Don't look for other people with similar issues.

Deleted Account · Jun 19, 2020

I know a lot of people who obviously want to know what the heck is happening with them. Mixed up sexuality, filled with guilt, doing wrong things, etc etc. And you tend to look for people doing the same things as you so that you can relate to someone. I totally get it guys, but we need to stop doing that. I'll tell you the reason. You have to break out of your loop and by reading similar things, you aint doing that. Ask yourself, if you manage to overcome this problem, will you ever want to think about it again? No you wouldn't. So why would some person come back here after his problem is solved. He wouldn't. I personally wouldn't.
I do not want to offend anybody but there is so much crap and negativity out here. Someone who hasn't even thought of things, will get to know so much more that it might exaggerate his problem. Best is to bury your problem and let yourself heal from all the garbage you've been putting inside. You are not what you're coming out as, and you aren't the person you're fearing to become. Take it from me, I have had Self Doubt over my sexual preference, I had sexual OCD, I feared about being someone I don't want to be. I have seen it all.
And if you wanna get out this, you should remove it from your day to day lifestyle now. People who think they've turned gay, people who think they're cuckolds, people who think they've turned sissy. I'm being honest with you, here's what my therapist told me, people like those DO NOT see a problem in themselves like we do. They don't have depression and anxiety like us. Most importantly, they DO NOT want to change either because they're content with themselves. Im sure everybody out here trying to get rid of a fetish or trying to not do something wrong, you guys need to know you guys would have a problem if you didn't feel that you were doing anything wrong, but you do feel the guilt right? Guilt comes when something comes out in the wrong way. So stop, breathe and start over again.

DETWK · Jun 25, 2020

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I know a lot of people who obviously want to know what the heck is happening with them. Mixed up sexuality, filled with guilt, doing wrong things, etc etc. And you tend to look for people doing the same things as you so that you can relate to someone. I totally get it guys, but we need to stop doing that. I'll tell you the reason. You have to break out of your loop and by reading similar things, you aint doing that. Ask yourself, if you manage to overcome this problem, will you ever want to think about it again? No you wouldn't. So why would some person come back here after his problem is solved. He wouldn't. I personally wouldn't.
I do not want to offend anybody but there is so much crap and negativity out here. Someone who hasn't even thought of things, will get to know so much more that it might exaggerate his problem. Best is to bury your problem and let yourself heal from all the garbage you've been putting inside. You are not what you're coming out as, and you aren't the person you're fearing to become. Take it from me, I have had Self Doubt over my sexual preference, I had sexual OCD, I feared about being someone I don't want to be. I have seen it all.
And if you wanna get out this, you should remove it from your day to day lifestyle now. People who think they've turned gay, people who think they're cuckolds, people who think they've turned sissy. I'm being honest with you, here's what my therapist told me, people like those DO NOT see a problem in themselves like we do. They don't have depression and anxiety like us. Most importantly, they DO NOT want to change either because they're content with themselves. Im sure everybody out here trying to get rid of a fetish or trying to not do something wrong, you guys need to know you guys would have a problem if you didn't feel that you were doing anything wrong, but you do feel the guilt right? Guilt comes when something comes out in the wrong way. So stop, breathe and start over again.
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This honestly just really helped me a lot, not gonna lie. You make a really good point, I hadn't thought of it like that before. I've been reading up a lot on HOCD stuff and I feel like I've been getting more anxious because I've been focusing too much on it. I could be shifting that energy into more productive things like my schoolwork or martial arts. I need to try meditating more often too I've heard that helps people tremendously. I just have a hard time doing it. I tend to clear my head better by taking walks in nature or driving down an open road.

Your therapist also made a really good point about how people who actually are gay, cuckold, sissy, etc. feel its natural and are at peace. The reason guys with HOCD or gay dudes with reverse HOCD (SOCD I think?) get so anxious and frustrated with these thoughts is because they know these thoughts aren't true but the thoughts aggressively come anyway and it can be frightening. But that goes back to your other point of not reading up on the stuff or focusing too much on it. The reason those thoughts come so hard at people is because they spend too much time reading about it, researching it, talking about it, etc. The thoughts won't go away if you don't allow them to. you have to not give them so much attention. It's like politics on social media, if you get on social media and go through a feed full of political bs you're gonna focus too much time and energy on it and its gonna stress you out and frustrate you because all that biased political nonsense makes people overthink things and get frustrated. You get off the social media and you won't keep feeling that way. Same kind of concept here, I suppose.

Thanks for posting this man, really got me thinking. You're awesome. Gonna follow your account on here. Keep up the good work and best of luck to you man.

DETWK · Jun 25, 2020

Damn your profile says your only 19 too? You're wise for your age, bro, I'm 22 and you're teaching me things. That's kinda wild.

Deleted Account · Jun 26, 2020

DETWK said: ↑

Damn your profile says your only 19 too? You're wise for your age, bro, I'm 22 and you're teaching me things. That's kinda wild.
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No problem bud, I am actually 18. Porn is the best thing that happened. It fucked me up so bad, but that's what got me improving constantly.

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