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Tired of saying this is the last time

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Jun 21, 2020.

  1. I have said to myself so many times that "this is the last time" with masturbating. I have watched so many NoFap youtube videos and want to see the results however maybe a week goes by and here I am again jacking off, I don't necessarily watch porn but I do use my imagination and pleasure myself, does anyone else relate. I feel so damn guilty afterwards and lose self respect because I want to stop. I never realized I was addicted until I tried to stop. My excuse? Well if I was actually having sex with a girl I would bust so its like the same thing. How pathetic huh? I have finally joined the NoFap community to get help and express my feelings instead of trying to face this by myself and in the dark. My goal is 60 days NoFap, any advice anyone, thanks and wish me luck.
     
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  2. I've watched those videos as well. And they are great, but they are not going to babysit you, are they?
    I honestly have no problem with masturbation, but if a person believes it has become a problem, then, okay, it is a problem.
    I see words like "guilty," "pathetic," and loss of "self respect" in your post. What I don't see is anything about you being so damn horny that you cannot stop masturbating. And I don't really believe being horny has much to do with jacking off. You're anxious, you have a boner, you jack off. You can't sleep, you have a boner, you jack off. Work sucked today, you can't let it go, you jack off. Then, you feel shitty because you haven't solved anything. And around and around.
    First, dump the porn 100%. No porn subs, no peeking. Nothing. Porn will rob you of your soul and more. If you can do that, you'll learn to get the jacking off under control.
    There is no magic bullet. 60 days is a nice number to aim for. You can probably do it. But then, so what? It's not enough.
    What is stopping you? I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but this is how I tend to speak to guys who are in their teens or 20s - you are the luckiest guys in the world but you don't know it. I don't want you to wake up someday when you are 30, 40, or 50, and say, "Oh, man, porn and jacking off has messed up my life. I have to stop!"
    Stop today. No excuses.
     
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  3. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    Welcome, just keep reading and keep posting. It's an ongoing dialogue, we would need to gradually get to know you and your situation and more specific advice would just naturally come out of that. Some of the older posts might be worth reading and searching if you have a specific question, a lot of times the same question has already been asked.

    So what's your plan to reach the 60 day goal?
     
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  4. Don’t be so harsh on yourself. Everyone has their imaginations. Let it speak because in a real relationship, you are going to have the challenge of sharing that with your future spouse and then listening to your spouse’s imagination as well. The urge you get, that’s energy. Channel it to something you do for a hobby. For example, running or sports.

    Hope it helps, Stay Strong
     
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  5. Exactly, I think people who aren't part of this community find it impossible to quit, but when you come into these forums everyday for little while, you little by little reprogram your subconsious mind to think porn is bad or something very similar.
     
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  6. After failing the 10+ time trust me I was tired too. I guess we all thought that at some point. I recommend you read "Your brain on porn", since it's better than any video could ever be. Good luck brother!
     
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  7. wow thanks everyone for the feedback, just reading this lifted weight off my shoulders. I have a much better outlook on this now with a community like this. A simple plan to reach my goal is to focus day by day and read these forums daily for a bit because just reading and talking about it helps my mind ease. Take care everyone I'll keep you updated
     
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  8. Can't wait for your updates!
     
  9. CodeTalker

    CodeTalker Fapstronaut

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    I don’t think « this is the last time » anymore. As much as I hate it, it is a process that takes time. I try to do it one day at a time.
     

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