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TheEjaculator23 · Mar 5, 2015

Man... Awesome post. This should be in a success story!

thedaring9 · Mar 5, 2015

Despite using the f words, its all good to emphasise.

Discipline, not motivation. Thank you for pointing that out. In fact, Im sticking that word somewhere to see it every day =)

IGY · Mar 8, 2015

Pyramid said: ↑

Motivation is a fickle and unreliable little bitch and isn't worth your time. It's better to cultivate discipline than rely on motivation. Force yourself to do things. Force yourself to get up out of bed and get to work. For yourself to change. Motivation is fleeting and it's easy to rely on because it requires no concentrated effort to get. Motivation comes to you - you don't even have to chase after it.

Disciple is reliable, motivation if fleeting. The question isn't how to maintain your motivation. It's how to train yourself to work without it.
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Why does it have to be one or the other Pyramid? Motivation and discipline are not mutually exclusive. Neither does motivation "come to you".

nofap3505 · Mar 9, 2015

goodjob buddy

Dan McKnight · May 8, 2015

Pyramid said: ↑

Last night I got a drink with a close friend of mine. Not just close friend -- one of my best friends. I have always been close with her, for many years. We experimented sexually with each other about a year ago, and despite the risks, we remained good friends.

Last night, she opened up to me. And I, I opened up with her, too. She looked in my eyes and told me that something has changed about me. Maybe it was the eye contact I held or the deep interest I showed in her life, but why?

Here's why: I wasn't focused on fucking her. I wasn't focused on "How can I turn this conversation into something sexual and stimulating?" Last night, I viewed this girl as an amazing human being with some of the most insanely beautiful thoughts, such an amazing disposition, and it occurred to me: is this what I have been missing all my life?

When you give up porn, masturbation, and even the fucking THOUGHT of those entities, your brain and your emotions and feelings are able to FINALLY express themselves. I consider myself to be a manly man who takes no shit from nobody. I hit the gym hard, work my ass off, and do what's right, morally. But something was always suppressed when I let my addiction dictate where I allocated my sexual energy.

Last night, I gained a huge insight that I want you to contemplate: Giving up your addiction is more than just ridding yourself of an unwanted feature. What nobody talks about is not what you lose, but what you gain. Sure, you lose the addiction. But what you gain is far more important. You gain an insight into yourself. You gain an opportunity to connect with people on a higher motherfucking level. You gain a solace and peace about yourself. You gain muscle in the gym. You gain endurance when you're studying or working. You gain friendships that are based off humanism and quality.

So how do you keep yourself motivated to continue? Allow me to paraphrase something I once read:

Fuck motivation.

Motivation is a fickle and unreliable little bitch and isn't worth your time. It's better to cultivate discipline than rely on motivation. Force yourself to do things. Force yourself to get up out of bed and get to work. For yourself to change. Motivation is fleeting and it's easy to rely on because it requires no concentrated effort to get. Motivation comes to you - you don't even have to chase after it.

Disciple is reliable, motivation if fleeting. The question isn't how to maintain your motivation. It's how to train yourself to work without it.
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Great post my friend. I too find that the times when i'm actively in recovery that I begin to have a new relationship with myself and I have an greater attuned, disciplined manner of living MY life.
You have articulated well the changes in the way we relate to others. I look forward to reading more of your insights and progress.

Dizzy Lotus · May 8, 2015

I really liked most of your post, but can't relate with the last part. I've tried to force myself to do things for a really long time, but it only brought me deeper into depression and it did bad to other people as well.
But oh well, the trueness of your post probably just differs from person to person. For some people it might work, for some people it might make it worse.

pickycat · May 11, 2015

Heck, to the, yea.
Truth man. Discipline is very important

revital · May 25, 2015

Love it! Every word of it.

Musta · May 25, 2015

There are so many awesome things here. Great thread and big comments, thanks to all ...

The 1000 Water Fists · May 25, 2015

Well said.

MightyKC · May 25, 2015

I just printed out the "Fuck motivation" part and taped it to the cabinet over my monitor where I'll see it.

Ok, now I'm getting back to work because the only reason I came back on NoFap right now is because I'm procrastinating.

Good Show, Sir!

Many · May 25, 2015

That's what I want, "to connect with people on a higher motherfucking level".
You rock.

Adam33 · Jun 5, 2015

Fantastic man.
Truly fantastic.

KaiserKhan786 · Jun 5, 2015

nice post

Jeremiah Oakley · Jun 6, 2015

Pyramid said: ↑

Last night I got a drink with a close friend of mine. Not just close friend -- one of my best friends. I have always been close with her, for many years. We experimented sexually with each other about a year ago, and despite the risks, we remained good friends.

Last night, she opened up to me. And I, I opened up with her, too. She looked in my eyes and told me that something has changed about me. Maybe it was the eye contact I held or the deep interest I showed in her life, but why?

Here's why: I wasn't focused on fucking her. I wasn't focused on "How can I turn this conversation into something sexual and stimulating?" Last night, I viewed this girl as an amazing human being with some of the most insanely beautiful thoughts, such an amazing disposition, and it occurred to me: is this what I have been missing all my life?

When you give up porn, masturbation, and even the fucking THOUGHT of those entities, your brain and your emotions and feelings are able to FINALLY express themselves. I consider myself to be a manly man who takes no shit from nobody. I hit the gym hard, work my ass off, and do what's right, morally. But something was always suppressed when I let my addiction dictate where I allocated my sexual energy.

Last night, I gained a huge insight that I want you to contemplate: Giving up your addiction is more than just ridding yourself of an unwanted feature. What nobody talks about is not what you lose, but what you gain. Sure, you lose the addiction. But what you gain is far more important. You gain an insight into yourself. You gain an opportunity to connect with people on a higher motherfucking level. You gain a solace and peace about yourself. You gain muscle in the gym. You gain endurance when you're studying or working. You gain friendships that are based off humanism and quality.

So how do you keep yourself motivated to continue? Allow me to paraphrase something I once read:

Fuck motivation.

Motivation is a fickle and unreliable little bitch and isn't worth your time. It's better to cultivate discipline than rely on motivation. Force yourself to do things. Force yourself to get up out of bed and get to work. For yourself to change. Motivation is fleeting and it's easy to rely on because it requires no concentrated effort to get. Motivation comes to you - you don't even have to chase after it.

Disciple is reliable, motivation if fleeting. The question isn't how to maintain your motivation. It's how to train yourself to work without it.
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This right here man.... This is the truth.

lifeistooshort · Jun 8, 2015

this was a refreshing reminder! thanks so much for sharing!

Hoshea · Jun 9, 2015

Pyramid said: ↑

Fuck motivation.
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Thanks for posting all of this, Man.

male1221 · Jun 10, 2015

Your post clearly reflects your new found self and success. And love the way you've put it here, I am clearly influenced by it. Have been addicted to PMO for years and today is my 4th day of NoFap (and the longest I have abstained). I can clearly visualise what you mean when you write what you have, and the complete change in your mind set. Its possible for everyone to achieve it, but the key is that...we all have to go through that journey ourselves

Ramausse · Jun 21, 2015

It was the best post I have read here. Shit I really know what I want and I'll make it real ! I will keep your message in my mobile phone, like this, when I'll feel far from my goals I'll read your text and take the slap I need. Thank you

Mr_Annon · Jun 22, 2015

Congrats! Thanks for sharing can't wait till I get to that day when I BEAT the addiction, I will no matter what!

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