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LIFE WON’T WAIT: EMBRACE THE PAIN

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by iHappy, Aug 13, 2016.

  1. iHappy

    iHappy Guest

    Your emotions are holding you back.

    What little fuckers, right? Constantly conniving ways to keep you in place, never letting you do what you want to do.

    They don’t give a shit about your ambitions or your dreams. They have no concept of the ticking time bomb that is life as we know it.

    They want comfort.

    They want to keep you stuck in the daily routine you’ve dug yourself in to. They are relentless in their persistent pleading for yet another night of reality TV, junk food and beer; desperately grovelling for a momentary stint of stimulation and an escape from reality.

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    You cave in, of course; prolonging improvement until tomorrow, due to the overbearing draw of emotional satisfaction and comfort.

    And naturally, our brain rationalises our lack of action.

    We’ve been spoon-fed lies about how the world works since birth, so we tell ourselves it does us no harm.

    The ‘everything will turn out for the best‘ speeches we get from our mother. Or the cheesy rom-com films where the fat guy who stalks the beautiful blonde girl finds a genie-in-the-bottle-PUA called Will Smith to whisper every word he needs in his ear to get the girl, without having to spend a single second improving himself as an individual.

    I can’t blame you for believing that bullshit. I fell victim too.

    I thought it would be easy. I was certain that at some point in the future, I’d have everything in place. I thought that as soon as I magically met ‘the one‘ out-of-the-blue, my life would be complete; I’d have a few beautiful children with her, make her my wife, and get a high-paying job to support my family. Life would be sweet.

    But in the words of Biggie Smalls, “it was all a dream..”

    I was living a lie. I would spend my days mastering Call of Duty and annihilating KFC bargain-buckets, patiently awaiting the moment that happiness would graciously befall upon my lap.

    Fuck that. I had a chump-awakening.

    I don’t want to run any more. I don’t want to wait.

    Of course I’d love to have some beautiful children of my own some day, and maybe a wife too. But I don’t want to depend on things turning out a certain way in the future to provide me with happiness. I don’t want to prolong taking action in the hope of something coming along 15 years down the line and making everything OK.

    I want to make progress now, regardless of how I’m feeling or what I’m craving. I don’t want to postpone taking action by ignoring the inevitable pain and struggle which will be required to get to where I actually want to get to.

    I want the mystery. I want the day by day struggle & grind. I want the 0.001% daily improvement. I want to be uncomfortable. I want my life to be a mess. I want to miss out on sleep. I want to pull off all-nighters working on that one entrepreneurial project that could make or break me.

    I want that. My emotions don’t.

    But I don’t really give a fuck what they want any more. I’ve developed a perverted pleasure in the pain.

    I’m fully aware of the real intentions of my emotions. They’re just worried about my safety, which is fine. Good for them. It’s nice that they want to prevent me from doing anything which could cause me discomfort or anxiety. I know it isn’t personal, it’s just what they do.

    But I also know that if I let them dictate my actions and keep waiting for everything to be handed to me on a perfect silver platter, nothing will ever happen.

    So I embrace the inescapable fear, anxiety and apathy which comes from stepping outside of my comfort zone in order to make strides towards my dreams. Because that’s where & when true progress is made; amongst the burning turmoil of emotional instability and pain.

    That’s what will transform the core of who I am, and lead me to places much greater than the magical kingdom I had once dreamt of reaching.

    It’s like hitting the gym. The more I tear down my muscles through a hard session in the gym, the more I will need to work harder outside of the gym through eating healthy and resting.

    But after time, I’ll grow stronger and stronger, bigger and bigger.

    It will be difficult at first. I’ll be weak as fuck. I’ll want to quit. But if I start now and struggle through the physical pain that naturally follows lifting weights, the sooner I will be able to grow stronger and begin enjoying the pain.

    Everyone has to go through the pain, and the sooner you start, the better.

    Everyone.

    You’re not fucking unique.

    There’s nothing holding you back from improving yourself & your lifestyle but your emotional cravings and the bullshit neurological rationalisations that you have been brainwashed with since birth.

    So stop trying to categorize your issues in one little basket which is separate from the rest of the world. Stop searching for excuses of how “I just don’t think I’m ready to start on that project yet, maybe when I have more free time” or “it’s easy for people with money to do big things, they don’t have to work all day like me!

    Stop believing that your little insecurities & problems are just uniquely your own and that everyone else in the world is some emotionally stable D-league superhero. They aren’t.

    We’re all the same. We all have to start at the same level. Everyone is fucking tired and scared. Everyone is weak to begin with. Everyone craves comfort. Everyone wants sit on their ass with one chicken-grease-covered hand on their balls and the other on an Xbox controller.

    There’s no need for a pedestal.

    If you think that just because I run a self-development blog I walk around all day giving high-fives to homeless men and skipping my way to the bank, you’re dead fucking wrong. Nobody is like that. I feel like shit sometimes, just like you. I go through the same emotions everyone else feels; anxiety, apathy, everything. I feel like taking weeks off to do shit all too…

    But I know that I have to get shit done regardless.

    I know that if I wait for everything to be perfect before I step up and put my balls on the table, or wait for everything to ‘turn out for the best‘, I’ll never progress. I know that if I wait for my ‘one true love‘ to come into my life , or that one wisdom-filled mentor to show up on my doorstep, I’ll be waiting a long fucking time to be happy.

    I know that if I don’t start now by embracing the inevitable initial pain, I’ll talk too much shit and never do anything.

    So I hit the off button on my emotional cravings, and that voice inside telling me to take a nap when I know that I have work to do.

    They mean well, but they should really just shut the fuck up.

    I try telling them that life won’t wait, but they never listen… so I don’t listen to them.

    Source: https://ryanpotter93.wordpress.com/2013/12/30/life-wont-wait/


    I rarely use a panic button but today I clicked on it and this is the first thing I got.
    It is kinda the same like the message I tried to convey in my guide, but better written.
    I don't agree with everything he wrote, but the moral of the story is that you will never end this addiction until you do step out of the endless loop.
    You are doing great and enjoying the day count, but once strong emotions show up and you have nowhere to run, you relapse and start over again. This time thinking that you got what it takes and that you will make it to XX days.
    Only to fail once again when negative emotions shows up. And here is the quote from my guide:

     
  2. ps3lol

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    seriously thanks man
     
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  3. MrSalvatore001

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    Found this post at the right time.
    Life is not gonna wait for us.
    The World doesn't give a shit if we get results.
    Everything will go on like it always has.
     

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