Never watch porn but still need help!

Hi everyone!

I am a 28 year old male and ended up here by the advice of a friend who I know from a self development group were we want to better ourselves as a person. We focus on health, sports, nutrition, social skills, meditation, business, etc.

I wanted to introduce myself and asks some questions. I have a feeling that I’m an extraordinary case and like to explore that. Hope you can help me out.

First of all: I don’t watch porn. Never did.

Why? Same reason I don’t smoke. My first experience was so bad, that I feel so much aversion to it, even taking a short peek. Why no porn? In short: I stood in the wrong corner of the video store when I was a young kid, saw those disgusting, pornographic poses (for me as a kid I thought so) and never wanted to look at it again. Sure, I can get over it, just watch porn, endure the first feeling of aversion and let it transform into an attraction and maybe an addiction. But with knowing how addictive it can be, I consider myself blessed and not going to watch it.​

So great, you might think, good for you! Now get the hell out of here!
Wait a minute! I’m not done yet. Because:

Do I masturbate? A lot. Not on porn, but on fantasy. The way I do it is lying on my belly, rubbing my hand on my scrotum.

My first question:

1) It this way of jerking of wrong? Can it disadvantage my sexual intercourse with a woman?

I think it does, because when I have intercourse with a women I can come very hard. Most of the times I just don’t come. Leaving a woman sometimes insecure about the fact I even liked it. Once I had a girl cry about it.

Now I haven’t come since a week. My girlfriend (kind off) came by two days back, had intercourse, didn’t came, almost got blue balled.

She told me about how she and her ex boyfriend had a 21 day challenge of no coming so I decided to give it a go. I am also involved in self development groups discussing this topic about NoFap and the benefits of it.

The last days have been pretty hard for me:
- I have a little ache in my balls
- I have little aches in my stomach
- I sometimes feel dizzy
- I sometimes feel tired


2) Are these withdrawal symptoms? Will these ever go away? Because I know if I just come one time, all these will go away instantly. However, I know this will also get my into my jerk off addiction again!


In short
I don’t watch porn, jerk off a lot (on my belly) and that results in hard coming with sexual intercourse, also not enjoying it the way I think I should.
Almost one week of no coming leaves my with small aches and dizzy feelings. Is this normal, will these symptoms go away and should I keep going with it?

Because the whole NoFap idea is based on porn in combination with masturbation but I only experience one side of the coin. Hope you can help me out!

 

Thanks for your reply.

"have you ever heard how people die from masturbating alot?"
Yes, I've heard people saying that, in and around the Middle Ages I believe.

I found out more on http://www.healthystrokes.com
That helped me a lot. I'm now at 10 days NoFap. Still going strong!