Have Femdom Fetish,Need Some Motivation and Advice

Since nobody else replied yet, I'll try. I was just like you when I was your age. The bad news first: I'm now 41, I never got rid of femdom and foot fetish, and I still masturbate far too much (I'm working on the last part now). But the good news is: you are still young and if you already decided to make a change, it will be much easier for you. You should get rid of masturbation, and you can do it! My advice would be to focus on that first.

About feet and femdom: I'm afraid to say that my own experience confirms what other people said here (that it's impossible to get rid of a "natural fetish". I don't want to discourage you but rather make you look at it from a different perspective. There's nothing wrong with feet. You can have a "normal sexual life" and integrate your foot fetish. I have had sexual experiences with many girls in my life and 90% of them liked my foot fetish, although the majority of them had no experience with foot lovers before. There are hardly and women who do not enjoy having their feet massaged, kissed, licked etc.. You need to find a good balance (i.e. do not make them feel as if you only like their feet and nothing else about them), but believe me, a foot fetish is not that uncommon and your chances of having a great relationship with a real girlfriend that includes foot fetish are actually quite high. It fits most relationships well. What caused me trouble in my own life were other things, but never feet.

Changing everything at once will be hard, so again, if I were you I'd try to get rid of masturbation first. And if you want a "normal sexual life", do not satisfy your foot fetish with porn, because porn is not normal. Get a girlfriend (I know it's not easy, but that goes for everyone) and that's when you can live your foot fetish.

 

It really depends on what you want deep inside. From your first post I thought that you are naturally submissive to women. If you know you are not, then it won't be that hard for you to get rid of it.

I don't think femdom is generally dangerous. What IS dangerous and destructive is those women who professionally exploit submissives online. But if you go to BDSM gatherings and meet girls who dominate because they enjoy it, and who share the same kinks, then what's wrong with that?

 

Yes I actually think findom needs to be outlawed personally. I was very close to suicide last year and still a bit suicidal now. It depends how extreme the fetish is as well.

 

can you catch anything from getting a footjob or foot fetish?

 

Bro...I am Proud of you that ypu have acknowledged this.Dont believe the people who say its normal and impossible to cure and shit.Nothing is impossible my friend.
Only one thing can cure you...You have to do yoga and meditation under a enlightned GURu ...not any hooll bi...Im telling you because u might get demotivated after doing yoga and meditation under the wrong guidance and give up.

The strong never give up and the fact that ypu wanna change itself assures it.

Jus find a guru of meditation.The kind of person who is like sadhguru(google him)

And dedicate atleast 6 months to this. Ypu can even join art of living.Their specific courses are good and affective.
so first youll be in the experimenting stage.Ot will take min, two yearsfor ypou to completly recover.
Hit the gym.

Start abusing woman in sex..Youll have to replace your fetish with another.
You heard me...fuck their assess ...dominate them..make them your slaves and they will respect you....You have yo be selfish here my friend.

god bless you

 

Firstly i agree with the notion that foot fetish is normal. All men love a particular female body part the most. U can't say a foot fetish is wrong and boobs or ass fetish is normal. All sex is fetish ( if u remove the main aim which is reproduction)
I don't agree with the notion that it is impossible to change a fetish u r born with.
The brain could be rewired , nothing is fixed.
Change your identity and u will definitely change your sexual preferences and probably your sexuality.
What doesn't work: fighting an idea.
What works: replacing an idea with another desired idea.

 

Athletes mouth and varuka breath

 

Great advice, I need to work more on that spiritual side of me and feeling nimble and young from yoga. That Sadhguru is cool! So I’ve been trying this 90 day thing for 2 years or so and done 52/53 days twice and a load of 1 month runs. I have a strong sexuality and have loved dominanting woman and escorts and have developed pretty good skills tbh. But there is a side of me that pops up sometimes and wants to get the rush of submitting. Maybe it’s trauma related, maybe I am warn out battling though stress and trying to be in control of my life and just want to surrender and escape. Usually it was when I’d messed something up or had a hangover and loathed myself. Then I’d seek out femdom videos femdom escorts which then escalated into trans. The rush I’d get from dominating my girl friends escorts and sending them into wild orgasms was pretty cool and made me feel very masculine. But the submissive side of me always felt disgusted and ashamed of myself for engaging.
The build up of no pmo makes me feel really good to a point. But when I f*#k up I decide I’m having the full hit and go for the trans and degrading stuff which confirms that I’ve messed up and need punishing. This time I was thinking 30 days retention then healthy fantasy or a good hard f#>k with a female escort to help get that macho edge back. Till my life is back on track and ready for a girlfriend. Any advice would be appreciated

 

Hi bro....First of all I appreciate your streaks ...its amazing that u have managed the NoFap streaks and even more I admire you dominating woman

We live in a world today where men have become weak and feminine.The entire concept to be a men has been forgotten.This infact is the dawn...worse is yet to come.Cuckold, femdom , feminism,woman rights and what not bullshit.All the above listed diseases are only waiting to mature and grasp their roots deeper into our society. There are people working on the above concepts tirelessly.For example we have feminists , porn videos etc.
Firstly I used to be sad and jealous of people who used to get super hot girl friends or simply women but today I am proud of my brothers as seeing wat the society has become masculinity has my appreciation and respect.

Do not get me wrong wen I say fuck woman rough ,dominate them, etc.You have to respect woman but not at the cost of your self respect. Its a hard truth If you become too nice and obedient she will not respect you so you have to show her, her place . Sex is one of the most vehement and profound ways to do that. So fuck her brains out and preserve your semen only for sex and your self growth. Semen retention is the essence of life.Do not be ashamed if you are too sexual .Its a testimony that you have greatness within you.This energy needs to be preserved and used in the right direction.

I would suggest you assume the role of a gentlemen towards women only to be a dominator motherfucker in bed. Trust me she will never live you. No matter what subconciously she is hooked.Its evolution mate.

In the Bhagwat Geeta it is written that at the end of kalyug ,Men will Stay with Men and Women will stay with women.There wont be copulation. This ending is somewhat believable as we see around the process has begun. But we are initiated , aint we mate. The male species will always be the higher species ,you are a provider .You put the bread on table so be strong and stay focused.

 

I have a serious fantasy with foot fetish and i really want to stop as it makes me want to go and see an escort to do it. is that bad?

 

Thanks dude, yea f#*k that submissive crap. Life’s tough. But it’s good to be a caring too. But definitely not a wimp.