The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Good luck brother and Keep fighting mighty Uruk-Hai!!!!

 

yes, just like recovery alcoholics can have a hard time drinking non alcoholic beer because of the association effect, for us masturbation is the same thing, engaging in simple masturbation can be a first step into masturbation to "something". The connection for us is very strong and probably will never be broken. plus masturbation withdraws energy from the body and mind so it´s better to refrain from masturbation and keep the energy to build an amazing life

 

excellent brother. are you feeling allright now?

 

Hello brother!! The Fellowship welcomes you to it´s ranks

Now get out of the rain and enter old Bree, dear Hobbit

 

Cold showers bro, works like a charm

 

"And my axe!!!" Welcome to Middle Earth brother, let´s do this!!!!!!!!

 

Sleep tight brother. And don´t make a fire

 

of course you´re ok brother . the problem is your search for lust. why engage in such activities? don´t go fishing for that, because someday, sometime, the fish will grab the hook and pull you under water.

don´t test the waters bro, the fish is much stronger than you.

stay away from all kinds of lust: images, sounds, literature... anything. it´s the best, safest and strongest way.

 

Excellent brother. Keep fighting!!!!

 

your mindset is right brother, that´s what matters . now you just got to refine your methods until the actions are equal to the mindset . Let´s go!!!!

 

One more day of walking dear Fellowship.

Let´s welcome our new members:

@stopper
@Ciceron

Have a great day my brothers . Love you all

Here´s a powerful message from JK Emezi:

"Brother,
I'm going to show you how to deal with grief, fear, depression and loss you may be dealing with due to the Coronavirus.

It was all novel, slightly disturbing and scary when when cities went into lockdown two months ago.

You had your worries, but you knew better than to give in to fear and get paralyzed. You stayed optimistic about life.

Now, however, s**t is starting to get real.

Bad habits are starting to form. You’re starting to slack on your home workouts.

You’re eating too damn much and you’re putting on weight.

Your phone usage has skyrocketed.

But most of all, you’re starting to feel a little down…starting to miss life as it used to be. Its beginning to take its toll.

Many men are experiencing trauma and loss during these unprecedented times…and don’t even know it!

A traumatic event is any event that causes physical or emotional harm to a person directly or through seeing it happen to other people.

What are you seeing or experiencing happening to other people that is causing you emotional harm?

People losing their jobs?

People dying?

These things happen everyday…so why are you affected more this time?

Here are are some statistical realities: Coronavirus, cancer, influenza, and car accidents will each kill tens of thousands of people this year.

606,520 Americans will die of cancer in 2020
80,000 Americans died of the flu in 2018
38,000 Americans died from car accidents in 2019
67,300 Americans died from drug overdoses 2018

The reason why coronavirus is traumatic for a wider swath of people because we are ALL seeing it ALL DAY via the news and social media.


How to deal with loss, fear, grief and depression during the Coronavirus lockdown.

1) Accept your feelings without judgement: You aren’t weak for feeling fear and anxiety.You aren’t lazy because you find it challenging to stick to your home workout plan. Accept that this is an unusual situation and all unprecedented situations have an initially tough learning period. You’re going through that- and its o.k.


2) Identify the losses you are experiencing or thoughts you are having that are triggering those feelings: Are you have a persistent thought such as fearing for the survival of your industry? Worried about dating, your sex life or your relationship?

Do you have a loved one who is far away whom you are unable to care for due to the lockdown?

Identify the thought and put pen to paper. Stop it from running around your mind unattended.

3) Ensure you are using fact-based reasoning: With the media running full steam ahead with all sorts of information- from gossip to rumors to ever changing statistics, reports and studies, its easy to cherry pick the information that is most conducive to our state of mind. If you are feeling negative, angry and worried- you’ll naturally filter out all positive information and focus on the negative. If you are feeling hopeful and optimistic for the future, you’ll gravitate towards information which supports those emotions…even if its wrong.
Unfortunately, in both cases, wrong information leads to disappointment and pain.Information based on facts allows you to make rational decisions about your present and future. In fact, if you can’t make rational decisions about your present condition, it may be best to let go of the news, create a best case and worst case scenario for yourself, and make your decisions regarding the current times from there.

4) How at risk are you and your loved ones of getting sick, of financial instability, homelessness:
Evaluate your real risk. Perhaps you are already prone to illness and disease due to your lifestyle and habits. You may be well off financially, but things could become a struggle if your business doesn’t pick up in the next few months.Understanding risk is not a cause for fear. Its instead an opportunity to determine the most critical next steps to take.


5) What resources are available to you: Do you have access to unemployment, loans, mental health support groups, free accountability groups?
Take the time to brainstorm what resources are available to you. You’ll be surprised how much you’ve ignored which could help you.

6) Identify any past issues this situation might be triggering:
Some men might be triggered by the lack of control or feeling of restriction. The current coronavirus situation may have triggered a past issue which is now affecting you emotionally. Identify it- pen to paper as usual.

7) Identify the reactions you are having and address them individually:
Is your fear and uncertainty causing you to watch more pornography?
Is anxiety causing you to break boundaries, eat more, and binge on news or Netflix?
Your behavior is never "random". Take a few moments to identify why you react a certain way.

8) Be compassionate with yourself:
This simply means that you should be kind with yourself. Be willing to help yourself as opposed to being self-critical and hating yourself. Hating any aspect of yourself is not the way to change it. You may be unable to move past your porn addiction because your hate for that aspect of yourself is too great. Your situation is neither “bad” nor “good”. It just is.

9) Each time you have a thought about something you can’t do, identify what you can do instead:

“ I can’t stop breaking boundaries on my laptop to watch porn.”

Solution: Download Covenant Eyes (www.covenanteyes.com) and get an accountability partner from our free group. You can use the code” REBOOT1’ for your first month free with the app.
Your accountability partner will be notified anytime you try to view pornography.

“I can’t stop masturbating to porn early in the morning while I lay in bed”

Solution: Place your phone across the room next to a glass of water. Set and alarm for when you want to wake up in the morning. When your alarm goes off, get up, walk across the run, turn off the alarm and drink the entire glass of water. This jumpstarts your metabolism and make it less likely that you’ll return to bed.

In the end brothers, coronavirus has caused thousands of men to experience loss, trauma, fear and grief. To get through this period, you must use the steps above to regain control and find answers for YOURSELF.

You have probably noticed that looking to the news or social media doesn’t help.I encourage you to learn to look to yourself more for the answers, as they are quite literally within you.

At the end of the day, one of the values of Porn Reboot is understanding that our clients are the best experts at themselves. This is a fact. Our role is to simply guide you towards that realization.
Your brother in this struggle,
J.K Emezi"