Lost of response from opposite sex

FLATLINE

when i had my first streak of 145 days 4 years ago
i had flatline for 120+ days and then suddenly i surged from the depth of hell like a pheonix

and this can last even longer than 120 days
i have read cases where flatlining continues for even over a year even in hard mode

you have no choice anyway, relapsing is not an option
you think a man needs fake pixel so he can feel something?
no, thats delusional you are still recovering

 

Hi Abkar, during your Hard Mode reboot did you ever feel to have sex with you GF and refused to? Also, why hard mode? I was wondering as I have never done hard mode, as long as I was in a relationship I would engage in sex as long as my body was up to it. I found my sex drive would fluctuate initially but then normalize as I had more sexual interactions with my partner.

I do recall being porn free for over six months with no GF and finding that it took me a while to get my mojo back after I did have a GF. In addition to the flat-lining, and desensitization that PMO causes, I am wondering if your body also adjust to long periods without real sex and intimacy by reducing your sex drive. I have found that when I become sexually active then my natural desire increased over time.

Looking forward to your thoughts and opnionions.

 

Okay cool, I suspect this is a unique Journey for everyone, Just give yourself some time to heal. Good thing is there is no pressure for sex with you GF, so just relax and let the healing process take its course. I would not shy away from intimacy, if you guys hug and kiss etc. It may take longer than you want but your natural desire will return as time passes. Best advice I can give is not to dwell on it. Take solace in knowing you are on the path to recovery.

In my experience, you will just start to feel normal one day as you mind and body recover. Good Luck bud.

 

@Abkar Hearing how many days you are on is inspirational dude.

I am struggling my self to even make it to a week.

Keep going and winning everyday.

 

I was stuck in a cycle recently where i would abstain for about a month and then relapse, for all I know I may still be in that cycle, a month has not passed yet. I personally find that I get complacent, my sexual desire returns and then I think to myself, just a little bit can not hurt. These are the things we tell ourselves as addicts. I find coming on to the forum helps but I sometimes wish it had a way we could actually speak and exchange, It may be time to really create virtual support groups.

The best advice I can give here is really having a goal in mind. We know the harms, but it is easy to conveniently forget. Some may disagree but I believe you need to limit your opportunities for exposure. This may included using software to block access to Porn, enabling safe search, stopping use of Social Media, allot of what you see on IG and Tik Tok is just women flaunting there bodies. I consuming any media that is sexual can lead you back to porn. I always say, a recovering alcoholic does not keep liquor in the house, look at porn the same way. If it is easily accessible, it will always be easier to fall into old habits.

 

Any suggestions regarding virtual support groups, I know many persons may want to maintain their anonymity. What is the best free software for having group calls and video chats. Maybe we can arrange a comfortable environment for persons to come speak and express themselves. It think this is a good thing, sometimes you come to the forums and you really wish you had someone to engage with. Texting is not as engaging as having conversation.