One Year of No P and No M

Deleted Account · Jun 11, 2020

That's amazing. God is great.

Tao Jones · Jun 11, 2020

sergio042 said: ↑

How many times per day ?
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I didn't really keep track. I was engaged with P in some form as often as I could get away with it every day of my life for 25 years. My mind was completely wrapped up in it, and it was never far from my thoughts. Sometimes this meant multiple times per day for hours, sometimes this meant a few minutes here and there a couple times each week.

Why do you ask?

Deleted Account · Jun 29, 2020

Tao Jones said: ↑

Sept-12 marks one year that I have abstained from P and M. In that period, I have experienced O only with my wife. I have also learned a tremendous amount about this way of life. I have had lengthy streaks in the past, but I have always returned to PMO. This time, I believe I know what I need to do in order to remain free for the rest of my life, and that is what I intend to do -- one day at a time.

My "No-PMO" commitments have crystallized around the following:

I will not choose to view P in any form. I will never seek it out.

I will not choose to view a P-sub in any form. I will never seek these out. A P-sub for me is anything that is sexually arousing aside from the physical and engaged presence of my wife.

I will not M or touch myself sexually in any way whatsoever apart from the physical and engaged presence of my wife.

I will not consciously seek out the experience of O apart from the physical and engaged presence of my wife.

I will not entertain any unhelpful thought, especially a lustful or sexual one. The moment I am aware of such a thought, I will run it through the FREEdom process and replace the lie of it with the Truth of my higher power, Jesus Christ. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1zqVL11JjWICOHCRUDmqXr9TNC_gpb6yhRF1hKp-fxcc/edit

I will not engage in idle browsing of the Internet of any kind or on any platform. In the past, this practice has never ended well for me.

I will not engage in any kind of sexual pleasure "hunting" behavior. When my wife and I enjoy this intimacy together, it is a great gift. It is enough, and I do not need anything more or different in order to be completely sexually fulfilled. Anything beyond this is simply my addict brain looking for a thrill and is not okay.

I will maintain a network of accountability partners (APs) with which I will continue to check in on a daily basis to report how I am doing in this area and to provide mutual encouragement and support to them. (To all those who have served or are currently serving me in this capacity, you have my undying thanks. You will never know how much a role you have played in the transformation of my life.)

I will continue to make use of software tools to keep me accountable online and to prevent myself from stumbling upon unhelpful imagery on any of my electronic devices. This includes my accountability software of choice, Accountable2You, which is installed on all devices to which I have access.

I will make myself available to the best of my ability to assist anyone who desires to break free from the plague of PMO. When I enter into an accountability partnership with someone, I will perform my duties as a helpful, encouraging, and engaged partner on a daily basis and with my best effort. Good APs are hard to find, and I will be the best one I know how to be.

These commitments work to reinforce one another. As I adhere to them day-by-day, I see how they work together for not only my own overall good, but for the good of the communities in which I am engaged, as well. By leaving behind PMO for this past year, every relationship in my life has improved, including the one I have with myself!

I am just a regular guy. I finally got to the end of my rope with PMO and committed to do whatever it takes to get free and stay free. It is a commitment -- it takes time, focus, and energy each and every day to stay vigilant to safeguard myself against my tendency to do the wrong thing. I have fallen before, and I very well may fall again. However, I am convinced that if I honor the commitments that I have outlined above, I will find myself on a firm foundation, able to remain out of the swamp of PMO, and possibly of some use in helping others to do the same.

May God continue to show mercy to all of us as we seek out the new kind of Life he has said is possible and available to us, even right now (2 Corinthians 5:17). May we find ourselves moving from "glory to glory" (2 Corinthians 3:18) as we travel further up and further into the Kingdom of Heaven. May we never grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). If we stay on the Way that leads to Life (John 14:6), our lives can be good today, better tomorrow, and unimaginably wonderful in the future.

Onward!
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Any changes in your skin? Does it look bright?

jn75 · Jun 29, 2020

Phast said: ↑

Any changes in your skin? Does it look bright?
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Dude my man gave you all that and you ask about his skin? Re read his post. Again and again.

Tao Jones · Jun 29, 2020

Phast said: ↑

Any changes in your skin? Does it look bright?
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I am white, so my skin always looks bright.

Psalm27:1my light · Jun 29, 2020

Tao Jones said: ↑

I am white, so my skin always looks bright.
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Lol! My husband is very white, but his skin looks so much better. I actually pulled out some pictures when I know his addiction was at its worst, even he could see the huge difference. He literally looked sick in some of the pics. His eyes look hollow, like he’d given up. He was shocked. Since he hasn’t changed his diet or exercise ( he’s always pretty good with those) it has to be quitting his addiction.

Nate1995 · Jun 30, 2020

oh great

Tao Jones · Sep 12, 2020

Just checking in as I hit year #2 with no P and no MO. The commitments I have made continue to serve me well. I think they can do the same for you!

