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What should I do to become the best version of myself? Which good habits should I have?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Aléxandros, Jun 13, 2020.

  1. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

    I am an Italian teenager, I'm 17 and I discovered Nofap on 3rd November 2019. From that time I focused on self-improvement, along with staying away from porn. My question is: What should I do to become attractive and to be considered as an alpha? What should I do to become the real best version of myself? Which good habits should I have? It is time to become a real man, I am almost 18, I want to become mature and to be considered such.
     
  2. r8js

    r8js Fapstronaut

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    Reading,
    Writing diary daily ,
    Learning multiple laugauges,
    Exercises,
    Learn sportmanship.,
    Following healthy lifestyle,
    Promoting positive things,
    Learning about nature scuence,
     
  3. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

    How could I write a diary daily? What should I write on it? Then, what is sportsmanship?
     
  4. whitehawk

    whitehawk Fapstronaut

    Ciao ilcec, I am Italian as well! :)
    I'll obviously write in English though, it would be disrespectful towards other users otherwise.

    By the way, here's my take on it:

    I personally think that everything in life rotates around a single concept: meaning.
    You already have the mindset on self-improvement, and that's great. Try to ask yourself more specific questions now: instead of asking "Which good habits should I have?", ask "Which good habits reflect me better as a person?".

    1) Delineate which kind of person you want to be. How you want to live your life. Describe it. Put details in it. Dream big. Goals are important because they will give you a direction, and they influence the way in which you approach life. Then translate your goals into small pieces, something realistic, doable. Something that you can commit to on a daily basis. Small but frequent steps can bring you a very long way - and they will require less sacrifice. I would like to suggest you this (unfortunately it's not free though).

    2) Once you have decided your goal, in order to stick with your plan remember to reward yourself for it, from time to time.

    3) Don't spend too much time in the comfort zone.

    And remember: be always kind to yourself - which doesn't mean to be permissive. It means: monitor the quality of your inner speech. Everyone has flaws, everyone makes mistakes, don't condemn yourself for them - learn from them instead.

    The more true you are to yourself, the happier you become. The happier you become, the more those around you will benefit from it too - which also means, in other words, to become more attractive.
     
  5. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

  6. lolos

    lolos Fapstronaut

    Heres something you don't see talked about here a lot. Most people focus on external habits like reading, sleeping, eating, lifting etc. Internal habits are overlooked. By internal habits I mean ways of thinking and responding to situations. It is important to assess your own mindset and how that may be holding you back.
     
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  7. i came across this video and it changed my life. Hope this helps :

     
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  8. That is very awesome ! and it is totally possible ! you can definitely do it my friend.
     
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  9. Lufaro

    Lufaro Fapstronaut

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    I'am italian too, I want to tell you don't think about a scheme to be a real man or an "alpha". Alpha doesn't mean nothing, it's just a mental building. Don't lost time for being in this concept.

    Study, read, workout, be honest. Those things'll make you a man.
     
  10. Lufaro

    Lufaro Fapstronaut

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    I'm italian too, good message.
    It's wonderful to find people whom come from my country. :)
     
  11. whitehawk

    whitehawk Fapstronaut

    Hey @Lufaro, thanks! Yes you're right. Keep it up! :)
     
  12. lolos

    lolos Fapstronaut

    Its going to be different for everyone, and its something you have to figure out for yourself
     
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