Newbie.

Hi Clover, welcome. There are a lot of guys here offering advice and taking it. When I look at a newbies post, I look for some key concepts. There are some key concepts I don't see in your post, such as porn or PMO. I do not wish to presume those are part of your issue, but if they are I can assure you going hard mode cold turkey, without preparation and without getting educated about the problem, usually results in frustration and a relapse. Anyway, I wanted to wish you luck. I started a thread here that may offer you nothing in the ways of useable information, but it is what I know about how to quit porn/PMO and MO. Six months clean now. My problem was never MO, MO was just a symptom of my problem. My problem was porn on the brain. Once I got that cleared out, the rest just sort of cured itself.

Here is my post.

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2402-Get-educated-get-tools-and-learn-to-love-withdrawals

First page, first link, is the most important. It is the TED talk by Gary Wilson. I watched it and quit porn completely shortly thereafter. Once I understood what my problem was and what it was not, I began to form a method to beating it.

Peace.

 

Hello,

Good luck for your challenge, create an account on this site is already a big step in your fight against your addiction!

 

You are welcome Clover. I suppose I am lucky, I never did stash porn, there's so much out there streaming it never occurred to me.

Now that you have identified porn as your problem and have taken some steps to get educated, I suggest you use tools to help you fight the problem. I am speaking of porn blockers. You probably think they are ridiculous, I know I did when I first began quitting, but they do actually help, if only by slowing you down if you compulsively search for porn. A lot of guys recommend K9, though I run Firefox and I run FoxFilter. Also, take time to understand what your triggers are. If you do have a porn problem you have more than just one trigger and more than one way of accessing it. I see guys here, from time to time, that manage to stay off their computer, but still access it via smart phone. Get smart, start to think ahead about how to avoid triggers. And withdrawals...they suck, but you can't get to clean without walking through them, so, prepare yourself, don't just wake up one day with the trembles and the sweats asking "what's this?" Maybe you won't have withdrawals, some guys claim not to. I did, they felt like the worst sinus infection, headache, nausea, and the worst anxiety attack you can imagine for a few weeks, sometimes better, sometimes worse. Finally I just said "F" it, and decided if I could not sleep due to them I would just stay awake however many days and nights it took for my body to force itself to sleep.

The good news is that many guys report that if you can go 30 days without experiencing porn, you begin NOT to want to see it more than you want to, which makes it one hell of a lot easier.

Good luck on your journey.