Thanks to this amazing community for all the support and encouragement over these past two years. I would not be where I am today if it had not been for finding NoFap. I am eternally grateful to its founders and to those who make this community work each and every day. Keep it up -- you fine folks are literally saving lives!

Barnabas_ · Sep 14, 2020

Congratulations Brother!

Well done. I have learnt a lot from you and your attitude. Thanks again!

Tao Jones · Sep 14, 2020

Barnabas_ said: ↑

Congratulations Brother!

Well done. I have learnt a lot from you and your attitude. Thanks again!
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Likewise, my friend. I am grateful we are on this journey together.

dustyastronaut · Dec 28, 2020

Wow Tao,

Your posts are very inspiring to me as a Christ follower myself! I hope to do the same and get rid of PMO for good. The accountability and the people on this site are great and help me a lot in my fight, knowing I am not alone! I think the last step for me would be to install accountability software on my devices as well. I will check out A2Y, thank you for the suggestion.

Onward in Him!

-DA

RedeemedIowan · May 3, 2021

Tao Jones said: ↑

Sept-12 marks one year that I have abstained from P and M. In that period, I have experienced O only with my wife. I have also learned a tremendous amount about this way of life. I have had lengthy streaks in the past, but I have always returned to PMO. This time, I believe I know what I need to do in order to remain free for the rest of my life, and that is what I intend to do -- one day at a time.

My "No-PMO" commitments have crystallized around the following:

I will not choose to view P in any form. I will never seek it out.

I will not choose to view a P-sub in any form. I will never seek these out. A P-sub for me is anything that is sexually arousing aside from the physical and engaged presence of my wife.

I will not M or touch myself sexually in any way whatsoever apart from the physical and engaged presence of my wife.

I will not consciously seek out the experience of O apart from the physical and engaged presence of my wife.

I will not entertain any unhelpful thought, especially a lustful or sexual one. The moment I am aware of such a thought, I will run it through the FREEdom process and replace the lie of it with the Truth of my higher power, Jesus Christ. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1zqVL11JjWICOHCRUDmqXr9TNC_gpb6yhRF1hKp-fxcc/edit

I will not engage in idle browsing of the Internet of any kind or on any platform. In the past, this practice has never ended well for me.

I will not engage in any kind of sexual pleasure "hunting" behavior. When my wife and I enjoy this intimacy together, it is a great gift. It is enough, and I do not need anything more or different in order to be completely sexually fulfilled. Anything beyond this is simply my addict brain looking for a thrill and is not okay.

I will maintain a network of accountability partners (APs) with which I will continue to check in on a daily basis to report how I am doing in this area and to provide mutual encouragement and support to them. (To all those who have served or are currently serving me in this capacity, you have my undying thanks. You will never know how much a role you have played in the transformation of my life.)

I will continue to make use of software tools to keep me accountable online and to prevent myself from stumbling upon unhelpful imagery on any of my electronic devices. This includes my accountability software of choice, Accountable2You, which is installed on all devices to which I have access.

I will make myself available to the best of my ability to assist anyone who desires to break free from the plague of PMO. When I enter into an accountability partnership with someone, I will perform my duties as a helpful, encouraging, and engaged partner on a daily basis and with my best effort. Good APs are hard to find, and I will be the best one I know how to be.

These commitments work to reinforce one another. As I adhere to them day-by-day, I see how they work together for not only my own overall good, but for the good of the communities in which I am engaged, as well. By leaving behind PMO for this past year, every relationship in my life has improved, including the one I have with myself!

I am just a regular guy. I finally got to the end of my rope with PMO and committed to do whatever it takes to get free and stay free. It is a commitment -- it takes time, focus, and energy each and every day to stay vigilant to safeguard myself against my tendency to do the wrong thing. I have fallen before, and I very well may fall again. However, I am convinced that if I honor the commitments that I have outlined above, I will find myself on a firm foundation, able to remain out of the swamp of PMO, and possibly of some use in helping others to do the same.

May God continue to show mercy to all of us as we seek out the new kind of Life he has said is possible and available to us, even right now (2 Corinthians 5:17). May we find ourselves moving from "glory to glory" (2 Corinthians 3:18) as we travel further up and further into the Kingdom of Heaven. May we never grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). If we stay on the Way that leads to Life (John 14:6), our lives can be good today, better tomorrow, and unimaginably wonderful in the future.

Onward!
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I might just end up stealing your rules. I’m sitting down to rewrite mine and yours are just so conclusive.

Deleted Account · May 3, 2021

Tao Jones said: ↑

Sept-12 marks one year that I have abstained from P and M. In that period, I have experienced O only with my wife. I have also learned a tremendous amount about this way of life. I have had lengthy streaks in the past, but I have always returned to PMO. This time, I believe I know what I need to do in order to remain free for the rest of my life, and that is what I intend to do -- one day at a time.

