Overcoming Femdom/Foot Fetish

Overcoming Femdom · Jul 19, 2020

Hi everyone,

WARNING: POSSIBLE TRIGGERS

My name is Matt and I’m 21 years old. At around age 12, I began watching porn. The strange thing was, however, I never once watched porn with actual sex in it. All the porn I watched was foot fetish porn with a femdom theme. At this age, I was young, so I didn’t really care. However, when I reached age 19, I got my first girlfriend. About a month into the relationship, my girlfriend (Who had had many past partners), and me (who was still a virgin), decided to have sex. We tried having sex, but the only way I was able to get and stay hard was by worshipping her feet. I was an absolute mess during the whole time, and it was a very embarrassing ordeal for me. Unsurprisingly, the girlfriend broke up with me 2 days later. After this, I successfully did nofap for 90 days. I definitely could feel the benefits from it, but I eventually went back to the foot fetish porn and PMO’d 3-4 times a week.

Flash to my second year of college. At this point, I’m feeling shitty because I still hadn’t done anything with any girl at my school. Last fall, however, I met a very nice woman. I took her to my dorm room, and things started to get hot. I managed to initially have an erection, but by the time her hand reached down my pants it was completely gone. Once again, I was extremely embarrassed. However, the girl was very sweet, saying it was okay and that she still wanted to hang out with me. I started to do nofap again, because I was really falling for this girl and I wanted to fuck her and make her feel good. After about 2 months of nofap (and 4 months of being with her), she was on top of me and started sucking my dick. I was really nervous to do anything sexual in the past, but this time I decided that I’ll let go of any nervousness and just try to enjoy myself. Needless to say, I came in around 5 minutes and it felt wonderful. My girlfriend was and still is an absolute angel. She agreed to take things slow with me, and about a month after the BJ, we woke up one morning and I decided I was going to finally have sex with her (Of course, if she was in the mood as well). She was in the mood (she always is now hahaha), and we had mediocre sex. However, she knew that I was practically a virgin. Even though our first sex was mediocre, it filled me with pure bliss. Not only was I not a virgin, but I now knew that I could get and stay hard during sex. Our sex has only gotten better since then.

I’d just like to thank everyone on nofap, and that if I can get through this, anyone can. Sex used to always be on my mind, but for all the wrong reasons. I’d think about my future family, and how I could even have a wife and kids if my dick didn’t work properly. I was very deep down the rabbit hole of porn, but i’ve thrown it out for good. Once YOU focus on improving YOURSELF, getting women will come easily and you’ll live a much happier life.

Deleted Account · Jul 20, 2020

Hello, Matt. Congrats on your success. I waited a day to respond to this post because so that I could mull over a few things first.

I can't speak for femdom, but I certainly understand acquiring fetishes that are illogical, outside my sexuality, or downright dangerous. With time and healing, I have noticed my preferences are shifting back to normal and my compulsion is decreasing. It sounds like femdom is a pretty serious concern of yours and you're probably right that it is not healthy to entertain.

Regarding feet, however, I am not sure this is entirely porn-induced. I developed a foot fetish during a period of time when I was in a stable and loving relationship with frequent sex and no porn at all (my issues with PMO started later). After exhaustive research, I came to find that this fetish is shockingly common in men and there may even be important evolutionary reasons why it exists, but I wont't get hung up on defending it.

I guess the point I am trying to make is, you might always have certain preferences. Some will be shocking and you can do without entirely, but others will still be there with less compulsion and obsession. Don't beat yourself up if you continue to like certain things throughout/after your recovery, because what happens behind closed doors with content and consenting real adults is never wrong.

Kudos to you for facing your problems. Im sure you will find that abstinence from PMO/MO will lead to meaningful and loving experiences with other humans. I wish you good luck with your relationship and your recovery.

Cheers.

ExFetishist · Jul 20, 2020

You are one of my heros now. You show us that it is possible to overcome femdom addiction.

Spiffball · Jul 20, 2020

Congratulation Matt! This is really some great news and whether we say it to you or not, I think you are giving many people that search up things like how to overcome a foot fetish a lot of hope. I think the most important and amazing part was how even in the time of nervousness you chose to fight the fears and be sexual. I think the key is to find someone that is willing to work with you and work your way up from there.

Really amazing news and I hope you keep this strength forever!

Prince6543 · Jul 21, 2020

Overcoming Femdom said: ↑

Hi everyone,

WARNING: POSSIBLE TRIGGERS

My name is Matt and I’m 21 years old. At around age 12, I began watching porn. The strange thing was, however, I never once watched porn with actual sex in it. All the porn I watched was foot fetish porn with a femdom theme. At this age, I was young, so I didn’t really care. However, when I reached age 19, I got my first girlfriend. About a month into the relationship, my girlfriend (Who had had many past partners), and me (who was still a virgin), decided to have sex. We tried having sex, but the only way I was able to get and stay hard was by worshipping her feet. I was an absolute mess during the whole time, and it was a very embarrassing ordeal for me. Unsurprisingly, the girlfriend broke up with me 2 days later. After this, I successfully did nofap for 90 days. I definitely could feel the benefits from it, but I eventually went back to the foot fetish porn and PMO’d 3-4 times a week.

Flash to my second year of college. At this point, I’m feeling shitty because I still hadn’t done anything with any girl at my school. Last fall, however, I met a very nice woman. I took her to my dorm room, and things started to get hot. I managed to initially have an erection, but by the time her hand reached down my pants it was completely gone. Once again, I was extremely embarrassed. However, the girl was very sweet, saying it was okay and that she still wanted to hang out with me. I started to do nofap again, because I was really falling for this girl and I wanted to fuck her and make her feel good. After about 2 months of nofap (and 4 months of being with her), she was on top of me and started sucking my dick. I was really nervous to do anything sexual in the past, but this time I decided that I’ll let go of any nervousness and just try to enjoy myself. Needless to say, I came in around 5 minutes and it felt wonderful. My girlfriend was and still is an absolute angel. She agreed to take things slow with me, and about a month after the BJ, we woke up one morning and I decided I was going to finally have sex with her (Of course, if she was in the mood as well). She was in the mood (she always is now hahaha), and we had mediocre sex. However, she knew that I was practically a virgin. Even though our first sex was mediocre, it filled me with pure bliss. Not only was I not a virgin, but I now knew that I could get and stay hard during sex. Our sex has only gotten better since then.

I’d just like to thank everyone on nofap, and that if I can get through this, anyone can. Sex used to always be on my mind, but for all the wrong reasons. I’d think about my future family, and how I could even have a wife and kids if my dick didn’t work properly. I was very deep down the rabbit hole of porn, but i’ve thrown it out for good. Once YOU focus on improving YOURSELF, getting women will come easily and you’ll live a much happier life.
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Ok
So 3 things are required to cure foot fetish.

Willing to quit this addiction.

NoFap until your brain is healed and reset.

Sex (to rewire your brain)

Do you agree? Is this it or is there something more?

Marsbox · Jul 28, 2020

Hey Mat I am really happy to hear about that and thank you for talking about this since recently I’m going through the same. I been having a foot fetish since I was 5 and I started to watch pmo when I was 12. Back then I would watch foot fetish and normal vids, and until recently. Recently I was reading a fendom story I saw online and then decided to check out the porn ( not really into it but still curious ). So this was 3 days ago, and ever since that day for some reason I can’t get turned on by normal porn or anything like that and only thing turning me on is fendom shit, I thought about joining NoFap comm and try it out but I need someone to talk to before starting, because I been so stressed and anxious bout it since I really want to have normal sex and everything.

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