What's your motivation?

Although I've gone weeks in the past without pmo due to travel and general changing life circumstance, this is the first week I've gone without pmo on purpose, and lord knows I've tried many a time in the past. And I can attest to all of your bulletpoints already! Much clearer vision of my anxiety and the thoughts and feelings that lead me to those manic states. My dreams have been wildly interesting... Lil Peep, rest in peace, was like my therapist/spirit animal that guided me through my day while dreaming the other night, and last night I was on an adventure of sorts with two childhood friends I haven't seen in ages.

I'm definitely working out real hard and working my job with a bit more zest than usual, which is fun. And I'm talking with customers and coworkers much more directly, I'm not so damn spaced out all the time which is a blessing.

My real reason for removing PMO from my life is redemption. I've wasted so much valuable time and so much vital energy I could have been both embracing myself and giving out to others to make the world just a bit more connected and a bit less lonely, and it makes me really sick and sad to think about all the wasted potential. And I don't really know how to right my last decade of mostly fucked-off life, but I know if I start with the obvious problems like pmo, drinking alone, ghosting friends and family... Then clarity and balance will work themselves out.

Thanks for the post!

 

I want to break free from this addiction. Everything else gained is an added bonus for me

 

Same. I've been hooked on this garbage for the majority of my life and from the beginning it has done absolutely nothing but fuck me up.

 

This is it. In my opinion this is the only true motivation. Any other "benefit" can't be relied on, they will come and go, and when they go you may end up wondering what the point is. But by abstaining from PMO on a given day you ARE acting as a free man on that day and truely working towards your freedom.

 

seeking greatness is my main motivation.

 

My motivation....
I have relapsed a lot of times during my journey but anyway I felt a gist of what life could be without PORN!!! I am working on myself to live that life.
What else?
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All the best for your journey!!!
Cheers

 

My main goal is to be free of addiction, to be comfortable in my own skin, to be able to look life in the eye and deal with stuff and move forward. To not be a slave, to not give up my life energy to something that only takes and leaves me empty. To be the best version of me, not the 30% battery version on outdated software.

 

this may seems brutal . but i want revenge !!!

i want to life normally and i want to achieve professional success

 

My main motivation is that I finally am aware of how much harm I was causing to my mind, body, and spirit by PMOing, it's been 22 days since I've been away from it and I've already been able to have real sex and (probably) provide myself with real pleasure for the first time. I was pretty determined this time, I think it's been a huge effect of self-love, self-worth, and self-care.

 

To date, PMO has been the largest limiting factor to me progressing in life... The motivation comes with the knowledge that freeing oneself from PMO will no doubt lead to a more fulfilling life. Build it up!

 

I want to get rid of this addiction for several reasons:

• It's an incredible waste of time. Time that I could otherwise use in other activities, or just sleeping or chilling. Sometimes I find myself having dinner at 11pm or later because I spent hours with PMO instead of cooking. Every time that happens I feel really bad, both emotionally and physically (my eyes hurt, I am hungry and thirsty as hell).
• I want to give back sex its proper value. It happened to me to experience ED some times and with different girlfriends and I am totally aware it was because of porn. It was simply awful, especially because I loved them, and they were really hot to me, but apparently for my mind not as charming as porn in those moments. Thankfully it just happened a few times, but this is still a huge concern for me.
• Self-esteem. Every time I spend too much time watching porn, whenever I go out I feel so ashamed. Whenever I try to resist instead, I feel I am more in control of my body and my mind and it's way easier to be around other people. It's also easier to focus on them for real.
  
• Life goals. I know which life I want to live and porn is not part of it. I asked myself: "Whenever you will look back, 10, 20, 30 years from now, will you think it was relevant to quit porn? Will it still matter?" and the answer was: "hell yes."

 

1. Gaining happiness from small things that you do in life. It's something that is important and I had always ignored them before and be more positive
2. I have to clear myself of self-doubt of those things( like PMO among others) that is hindering my concentration overdoing things that I can do. It's not only my career.
3. Be a healthy person and having a good social life is something that I have to gain against social anxieties, shame over my addiction. In other words, I should not let ego get the better of me. I guess I should know more things and I mean all the triggers or issues with urges for porn.

 

I rely on discipline and not motivation as motivation is a fleeting feeling.

Plus having discipline helps is making a strong Pref-Frontal Cortex


peace

 

What is your not motivated to be disciplined? I’m not being a dick, this is something I’ve struggled with my whole life.

 

Look man fuck motivation first of all. As humans it is in our nature to take the path of least resistance. You either experience the pain of regret or the pain of discipline.

Go about your day and whenever you are feeling like giving in and (e.g) procrastinating that chapter for your exam tell yourself consciously that it feels cozy and good to procrastinate but the feeling of satisfaction after finishing an assigned task is way better.

Implement small changes in how you function and keep doing it. It can be as small as cooking at home instead of ordering. Taking showers which are a bit cooler than your normal shower temperature, etc. Keep making these small changes and before you know it, you would have conquered your amygdala.