[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

GLIMPSE OF DAY 5
MISTAKES:-
< i activated safesearch on all google domains and i checked that the safesearch is working or not so i seached porn to check and it was blocked on google but it was not blocked on youtube so a kissing videos of pornstars came in front of me and i clicked on them ,,, i regret it the most , i shouldn't had done that

<checked the authentication of parental control and searched for explicit videos
<didn't studied well today
<wasted 1 hr of day in surfing
< didn't woke up on time

improvements:-
< made balance in the dopamine levels of the body didn't overwatch kota factory on youtube

PROMISE TO MYSELF:-
< i will never ever search for any type of explicit video for any reason
< i will wake early tommorow and will do meditation
< i will no waste any of the time tommorrow and will fully concentrate on studies tommorrow
< i will also read atomic habits tommorrow
< will make the ncert hack of the chapter biodiversity
< will do the ques of mole concept from pedagogy


guys please give me some tips that how i can control the urges as i had almost up to break my streak,,,please give me some tips that how i can control my urges and how can i tackle them for now i have watched the kissing videos of few pornstars so tommorow i willl be facing many urges and i will beat all of them so i nedd help for the preparation for tommorow

those who don't know what happend today then read this :-'''''''BIG MISTAKE
I ENABLED THE SAFESEACH FOR MY BROWSER AND I GOT TO CHECK THE EXPLICIT CONTENT IS BLOCKED OR NOT , YUP ALL THE FAPPING CONTENT WERE BLOCKED ON GOOGLE DOMAINS BUT WHEN I CHECKED YOUTUBE THEY WENE NOT BLOCKED AND I WATCHED SOME NORMAL KISSING AND ROMANTIC VIDEOS OF PORNSTARS , THEY WERE VERY INSTIGATING , I DID IT UNINTESIONALLY AND NOW LOTS OF BAD THOUGHTS ARE COMING IN MY MIND AND URGES ARE ALSO STRIKING ME , WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW, I AM PROMISING TO MYSELF THAT I WILL NOT CHECK THAT THE PARENTAL CONTROL IS WORKING OR NOT AND WILL NOT SEARCH FOR FAP VIDEOS AGAIN EVER IN ANY CASE... GUYS PLEASE HELP ME THAT WHAT SHOULD I DO KNOW , I AM FEEELING VERY LOW AND SCENES OF THOSE VIDEOS ARE FLASHING IN FRONTR OF ME AGAIN AND AGAIN,,,, ALSO RECOMMEND ME THE PERMANENT SOLUTION TO BLOCK ALLL THE EXPLICIT AND SEXUAL CONTENT ON YOUTUBE ,, PLEASE HELP ME''''

 

Hey @Merry Terry I think it's really good that you are taking the time to very clearly define your motivation for quitting porn. My one thought with your written reason is that it centers on the negative effects of porn instead of on the positive reality you are going to create. In other words, I think your focus should be on what you ARE going to be and let quitting porn be a side goal. So, for example, your written goal might look something more like this:

"I believe at my core that I am a powerful and valuable person. I believe that the choices I make and the actions I take will define the reality I live in for the rest of my life. I believe those choices and actions can produce great worth for myself and for the important people around me and for the world. This is my goal: to be a MAN OF ACTION who brings good into the world for himself and for others. Additionally, I recognize that using pornography is a waste of all that beauty and talent I possess (and a hindrance to producing good), so I'm not going to use it."

Ultimately, this helps us stay focused on the vision we want to fulfill and the positive outcome we want to achieve.

Let moving TOWARDS the positive always be central and moving AWAY from the negative always be peripheral.

Positive = Man of Action (or however you frame it!)

Negative = Porn (which is really only negative because it doesn't support our positive goal)

Hope this helps!

 

Hey @crazyhorse11 I don't think this counts as a relapse. I believe the term for what you did is called "fishing." This is where you hop on to the internet and start searching for "harmless" videos, but somewhere in you knowing you're hoping for a hit of something exciting. I've done this many times.

