Morning wood but still no urges, normal?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by icandothis66, Jun 9, 2015.

  1. icandothis66

    icandothis66 Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys,
    I started NoFap some 34 days ago and I'm going strong. Mainly due to the flatline. Everything has been easier as I haven't any urges since like day 16 (I think).

    One question I have is for the last 3 days I have been getting a very limp but semi solid morning wood. This hasn't happened as the flatline meant that before the 3 days my dick wasn't even moving in the morning let alone get up even if it was half way through.

    Just wanted to know, is it normal to get this kind of morning wood whilst still in the flatline. I know I'm in the flatline because I have no urges to PMO or I don't have any strong feelings when I see girls. Depression has been better though it got very bad 3 days ago. Very bad.
     
  2. riis11

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    It is always a struggle. Keep your head up you a going in the right direction. As for the flat line, what you are describing is normal. I went through the same thing. I had a flat line for between 30-40 days. During that time, I would wake up with a woody or have a woody while I slept. What I have found is that when you come out of flat line those uncontrollable urges around women are different. I no longer look at a woman and instantly think about sex. However, when I'm in a position to be intimate with a woman, I can now easily get a full erection and once I get an erection it says hard for the duration. Before NoFap, I had to constantly be jacking my junk while having sex or I would lose wood. Now I can maintain and erection during sex without having to always be jacking it. During the flat line period, I was scared that I would ever be able to get it up again. Now at the end of the flat line, I'm totally surprised at the results.

    Stay Strong.
     
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  3. icandothis66

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    Thanks for that reply. Really makes me want to keep pushing man. I've never had sex so I can't say the same thing you said but what I can say is 3 or 2 weeks before I started nofap I was doing PMO at least 3/4 times a day and I'll never forget the day where I did PMO without even having a proper erection. Like my penis had enough but I kept doing it. Disgusting to say the least but hopefully I make it out the flatline soon and start feeling like a male again lol. I want urges! My penis right now feels like a lifeless thumb just hanging on to my body and can fall of anytime.
     
  4. 21decisionforlife

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    I'm at a similar point where u are at the moment and as far as a I know it is fairly normal. I started with my journey last year and managed in the beginning 2-3 times 21-25 days until i failed. The problem is in the mind the old connections still exist and if you are not busy working, creating and enjoying life these old connections try to reactivate themselves luring u into watching porn and thus getting pleausure from that. The mechanics behind this are simple habbits nothing else. Overcome your habits and mate the world lies to your feet :)
     
  5. riis11

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    It will get better guys. As I said, it did for me. I had about a month of feeling that my penis was just lifeless and dangling there with no purpose. Remember, you're body is changing. Your body chemistry levels are adjusting. Your brain is adjusting, but it will fight you every step of the way. I was in the same boat. I used to PMO 2-5 times (even more) a day. I was like a rat in a cage pushing the button to get more and more dopamine. I conditioned myself with PMO. I became dysfunctional both sexually and in general. I just wanted to be alone with my porn and my hand and nobody else. After all, that's all I needed. Right? ----- WRONG. Everyone deserves a life that isn't controlled by some stupid addiction. Humans are social beings. We need each other. We shouldn't be alone in a dark room watching other people live our lives for us. We need to live our own lives on our own terms that isn't ruled by some addiction. Keep going. It will get better. Your future spouse will appreciate that you are not controlled by this addiction. I think that it is great that you are kicking this addiction before you have a spouse. Nothing is worse than putting another person through this addiction. You're saving yourself years of guilt, anger and self loathing. You're doing the right thing. It will get better.

    Stay Strong.
     
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  6. icandothis66

    icandothis66 Fapstronaut

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    What a reply! Thank you sooooooo much aha honestly that made me so happy to see that's it normal. And yes I see what you mean, having a spouse with an addiciton would probably douobe the pain for you becuase you're fapping and that's costing them as well.

    You seem like you've been through it, would mind writing a couple of lines and sharing the benefits you got from NOFAP. It's always good to read some success stories and look forward to completing the 90 days and many more and obviously going through a flatline it would help me a lot. Thanks!!!
     
  7. Limeaid

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    Morning wood is rarely an indicator of erection health so don't put too much stock in it. Morning wood happens at specific times during the sleep cycle (REM cycle) and if you don't wake up during that cycle there will be no morning wood! So not reliable at all. My husband has been ED free for over a year now and rarely gets morning wood. We have frequent sex with zero issues ;). Just reboot, forget the porn and everything will go back to normal!
     
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  8. Knight Solaire

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    i freaked about this also. It confused the hell out me. I'm in a flatline also, but I still have occasional sex and get morning wood often. It's normal buddy.

