Why would you have an issue with someone who doesn't cause you any grief?

There could be loads of different examples for this.

But this is just something that doesn't make any sense to me. Why do some people have an issue with other people who don't cause them any grief, who don't affect their life negatively in anyway?

It could be something as simple as someone maybe just doesn't like the way a person is living their life, they might not agree with what someone is doing or what someone does.

But the thing I don't understand is if the person isn't causing you any grief, if the person isn't affecting your life negatively in anyway, then why do you even care what the person is doing?

The thing is some people can actually dislike someone and not be nice towards someone simply because they might not like the way they're living their life, they might not agree with things they do. But some people literally dislike someone and don't act nice towards someone for this even if the person isn't negatively affecting their life in anyway.

I just don't see why anyone would care what someone else does if it doesn't affect them negatively in anyway. I would be nice to everyone who is nice to me. But like I said you get people who wouldn't like someone and wouldn't be nice to someone who is always nice to them, who doesn't affect their life negatively in anyway, but they simply wouldn't like this person or act friendly towards this person because they might not agree with other things they do.

I mean I can understand someone not liking someone if they're doing something serious, hurting other people ext. But if they aren't doing anything like that then why would you even care what someone else does if it doesn't affect you negatively in anyway?

It's kind of like some people hold other people to some sort of standard in this life, and if a person isn't meeting this standard then this is enough for some people to not like the person, to not want to really acknowledge the person and act friendly towards the person.

Like I said I'd usually be nice to everyone who is nice to me. I'd usually be nice to everyone who doesn't cause me any grief in my life. But then you get people who aren't nice or friendly to someone who don't cause them any grief, but they simply aren't nice or friendly to someone just because they don't agree with the way they're living their life, or they don't agree with something they're doing. The person basically isn't meeting this standard that the other person thinks they should be, and this is enough for the other person to dislike them.

My point is why would you even care how someone else is living their life or what someone is doing if it doesn't negatively affect you in anyway? Why would you not still act nice and friendly towards someone like this?

 

But do you think this would make you not act nice towards someone?

Like say someone was doing something that you didn't really agree with but it didn't actually affect you in anyway. Could something like this cause you to dislike the person and not act friendly towards them.

I'm not meaning doing anything serious. Like I don't mean hurting other people or anything like that. As I could see how people would dislike someone who was doing something like that.

The person might just be doing something that you don't really agree with, but it doesn't affect you in anyway. Does this cause you to dislike them and not be friendly towards them?

 

Well one example I could give you is I have a neighbour who doesn't maintain his garden. So his garden looks a mess. But the thing is it doesn't actually bother me, it doesn't affect me in anyway. He is always nice to me when I see him and I am always nice to him.

But then there is actually other neighbours on the street who don't like him, just because they think it is wrong that he is letting his garden get in to a state like that and not tidying it up.

It doesn't bother me because it doesn't affect me in anyway. It doesn't affect those other neighbours either. But because they simply think it is wrong this literally causes them to dislike this neighbour and not act friendly towards this neighbour.

This is just one example. But it is things like this I am talking about. Someone might be doing something minor that you don't really think is right, but it doesn't actually affect your life negatively in anyway, yet this is enough for some people to dislike the person and not act friendly towards the person.

I kind of see it like why not just mind your own business?

 

It's ironic, because it's semi detached houses on the street, and my house is actually the house that is joined to the neighbours house who has the really messy garden. So I actually have more of a right to be annoyed about the messy garden than the other neighbours.

Like I said it really doesn't bother me. It doesn't affect me in anyway. It doesn't affect those other neighbours in anyway either.

I think the main reason the other neighbours are annoyed is number 3. They basically just think it is shocking he lets his garden get in to a state like that, and this alone is enough for them to not like him and not act friendly towards him.

I personally think it is very wrong the way some of my other neighbours are acting like towards him. I do think they should seriously just mind their own business.

This is just one example. But there is people who literally dislike someone and don't act friendly towards someone just because they don't agree with something they do, even if what they're doing doesn't affect them in anyway.

 

I couldn't agree more.

I think what really puzzles me is how things like this can actually bother someone else to the point they don't actually like the person because of it. It really puzzles me because what the person is doing isn't actually negatively affecting the other persons life in anyway, it's just because the person basically doesn't agree with what the other person is doing, and this alone is enough for some people to dislike someone and not act civil towards someone.

 

If you read my other posts you will see I wrote I am not talking about doing anything serious like hurting other people ext. That also includes children and animals. I would understand if someone disliked and hated someone for doing these sort of things, even if it didn't affect them.

I'm talking about when someone does something that doesn't hurt any other human or creature, their not even hurting them self. They might just be doing something that someone doesn't really agree with, something that doesn't affect them in anyway, something that doesn't hurt any other human being or creature, something that doesn't even hurt them self. Usually it's overall minor things I am talking about. Yet you get a lot of people that simply won't like someone for doing these sort of things, who won't even want to be civil to someone for doing certain things.

Like a few of my neighbours not liking and not acknowledging my other neighbour for example, just because he has a messy garden. It's stuff like this I am talking about.

This is what I mean when I say some people don't like someone and aren't civil to someone when someone does something minor that doesn't even affect them, it's simply just because they don't necessarily agree with what the person does, and this is enough for these other people to be assholes basically.

Basically I don't understand why you get people who would decide to not be civil to someone like this. I don't understand why people don't mind their own business in situations like this. I don't understand how a person doing something like this could bother someone to the point it made them dislike the person.

 

Who's the d!#k though?

The person who is doing something minor that doesn't affect anybody else?

Or the person who has a serious problem with the person who is doing something minor? Who has such a problem with them that it makes them not even want to acknowledge the person or be civil to the person.