43 years old, beautiful girlfriend, in ED hell

Thats a fair concern. You should talk to her about this, and let her know whsts really going on so she can choose to stay for the right reasons and no misconceptions.

The concept of being an internal fantasy edger is a conversation ive been waiting to have with someone who knows it well. I have probsbly been doing it for years and i might be unable to orgasm without it. Then the question of how to escape something thats already in your own mind!

Curious about the why in your situation. I am pretty sure for me its a way of escaping my own body/identity which is so self critical i cant relax.

 

You forget about 1) Masturbation 2 ) Porn 3) Loose some weight if you have some problem with that 4) Eat highly potent food 5) Stay hydrated 6 ) Don't smoke 7 ) Rest enough 30 days all of these 7, if you can do the job then, text me . But I am sure if you do that, you will never text me for this matter . For ED to cure you need better blood circulation and rest .

Thoughts in your head can only make you more potent and ski rocket libido if you don't ejaculate .

 

One more thing .. Don't put her on pedestal . Like she is too good . No matter who she is, she is just a woman . (that can be a blockage, that you don't deserve her, or you are not as sexy as her, forget about all of that) She is just a human .

 

I sympathize with your situation. I'm the same age and I'm experiencing ED with my GF.

I stopped looking at P approx 28 days ago after I split with my ex and realised I had slipped into a habit of PMO during our relationship. I met my new girl 16 days ago and I am extremely attracted to her. So it's crazy when the D is not responding accordingly. Very upsetting.

I can usually perform once without a problem. But there is a lot going on in my head that causes anxiety about sex, my sexual performance and worrying about it during sex. I've experienced a mixture of ED symptoms including no erection, sometimes DE and sometimes PE (not sure how that's possible) usually on the second go be it sex or BJ. Sometimes I've got an erection and then at some point I notice it's waned.

I found that peeing helps if I've had sex and want to get hard for a second round so, although I will continue with no PMO, I'm also thinking about possible prostate problems. I heard that prostate massage can help contribute to your recovery from DE.

Being able to talk about it with my GF definitely helps but I don't want to make a big deal of it and it is not easy because it's so shameful to speak about with a new partner.

 

You're lucky! My wife is the opposite these days, my demands for sex make her irritable! Though we do have lots of sex still, its always me who initiates it.

 

In many ways your story is very similar to mine: I'm also 43, been edger since my teenage years and have suffered from ED problems from very young age. I've also been in couple of long relationships, both of which eventually failed. Now I'm dating a very kind and loveable woman and I'm determined to make this work. I'm on day 47, no porn, no masturbation, but I've allowed myself to have sex with her every now and then by using ED drugs because I truly feel that benefits of rewiring, closeness and intimacy outweighs the negative effects of orgasming too early in the reboot process.

 

Hey bro.Im in a similar situation .Im on day 70 now and i hit a rock again .Like you i used some ed pills almost one month in my reboot to have sex with my new gf. All went well for a few weeks .We were having sex maybe 2 times a week. Lately i lost track and started (or tried) to have sex almost every night,and sometimes morning.And without the help of those pills i failed a few times.Lost my focus during intercourse or finished way to fast.. I knew that progress is not linear ,but i was expecting it to work better after some successful experiences. Now i dont now how to approach this situation .Maybe less attempts to sex ? How much is too much?

 

It's good to have a partner, she can help you to better your current situation, do you have some erections or is it just numb?

 

Just stopping by to say hi. I'm also 43 and been struggling with ED for a while. I'm married, long term, kids are you g and there's many dynamic variables but I am hoping essentially that it is PIED and curable. I do get Viagra from the VA and a half pill has been working, but I'm hoping to ween off as this year passes and hopefully I sustain a no PMO lifestyle.

 

Take care about the pills, they create tolerance so you'd need more and more dosage, for how long are you suffering from ED?

 

I first came here in May2018 because of it. Not exactly sure how long but I do have a reference point in life to look up through my spouse to narrow it down. I think it was fall 2017?

Few points. I had retired from Army in the spring of 2017. New career and stress, and adjusting to two toddlers, etc was a lot for me. I was unhappy a depressed, etc. It's all in my Journal, which points to my first journal in 2018 and an intro post. Bottom line is I am a mess with mental health, physical health, all diminishing quickly since 2015 whereas before that I was Superman all around.

 

Wow, it's been a long time, of course the change of lifestyle can shock and help to create this situation, I'll definitely take a look at your journal, do you still get some involuntary erections or is it just numb?

 

I get turned on and hard all the time. PIED is 2nd place to PA at this point I think. I have good erections with her in bed, and then fail to maintain it. It's getting a lot better for sure. I can last for shit though - couple minutes at most anymore. I don't know when the next was is coming. I feel like a kid, I'm shaky and heart racing when I touch her now (even without pills and even if we're just cuddling).