    I also have friends here who have experienced the same thing.
     
  9. plaeto

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    I'm on day 5. I never had a problem not getting morning wood. That was the one time I could get hard without porn. Although I couldnt really finish from just morning wood. Because I only watch porn a few times a week I guess that means my sex drive is lower. Does that mean its going to take a lot longer for my brain to recover. I got to a point where I have to watch certain types of porn to get off too. It progressed to "kinkier" stuff.
     
  10. Knight Solaire

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    As long as you stop watching porn and masturbating you will reboot eventually. It doesn't take longer because you have a lower sex drive as far as I know. I still have a long way before I am rebooted. You need to get rid of all porn/p-related content from your brain/mind before you can even think of rebooting.

    Good luck buddy. I hope this helps.
     
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  11. riis11

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    icandothis66: Thanks for the reply. I want to preface my comments by saying that I am far from a success story. Just like all of us, I'm an addict. I ruined a large portion of my life by making bad decisions regarding porn and masturbation. I avoided problems in my life by isolating myself and I used, much to my detriment, porn and masturbation to mask my feelings and not confronting my problems. I have only been on the NoFap reboot for almost 75 days. I have had 2 relapses in those 75 days. My longest streak is 30 days. I judge myself on my success rate and not my streaks. I have about a 98% success rate. This means to me that I have about a 2% chance of relapsing every day and a 98% chance that I won't. I think that's pretty good from a guy who for many, many years masturbated to porn 2-5 times a day.

    What has NoFap done for me? For me, it has given me confidence. I don't go through every day with the guilt that I felt after I PMOed. Here is an example, I couldn't look my wife in the eye and say I love you. How could I love my wife when I just masturbated to another woman having sex? I felt that I was not being faithful to my wife. That caused guilt and that guilt ate me apart inside. Before, I was always angry and constantly agitated. Now, I have very little guilt and it makes me happier. Being happy and positive is new to me. I also turned this NoFap reboot into an additional positive. I made sure that I confronted my issues. The issues with my marriage. The issues that I had with myself. I began read books to become a better person and use my time more efficiently and apply what I learned to my life. Books like the Slight Edge; Good Husband Great Marriage and the Like Switch. I have concentrated my attention on things other than porn and masturbation. I feel like my quality of life is better. My marriage is better. My wife is happier but I know she still thinks, in the back of her mind, that I'm going to switch back to being a total dick. I cannot blame her. The reality is that I will NEVER be that person again....sitting by myself, jacking it to porn. NEVER again.

    I'm a work in progress and I believe I am a better person without PMO in my life.

    Stay Strong.
     
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  12. Irshad

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    I have started rebooting and I am on day 17. I have had occasional morning wood, say thrice in these 17 days. I get erection in daytime by thinking of sex quite easily. I have never had real sex so I don't have any experience of getting hard with a real woman. I am only worried about this almost nil morning wood and nocturnal penile tumescence. I have been PMOing for many years, at an interval of 2-3 days though. Please help.
     
  13. AlphaZ

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    This is a 2 and a half year old thread but that's alright. Congratulations on a 17 day streak firstly as that's an awesome achievement as many would say, myself included, the first few weeks is the hardest and as you break the habit your chances of relapsing reduce over time. I suggest that you shouldn't really be thinking of sex during the day. Ok, we are only human and we are/were addicts so it's bound to happen occasionally but you should try your best to remove those thoughts and not encourage yourself to do so. Your body and brain is attempting to repair itself so things aren't exactly in optimum condition due to what we have been doing in the past. Time is the only thing that can fix your issue. Ok you've never been with a woman, the good thing is you are fixing this problem so as not to disappoint... Smart man :)
    (Not trying to boast here at all) but on my current streak I normally don't experience morning erections. I have actually only had 1 which I can recall on this entire streak which was 3 days ago and to be honest I'm not worried and neither should you be. This isn't something which can be repaired in a short amount of time, it's a lengthy process which I would assume would be in direct correlation to the extremity of your PMO addiction and proportional to the time you have been addicted.
    You don't need to worry. Let your body repair itself and stay strong and stick to the program man. Keep away from dangerous thoughts and try not to ''test it" out by thinking of those sorts of things.

    I hope I helped clear up your concern and if you have any questions you can message me, I'm always happy to help as it keeps me honest.

    Stay strong and keep fighting man,
    - Alpha
     
  14. Irshad

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    Thank you very much for the reply. There are two more queries I have. One that I broke the continuity today by masturbating (should not have done that, I know). Will it affect my reboot? And 2nd one, should I totally refrain from sexual thoughts during this reboot period?
     

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