What do you have in your arsenal to fight over this?

No one solution will miraculously solve all your issues, but it never hurts to at least try them.

I like to view the Nofap challenge as war. There's you and there's the enemy. So, you must win at any cost. How do you win? I first saw what other people had done to defeat this addiction (ie read success stories on Nofap) and also researched the enemy as well, urges. Here was my strategy that seemed successful so far.

Everytime I think of a thought related to PMO, I try and let it go. Sometimes, letting go of the thought will be hard so all you have to do is to be your own therapist. Why do I feel sad? Is it because of those people? Should I care about that? It takes practice but soon you can find peace within yourself and let the dead men stay dead (the dead men is your urges if you don't understand).

Everytime I have an urge to fap, I say to myself that I have an urge to fap. Please accept that you made what appears to be a mistake as that's key to your recovering. Then I ask myself if I should give in. I think of what I want my future to be before I answer my question. I do this as I saw my past self as a very egoistic man in that he believes he can do nothing wrong but in reality, he's secretly denying that he isn't who he is which only further builds up the stress. Accept your not perfect and tell yourself everytime you have an urge whether to give in. Think of the future and act accordingly to what it wants.

The most important thing I could tell you is to find a lifestyle your willing to love. That lifestyle is something you will do for someone so that they could be happy. It seems sad that we work only for others but when we only work for ourselves, we will die with nothing, we will die naked. I don't want to scare you but I don't want you to walk the path of desmise. Stop denying what you want and just learn to love it.

These are 3 tips that has worked for me because of who I am. Try them really dedicate to them to see if they work for you.

 

My arsenal consists mainly of the simple goal to be a better person tomorrow than I was today. Everyone desires to improve or be better in some way - this is my way. And it will spawn many other ways that I will discover to improve myself.

 

-Info in my mind from all the reading I’ve done. And putting that info into practice.

-Some of those readings were about people who suffered consequences after continuing on with acting out. I constantly remind myself of the consequences. Often I’ll write out specifically what those consequences are to keep them in mind.

-A growing list of people I can call, text, and email in order to stay in touch with people daily. Isolation is one way addiction feeds. I make sure to contact at least one person a day. I used to go all three of my days off with zero contact with people.

-An accountability partner I talk to once a week.

-SAA meeting once a week and SAA material to read.

-Hiking once a week to maintain socializing with people and gain different perspectives about life.

-Regular exercise.

Best wishes to all the people in the fight!

 

Even if I have not had a long streak in a while, I am making progress in my life every day since I started NoFap. Sometimes it comes in the form of studying more, or exercising more, getting chores done, etc. But as long as I keep my goals in mind, I do not disappoint myself. You have to remember to see the positive side to everything. For example, I relapsed this morning, but my average relapse inverval went from around 0.5 days to maybe 5 days since I started NoFap.

 

1.Stay busy. Busy, busy, busy.
2.Work hard, so you stay busy.
3. PUT the Fuckin’ screen away when as soon as you feel you’re having urges .(This D- Emergency Evac Procedure)
4. Workout! Dance!
5. Meditate, and learn to stay calm.

these are the things that work for me, and I’m trying to master them. What works for you?

 

Learning to stay calm is a huge one in my opinion, great that you brought it up.

After analyzing relapses I realized it was happening after very positive events as well as negative. I needed to work on staying even keeled and not get overly excited about things, whether they were bad or good.

 

Meditate, and learn to stay calm. I've just started meditating again and I definitely need to learn to stay calm. As long as I'm doing something I cannot be bored and go back to that evil habit! Cold showers are making more alert as to what my goals really are too! And the other benefits of the cold showers are great, plus the occasional reading.

 

I always remember that awkward moment when I couldn't get it up due to PIED, and the issues it caused for that woman. Of course, sometimes I said f*ck it and gave in to porn.