I leave nofap and the past behind me

Good for you! I'd like to reach that state when i feel i can boost and help others. I think thats the next step when you overcome the addiction is to help others.

 

Glad you're free of porn, man. But it sounds like you lack compassion for who you used to be, and the struggles you went through that many others are still going through, and don't relate to them anymore because of it. The vibe of your post is weird... you're like, posting in a success story forum about nofap, talking about how you don't want to talk about nofap and don't want to help people. Sounds like you're on the tail end of a negative experience with trying to help someone, maybe?

So... Have a nice life, then? If you don't want to talk about it or help people why did you come here? A pat on the back from the people you don't want to help, or what? Strange, man.

 

Define helping? Sometimes what's best in life is to not help. Some people just don't want to change themself(most are this type of people), so I wouldn't try to help any people who wouldn't want to change, since that's needed I cannot force others to take my advice.

 

Being free of the addiction for 3,5 years is a big success bro, so congrats..
You don't have to force people to change but you should help them if they need you..
You know why ?? Because we are all humain being, if everyone stops helping others or giving them his knowledge there will not be any progress in life..
Proud of your success again and have a good day.

 

Helping others in order to please them/be praised/show off is one thing.
Helping others in order to really help them because of your compassion/to do smth good in your life/to feel good is another.

 

This post isn´t really congruent with what NOFAP is... I came here because I needed help and so did you, and you received it. Now, you´re saying you do not want to help others? If no one had helped you then you´d still be a loser. It´s okay if you don´t want to talk about it anymore and leave, but if someone with an issue asks for help the best thing to do would be to share your experience so that they know they should quit. Not one of us can change if not from other people´s help and feedback.

 

Yeah, good distinction. I think with addiction and many other kinds of self-help, it only works if the person you're trying to help meets you half way and shows willingness and determination to get better.

 

Haughty post.

 

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This guy is a troll. Only has 3 posts. If you really left nofap and the past behind you wouldn't be posting on this forum. You would just get on with your life. The truth is the best way to help your own recovery is by helping others.

I don't care how long you've been clean. People have relapsed after decades of sobriety. As George Carlin said, "Just cause you got the monkey off your back doesn't mean the circus has left town."

 

I think you've hit the nail on the head when you say there's a lack of compassion for who you used to be. And it's easy to hate one's past self. If you recover from anything and look back at it objectively without sugarcoating it then it will hurt. The money spent hurts, the time wasted hurts, the people betrayed, lost or otherwise hurts. So what next? Turn that emotion into a force for good like helping others and not toward victimhood, vengeance or anything else

 

I truly believe recovery will never be over. I believe that it's a lifetime of being vigilant and cautious of triggers. I also believe a huge part of staying sober is sticking around support groups to share the message to others struggling . To remind yourself where you come from, and where you once we're , and how much you've progressed, and how badly you don't want to be back at the beginning.

 

You can delete your account, mate. Off you go never mention it again.

 

Sorry !
What I meant was , at least for my recovery. I need to keep going to my SAA 12 step group, I'll need to always be cautious and watch out for triggers. I will need to be reminded that I am a sex and porn addict. Because I feel if I dont keep that at least a little bit in the forefront there chance of sliding back into dangerous old habits are greatly increased !

 

Congratulation for your success, but your decision of twisting other porn addicts in the wind is absolutely wrong.

 

I've also given this some thought and i agree you allways need to stay vigilant an aware of triggers. Although as time pass i hope that it'll fades away more an more over time and it become more of the new normal for the brain, mind and body to stay away from bad habits and material. Since as off now i feel there's a lot of mental energy going to allways daily be focus and vigilant to stay away from bad stuff. Also for me real world triggers (especially now in summer) demands a constant effort not to look at girls/women in a bad/sexual way.

And yes, never forget how bad it makes you feel. So many days in agony and crying, the feeling of dispair and hopelesness. You need to reach out for that and allways remeber that. Btw what is SAA?