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I overcame PE… now I am offering to help

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by pe help, May 20, 2020.

  1. pe help

    pe help Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys… first things first: English is not my mother tongue so do not expect some Oxford like grammar and vocabulary.

    Another quick note: I am not into nofap since I don´t have a porn addiction. I rarely watch porn but I love to masturbate. But since I saw lots of users have premature ejaculation I want to share my story: I lost my virginity when I was 19 years old to a model type girl… here is how it went:

    After dinner I brought her back to my room. We took our clothes of and started kissing and then more kissing. After some more kissing (I had no idea what to do next) she looked at me and asked me if I was nervous (I never told her this was my first time). Obviously I told her that I am not nervous that I just like to take it slow and let the tension build up (yeaahh I am quite witty at times :p). So after some more clueless kissing she got bored and asked if I want her to suck my dick… hell yeah! So she starts to move her head down… grabs my cock and wants to stick it in her mouth. By the time she did, she was sucking up the last drops of my cum… that was fast! I used the classic excuse: ´´Fuck! This never happens to me… it´s just that you make me so horny´´ (yeah right…)

    Long story short, we tried 2 more times but I always busted my load before anything happened so I ended up like the girl in one of those german gangbang videos… while she ended up horny and desperate.

    That is when my journey started. I read every book and article out there on PE and I even bought a Fleshlight to do some practice sessions… I implemented all I had learned for 2 weeks before bringing this girl back. This was going to be it!... Pornstar like performance! … So she came over and I somehow transformed into Jim from American Pie (first movie)… yep! I came right there in my pants.

    These first experiences fucked up all my sexual confidence… I could get the girls but I was so afraid to have sex with them that I would avoid the lovemaking if I could so I would not end up being remembered as minuteman (I had PE even in my wet dreams..wtf :p).

    After some years of beautiful girls leaving me to be fucked hard by some other dude (pretty humiliating shit) I decided to solve this problem once and for all.

    After some more reading, studying and lots of trial and error I finally managed to get over this shit! I can last as long as I want… not every time with a pornstar like performance (but no girl wants 40 minutes of hardcore fucking, trust me…) but if I want I can pace myself to last forever. So technically I can cum whenever I want and that´s a good skill to have in bed.

    I will not be posting what worked for me because EVERY case is different! You need to learn how your body works and how you can hack it!

    However, since I know how frustrating and humiliating this shit can be, I want to offer myself to help those who need it.

    But again, I will not be posting my routine here because everybody needs a personalized one. I know this from teaching a couple of guys who asked me if I could help them.

    What I want to offer you guys is my guidance:

    If you are lost and don´t know where to start or if you have been trying it all and nothing seems to work please feel free to PM me to get to know you better... maybe I can help you progress.

    IF YOU ARE ON NOFAP, PLEASE COMPLETE YOUR PROCESS AND CONTACT ME ONLY IF YOUR PE PERSISTS. I say this because you will need to masturbate in order to get to know your body.

    Hope to speak to some of you guys soon… peace!
     
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  3. BecamingBest

    BecamingBest Fapstronaut

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    I got PE because of masturbation and porn, I always tried to finish as soon as possible cause I didn't want to get caught. My masturbation sessions was for just a few minutes. I created a pattern in my brain that I needed to ejaculate quickly when making love. I

    1) Have you been to a doctor because of your PE? What did he say?

    I haven’t, as I live with my parents and I live far from the city it wasn’t possible.


    2) Have you always suffered from PE?

    Yes.

    3) How often do you masturbate?

    When I masturbated usually it was 2 times a day, sometimes 3 times a day. Right now I’m doing nofap for 67 days and I’m not masturbating or looking at porn at all.

    4) How long on average do you masturbate?

    I masturbated for 10 years.

    5) Describe your typical masturbating ritual (setup, location, if porn which porn). Important to answer: 1. Do you use lube? 2. What grip pressure and speed do you use? 3. If you stop sometimes to last longer when do you stop? 4. Do you change positions when masturbating? Describe as detailed as possible

    I used to masturbate 3 times a day, usually with porn, and I most of the times tried to ejaculate asap because I didn't want to get caught by my parents, maybe this is the root of my PE. I changed positions, and sometimes I tried to last longer, when I was getting close to the point of no return I stopped. There were some times when I masturbated for more than 1 hour. But most of the times I didn’t care about trying to last long during masturbation sessions.

