I can't do anything in moderation - any advice?

I used to be addicted to playing League of Legends due to the fact that the videogame itself made me want to keep improving my abilities on how I execute skill shots and dodges, try out new routes on the map or if you have a background of moba games it's also called rotations, learn how to play new champions, and maintain my rank or if not climb the ladder to be the best. I did this shit for 7 years, played the game for many hours setting aside my academics and ruining my relationships with some people. Good thing is playing the videogame sometimes made me refrain from MO and P. I most of the time played solo, but with friends it was also really fun.

I will tell you how I got rid of this video game addiction and it is really simple. I did not care anymore if it meant moderation as I really wanted to quit the game completely. I gave myself many reasons to do so and I struggled to give it up completely. It took me from playing 4 hours a day to 2 hours a day to 3 times a week and 1 time a week until last year, I only really played if a friend called me out but that was like only once a month. This year if I'm not mistaken, I only played the game for six times or seven and it was all with a friend and not me doing solo.

My reasons for quitting the game was that instead of me bonding and eating meals with my family (still living with my parents and siblings) I played the game non-stop, I missed the opportunities in talking with them and having stories. Another reason was that I was failing my scores in some subjects because I played the video game for hours and likewise did pmo instead of studying. More reasons were my mental health. League did not help me with my social anxiety, I was always shy and not confident with myself because I keep remembering my losses in the game and failures I commit and the toxic community itself in the game it's just pure of shit man. It was so detrimental to my health and I was not getting myself any better. The game made me have a low self-esteem as a result and made me have anger issues and lots of irritability in the small things. I admit that I have changed throughout the years having moderation in playing this game to completely not playing it at all. You just have to give yourself reasons bro and stick to the WHYS. Always remember that. Additionally, look for a better outlet ) for me it was always running and simple body weights workout. Hope this helped bro hehe. Stay strong and greatness is coming!

 

I can totally relate to this post. I have always struggled with moderation. I keep zero snacks in the house because I cannot control myself. If I relapse and watch porn, I will masturbate 5+ times that day. When I’m in a great headspace, I will crave exercise and want to workout all day. It’s crazy haha

 

I relate as well. Food and sex are very difficult to do in moderation. Abstaining from PM is the only way I have been able to control PM, moderation never worked because I always want more pleasure.

 

I also used to struggle with moderation regarding food and mainly sugar.
Fortunately, during the last years it became easy and was barely an issue for me to moderate junkfood and cut sugar completely. It was due to me deciding that it's important enough to do, as I dedicated myself to fitness lifestyle during the last years.
Maybe food wasn't such a big deal for me to begin with, as in contrary to food consumption I struggle way more with quitting PMO (and I still do).
Sorry I can't give you much of advice, but I believe that if it's important enogh for you, eventually you'll get the hang of it.

 

What do you plan on using to replace those things?