Not enough content on this forum.

Which kind of information are you missing? I am in a relationship - as many of us are. If you have a question, just ask.

 

There are a lot of people in relationships who use the forum. Most write about their issues and experiences in their journals in the age category sections.

Like @tavla said if there's a specific issue you want to talk about feel free to put up a post or ask here. I've seen plenty of interesting and useful discussions on this part of the forum.

 

In the 40+ section they do address this, perhaps not specifically. It’s also addressed here but not specifically.

 

I think it just depends on who’s posts you are reading. I only comment on the partners/or40+ section as my husband is an addict in his 50’s. Lots of partners talk about this but it’s not specific, if that makes sense. What questions do you have?

 

I'm a 20 something but also married and now with a baby on the way. It's definitely been a journey of discovery in how I have sex now that I've quit PM. I've gone from being very O focused and using my wife, to trying to focus a lot more on the shared intimacy of sex. Before I came clean to her I had developed PIED and had lost sexual attraction to her. That's definitely improved! I'm still having occasional ED and my libido isn't quite as high as I'd like but sex feels a lot better and the spark is very much back.

I think a lot of young men are on here particularly because they grew up with online P and have been heavily affected by it (myself included). For a lot of them PMO has meant they've not been able to even get into relationships or stay in relationships. I also think there are probably a lot of men in relationships who are addicted to P but don't realise or think it's a problem.

 

Last time I checked this forum was to help one another, not for your personal entertainment. If I have this wrong please let me know.

 

I joined this site a bit over 2 years ago and I can definitely say that the activity on this section of the forum seems to have decreased by 80% in the last 6 - 12 months. And I don't know why and it's confusing me too. There used to be at least one new post per day, nowadays it's more like one post per week, both in the general relationship section and the SO support section. Also I think it makes sense that the majority of (few) posts by PAs in the relationship section are from users in their 40s and 50s rather than 20s and 30s. Because the latter generations are the first generations that grew up with easily accessible internet porn, which meant being influenced by porn at the most impressionable time of their life, replacing real-life social interactions and relationships with the opposite gender with a computer screen and porn. I think that sort of early 'brainwashing' created an image of the opposite gender as merely an object for sexual pleasure, which is why they never formed any meaningful relationships. Of course that doesn't apply to everyone from that generation, but at least it's likely to happen to a porn addict.

But as others have said, if you have a specific question or idea, you can post a new thread or browse already existing threads to look for answers.

 

Yeah, i agree that content has much diminished over the past couple months. We either have a lot of shy lurkers, or exhausted partners! Maybe some of that is success stories that have less urgent need to post here or seek answers.

Personally, i have had to put distance between myself and my PA partner. I've started to try to work on myself and my emotional skills with a course in abuse and addiction for counseling. I think everyone here would benefit from it. I want to recommend it but dont know if thats against the rules.

 

It would definitely be nice to see more content from married/committed people. I'd post more myself, but the more I post outside of the women's forum, the more PMs I get from guys who either want an online affair or get some kick out of telling me how they jerked off last night. To all those who post about the more intimate details about their struggle within a relationship, thank you! It's good to see myself reflected in you.

 

Lol! I had a guy pm me asking if I wanted a dic* pic. I said no thank you and you’re mentally ill and need help perhaps see a counselor , he asked me why I was so mean. I ignore the ones who obviously do not want help. I turn in the ones who are blatantly inappropriate, and I correspond with the ones who are really looking for help and also encourage me.

 

LOL! We're porn addicts, we've seen enough penises to last a lifetime!

To be fair to this board, it hasn't been as much of an issue as I anticipated. It's always the smallest segment that causes the biggest problems.

 

Sad to hear of females being targeted in such a way. It stinks of targeting those that could be most vulnerable.
My favourite Forum here is Women in Reboot. I find that females actually talk more openly and honestly about the issues we all face albeit that I am male.