    6) How long are your sex sessions on average (including forplay)?

    10 minutes

    7) How long can you penetrate a girl on average?

    So, most of the time 30 seconds, but there was one time that as soon as my penis touched her and I tried to penetrate her I wanted to ejaculate, so I pulled back, and took a big breath and tried again and I could penetrate her for 2 minutes but I was doing it on slow motion.

    8) How often are you having sex right now?

    I had sex with penetration just 5 times, and oral I had probably 10 times. I’m very unmotivated to have sex because of this problem.

    9) Describe your best sexual encounter so far. Why is it the best and how long did you last? Where you under the influence of alcohol, drugs or medication?

    I've never used drugs and drink alcohol. The best encounter I had was when I was having sex with a girl and I ejaculate very quickly, like 1 minute, but I was able to continue with another condom and the second shot lasted for 20 minutes and I didn't ejaculate at all. It was so great to be able do last so long and don't feel like I needed to ejaculate. If I ejaculate 1 time, the second it's very hard to happen.


    10) Do you exercise physically? Explain a bit what you do (which cardio, which weightlifting exercises).

    I did some exercises but it wasn't continuous, I went to gym and did some exercises like 4 months and then I stopped for 6 months. As I live very far from the gym it's very hard for me to go there. At the moment I'm not doing any exercise at all.

    11) Do you feel like you have a good erection quality?

    My erections are pretty good, this is not a problem for me. I think it’s so good that sometimes I think it’s making my penis want to ejaculate soon.

    12) Do you think you have a sensitive dick?

    Yah, I think my dick is very sensitive because sometimes it’s very easy to get at the point of no return and it takes just to put my hand on my dick to ejaculate.

    13) Does it hurt if you clean your glans under the shower, if the water jet hits your glans directly?

    No, it doesn't. I don't feel any discomfort.

    14) Do you experience pain in your groin, feel like you have to pee a lot or get a feeling of not emptying your blatter fully?

    Sometimes when I pee I feel that it’s not fully emptied, but I don’t experience any pain.

    15) Do you have bad posture? Does your belly stand out?

    My posture is good, and when I notice it’s not good I try to correct it.

    16) Do you have lower back pain?

    No, I haven't.

    17) Do you feel very sensitive at the PONR even when your BC feels relaxed? It can feel like you have to pee when you touch your glans at your PONR…

    I’m very sensitive, I get hard very quickly and it turns me on.

    18) Do you notice a lot of precum shortly after beginning to masturbate?

    If I’m watching porn or having an excited conversation with a girl before masturbating, yah, I notice some precum.

    19) Do you feel like you sometimes cum without any resistance (without much muscle tension) or even without having an orgasm?

    Sometimes, but usually when I’m about to cum I feel that my pc muscle is very tense. I did some kegel exercises do make my pc muscle stronger, and I think that made it worse. When I’m about to cum it’s impossible to maintain my pc muscle relaxed.

    20) Do you feel like you use your BC muscle to get an erection?

    Sometimes I feel that when getting an erection my bc muscle is very tense and I make some contractions. Most of the times is not intentional.


    21) Do you feel involuntary kegels (involuntary contractions of your BC muscle) during the day?

    Well, sometimes when I’m lying on bed sleeping on my stomach, I feel some involuntary contractions, mainly if I have an erection.

    22) When you touch your dick while it´s soft, does your BC contract?

    Sometimes, and yes, it contract.

    23) Do you think the BC muscle is the main reason for your PE?

    It’s hard to tell, but I think that not maintain this muscle relaxed can be a problem.

    24) What have you tried to overcome your PE so far (medication, creams, pills, training, kegels, reverse kegels, etc.)? Explain everything you have tried, for how long you tried it and what results you got from it.

    I haven’t tried any medication, just those exercises to tight my pelvic floor muscles, holding the contraction for four seconds, and then relax for two seconds. I tried also some things like using those condoms to last longer, I tried some breathing exercises, I tried to think in other things to make my desire to ejaculate go away, I tried to masturbate for 20 days for 1 hour, I tried many things. But nothing worked. So I decided to try nofap. I'm on nofap for 73 days now. Hoping it will help my case.
     

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