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Pied Recovery Help....

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Booker24, Jul 27, 2020.

  1. Booker24

    Booker24 New Fapstronaut

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    Im 19,So this all started about a year and a half ago I was with the girl of my dreams she was beautiful . We never did anything all we would do is just talk and talk we had a great bond we took our time on everything . Till one time maybe 8 months into it. We were alone in my car at around 2 or 3am and things start moving and I look down and my pecker was no where to be found it was dead. I was scared things started to go escalate and still nothing I was soft. Keep in mind I’m a Virgin. Till she noticed I wasn’t hard she got mad and upset she asked me to drop her off at home before she got off the car she was crying I was trying to get her but she ran inside. I was devastated. That ends up being an argument. She starts feeling insecure even after I’ve told her everything she still thought I was cheating on her . So she ends up leaving me. And I was scared I was alone . I thought to myself like Whats wrong with me why didn’t it go up. Why couldn’t I perform. Prior to that day I was a porn addict since I was maybe 12 or 13 years old. I started having gay thoughts . But I knew I wasn’t gay. I was sure of that. Till recently about 2 and a half months ago I went on NoFap. I quit porn . A month after being on it I started getting morning wood. I thought everything was good till couple days ago maybe on day 70 ish a girl came over to the house and I got hard. Just that I came inside my underwear . It was quiet embarrassing. Atleast it went up but still like is this going to get better??! Like someone help please!
     
  2. kiddomo

    kiddomo Fapstronaut

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    glad to hear you were able to resolve it, yes that would mean you are improving and you are getting better for sure
     
  3. young Dale Dan Tony

    young Dale Dan Tony Fapstronaut

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    Yes keep going and your PIED will keep recovering, never forget that!
     
  4. Yeah man it'll all be fine aslong as you stick to what you're doing, and also try not to overthink it, especially in the mkment for that'll just kill it. I had 4 month without anything until recently, but I couldn't get hard until I learnt to just be in the moment rather than worrying, now I'm fine, not had a problem since this revelation.
     
  5. kiddomo

    kiddomo Fapstronaut

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    can you explain what you went through before?
    Because I am actually worried about my situation too
     
  6. Well I had 4 months+ away from my addiction, but because of that lapse I fell back into a hole of thoughts, past and future took over me. I worried about how my past affects how I am, who I was and what I've become and I was dwelling on the thought of having to work this shitty job that I'm in until I qualify next year. It didn't help, on top of it all I worried constantly about the touch of my girlfriend, how everytime she went near my penis I wouldn't get hard and that just doesn't help. I found in a book that in bringing presence to moments most mundane, such as washing the pots, walking up the stairs and simply sitting, I could center my mind and just be aware that it was a passing moment and the thoughrs and emotions arising in me were simply an illusion, not one with who I really am, so I took this into my intimate side of my relationship and it helped to calm me, so much that with touch and simple intimacy I could forgot the anxious thoughts and truly be in the moment, which cured my ED since it was anxiety based.
     
  7. kiddomo

    kiddomo Fapstronaut

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    I believe my ed is also anxiety based, do you have tips on how I could bring this to my intimate side as well. I always have rushing thoughts no matter how hard I try to notmthink
     
  8. There's no way to suggest, you just have to do it. Take a moment, not necessarily when you're in a sexual moment, just any moment and concentrate on your breathing, just like meditating. When a thought occurs or an emotion takes over just observe it, see how you can look at it and notice it, well that's because you are not them, you are the observer if your thoughts, not the thinker itself. Your thoughts will go on regardless of whether you are conscious of them, this happens naturally to us all everyday, most of the day. When you realise how your thoughts have no sway on your own being you will be able to calm yourself. Do this as much as possible, doesn't matter when, could be in the bath or washing the pots, just be aware of the moment, the smells, the feelings and the thoughts, you can bring the same concentration into sexual situations, concentrate on the moment, not on the thoughts or the emotions, the anxiety or fear, just be in the moment.
     
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  9. kiddomo

    kiddomo Fapstronaut

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    I really like the idea on being in the moment. And when you say concentrate on the moment, do you mean the breathing and think about the breathing?
     
  10. Yeah just concentrate on the breathing, but also the feel of your body on your bed or seat, the sounds emanating around you. I think it's important to be ready for any thought, for when it arises you can simply let it pass away in the light of consciousness, await the thought in anticipation, it's a good way to keep your mind on your breath.
     

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