32yrs Relapsed after 1yr/half Need some guidance

Hey, Ivetic, this thread is really helpful. It discusses methods to rewire your brain. the author has been clean for over six years, and has conducted a lot of studying of how to reboot.
https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/6-years-clean-rebooting-as-the-best-remedy.135983/

Also check out youtube videos by scandanavian bob, he is great.

 

Welcome to the forums. I am glad you joined us. The simple answer to your question is: build your willpower and self discipline. The catch is that it is not so easy to increase it and addictions like PMO drains it from you. There are some methods to build self discpline and increase willpower but it is not easy. It is very similar to building muscle, you need time, effort, diet and regularity. First of all it is good to avoid all habits that drains your willpower like TV, YouTube, frequent checking checking emails / social media / phone, snacking whenever you want, bad sleeping (too short, too long, irregular), video games, alcohol, drugs etc. Of course, there is nothing wrong with checking email/social media twice a day or snacking at the weekend, watching a movie or one episode of your favourite show but watching several episodes or the whole season in one go or checking your phone every min is not good. The same applies for all these things you need to be moderate or they will make you weak. You can also boost willpower by meditation, resisting easy pleasures, exercise, breathing techniques, cold shovers etc. Also making your day organized, making some workout plan, implementing healthy routines, always get up at the same time etc. help you to strengthen your self-discipline. All these things makes you stronger but you also need a strategy to deal with the strong urges but you already know that from the above post. Good luck!

 

Welcome to NoFap!!!

 

Ivetic welcome to NoFap. If you were able to abstain for that long I'm sure you can get back to what you did. I think what's happening right now is that you're not getting past that initial period. I think once you commit to a few days or few weeks if possible you will feel like the man you were when you were on that streak. Recovery isnt over as you see and you need to get back to being that dude. In my opinion it is a mindset away. Commit to quitting porn even if you have access to it. Commit to taking your life back.

 

I’m much the same. My setup is that screentime on ios only allows certain websites & all the rest of internet is blocked off. Much like you, I feel like if I could I would definitely go watch P. I think we just have to accept that somethings are always going to be off limits. Discipline & willpower work fine for some short periods of time, but are not longterm solutions. Given the opportunity, everyone will eventually relapse, given enough time.