You are correct, this is the exact opposite of what you should be doing. Fishing is extremely dangerous to your streak and (in my experience) will almost always lead to a relapse. The simple reason is that once you're doing that it's clear that some part of you is actually TRYING to find something pornographic (or least sexually stimulating) and you are acting on that impulse. If enough of you is in agreement with acting on that impulse you will eventually build up enough pressure to do a full PMO session.

The fact that you decided to stop yourself before even clicking on any of the videos is why I'd say you did not relapse. If you intentionally chose to watch a porn video (or something sexual enough that it's practically porn) then I'd say it's a relapse.

Don't reset your counter and definitely DON'T do any searches like that again. You were lucky to have enough willpower to not click on those videos. Make a habit of fishing like that and eventually it'll happen when you're not strong enough to resist and you'll relapse. Trust me, no good comes from "harmless" searches about sexual things when you're on a nofap streak.

Stay strong brother! You're asking the right questions!

 

bro please guide me too, i have posted my todays journal too

 

9/90

Already 10%. I'm finding this time it's better to not focus too much on the numbers or the streak. It's a good daily habit, but the time passes much quicker when I devote most of my attention to the things I'm trying to build with my life.

I bet this also helps with fighting urges, as I am constantly putting something good in front of me to think about (as opposed to just sitting around thinking about how much I want to look at porn).

I'm so grateful for this community! Someone else noted that there are SO many more high-level streaks going here than there have been in the past. I was on here about 2 years ago and there just weren't as many people achieving this much success at the same time. Something really great is happening here! There's so much momentum around this. Now is definitely a good time to beat porn and lay hold of your life the way you were meant to!

 

1/90

 

11/90. Went on instagram today on purpose for the first time since my start. Bad idea. Nothing happened but looking at girls trying to show off certainly doesn't help rebooting. Felt kind of bad, so I made up for it by working a bit harder. Feel satisfied now.

 

Try working out bro! Or simply go out for a walk. Empty the head, that's the way to go. I promise it will help.

 

Whatever precautions you take, you will inevitably run in to some sexual content on the internet as well as in real life. You can install all sorts of content blockers but some stuff will slip through. And you can't block out a sexy advertisement on the side of a building, right? You have to find a way to deal with it.

I've had a similar experience where I would get these images before my eyes of a woman I saw in a shop, restaurant or of some P actress that I watched in the past. They come and they go, like random memories popping up. I guess it's your brain trying to adapt to this new PMO free situation.

I would recommend that you think about what kind of things you can do that replace PMO. Things like light exercise, meditation, reading, going for a walk or a drive. Just realize that watching YouTube, Netflix and playing video games are not great alternatives because they can be very addictive themselves.

 

No one else can tell you if this or that is a valid reason for quitting PMO, it's 100% your call.

I do agree with @Timothy_James however that rephrasing this to be a positive rather than a negative motivation makes sense.

In stead of using words like "worthless and powerless" why not put it something like "I want to quit PMO because it is harmful and I am worthy of better treatment from myself".

 

Checking in on day 65/90

 

Day 62 of 90 complete! (No P)

 

47/90!

 

Day 31/90, for yesterday.

 

day 0
congrats @testwarz , @MrHouse, @ujjing !!!

 

Day 6!
I’m still in with you, guys.
I know that the first days are easy for me: the serious part will begin when I come closer to day 14, because this is the time I am going to get temptations...
However, I’m sure that, with your help and my commitment to you, I will succeed.

Have a nice day, all of you.

 

Day 12!
I have a Bat Mizvah!

 

Day 6/90
Total clean days - 20
Total relapses - 5
Total hours remaining - 2016

I started feeling urges from today. I picked up book to read to kill my boredom. So far it is good I started listening to audiobook of children's and it is good everytime I feel I am bored I listen to stories and close my eyes to imagine. It is great when I don't get sleep at night I listen to audiobook until I get sleepy rather watching videos. I feel I can do it this time as all the stars are aligned for me.

 

Stay strong friend as I also watched porn and broke my promise again and again. It's is frustrating to relapse and start again and again. My advice to you is don't thing about it all day. And never search for porn and touch porn block add this as rule 1 as this thing make you do a relapse.

 

I am in. Day 0