My "No-PMO" commitments have crystallized around the following:

I will not choose to view P in any form. I will never seek it out.

I will not choose to view a P-sub in any form. I will never seek these out. A P-sub for me is anything that is sexually arousing aside from the physical and engaged presence of my wife.

I will not M or touch myself sexually in any way whatsoever apart from the physical and engaged presence of my wife.

I will not consciously seek out the experience of O apart from the physical and engaged presence of my wife.

I will not entertain any unhelpful thought, especially a lustful or sexual one. The moment I am aware of such a thought, I will run it through the FREEdom process and replace the lie of it with the Truth of my higher power, Jesus Christ. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1zqVL11JjWICOHCRUDmqXr9TNC_gpb6yhRF1hKp-fxcc/edit

I will not engage in idle browsing of the Internet of any kind or on any platform. In the past, this practice has never ended well for me.

I will not engage in any kind of sexual pleasure "hunting" behavior. When my wife and I enjoy this intimacy together, it is a great gift. It is enough, and I do not need anything more or different in order to be completely sexually fulfilled. Anything beyond this is simply my addict brain looking for a thrill and is not okay.

I will maintain a network of accountability partners (APs) with which I will continue to check in on a daily basis to report how I am doing in this area and to provide mutual encouragement and support to them. (To all those who have served or are currently serving me in this capacity, you have my undying thanks. You will never know how much a role you have played in the transformation of my life.)

I will continue to make use of software tools to keep me accountable online and to prevent myself from stumbling upon unhelpful imagery on any of my electronic devices. This includes my accountability software of choice, Accountable2You, which is installed on all devices to which I have access.

I will make myself available to the best of my ability to assist anyone who desires to break free from the plague of PMO. When I enter into an accountability partnership with someone, I will perform my duties as a helpful, encouraging, and engaged partner on a daily basis and with my best effort. Good APs are hard to find, and I will be the best one I know how to be.

These commitments work to reinforce one another. As I adhere to them day-by-day, I see how they work together for not only my own overall good, but for the good of the communities in which I am engaged, as well. By leaving behind PMO for this past year, every relationship in my life has improved, including the one I have with myself!

I am just a regular guy. I finally got to the end of my rope with PMO and committed to do whatever it takes to get free and stay free. It is a commitment -- it takes time, focus, and energy each and every day to stay vigilant to safeguard myself against my tendency to do the wrong thing. I have fallen before, and I very well may fall again. However, I am convinced that if I honor the commitments that I have outlined above, I will find myself on a firm foundation, able to remain out of the swamp of PMO, and possibly of some use in helping others to do the same.

May God continue to show mercy to all of us as we seek out the new kind of Life he has said is possible and available to us, even right now (2 Corinthians 5:17). May we find ourselves moving from "glory to glory" (2 Corinthians 3:18) as we travel further up and further into the Kingdom of Heaven. May we never grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). If we stay on the Way that leads to Life (John 14:6), our lives can be good today, better tomorrow, and unimaginably wonderful in the future.

Onward!
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What differences have you noticed physically ?

Tao Jones · May 3, 2021

bradmax said: ↑

What differences have you noticed physically ?
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Can you say more what you mean? I am not sure I have noticed any physical changes specifically as a result of quitting PMO. but quitting PMO has given me more time and energy to focus on other things, incl. physical and mental health, and so there have certainly been knock-on effects in both of those areas as a result.

Revanthegrey · May 3, 2021

Congrats

Psalm27:1my light · May 3, 2021

Tao Jones said: ↑

Can you say more what you mean? I am not sure I have noticed any physical changes specifically as a result of quitting PMO. but quitting PMO has given me more time and energy to focus on other things, incl. physical and mental health, and so there have certainly been knock-on effects in both of those areas as a result.
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So you never suffered from de or pied? That’s actually pretty amazing given the length of your addiction.

Trobone · May 3, 2021

Congrats - July will be my year mark if I can make it. Big congrats to you

Psalm27:1my light · May 3, 2021

Trobone said: ↑

Congrats - July will be my year mark if I can make it. Big congrats to you
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I think he’s actually at the 2 year mark, this is an older post I believe?

Trobone · May 3, 2021

Psalm27:1my light said: ↑

I think he’s actually at the 2 year mark, this is an older post I believe?
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even better!

As for your earlier question about PIED/DE.

It's not universal. Some people have physical symptoms, some don't.

Psalm27:1my light · May 3, 2021

Trobone said: ↑

even better!

As for your earlier question about PIED/DE.

It's not universal. Some people have physical symptoms, some don't.
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Lol, yeah my husband didn’t have pied until he turned 45 or 46, I don’t remember exactly. It catches up sooner or later if you continue to use

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