every other thing which a fit person can do. (and I was able to do 5 and 10k runs those times easily). You dont need to look fit to be fit. There are many who appear fit from the look but are having many health problems. You are absolutely fine and then he gave me some mild doses of syrup to increase appetite for a month and thats it, nothing else. and said you dont need it but if you want you can take it. and I didn't take. He was a good doctor. made me understand that this has nothing to do with someone being fit or not.

Now, I look better than I used to be, but I am not as fit as I used to be. I wish I could be same again.

 

Naah.. my weight increased because of the supplements I took.. if weight has increased naturally then it would have been okay..

My suggestion that if you are skinny, then do exercise, eat properly, stay fit... don't go for any protein supplement or carbs supplement or anything artificial.. let your body grow naturally.. eat more .. exercise more.. laugh more... Let your body ne natural... Dont be affected by what people say..