Should everyone ditch their smartphones?

I don't actually use a smartphone, and I haven't used one in 28 months.

The reason I actually got rid of my smartphone is because I couldn't block porn and artificial sexual stimulation on my smartphone to a level I found acceptable. I couldn't block porn and artificial sexual stimulation on a smart phone anywhere near on the level I could block it on my laptop.

But being 28 months without a smartphone I honestly don't miss it. I don't even want one. I don't feel the need that I want a smartphone.

But when I went out for lunch today the amount of people I seen mucking about on there smartphones was crazy.

What I was thinking is people aren't even escaping the internet when they leave their home these days, because they are constantly on the internet on their smartphone. At least if you only used a computer or laptop you'd actually completely be away from the internet every time you leave your home. But like I said a lot of people are never escaping the internet, because they are on the internet constantly when they are at home, and constantly on the internet on their smartphone when they are not at home.

 

Through my own personal experience with using blockers, having a good blocking system on my laptop, seriously restricting my self through getting rid of all devices except my laptop, I completely disagree with you.

Sure if you have a rubbish blocking system on your computer and it's easy to bypass, then I'm not surprised this doesn't work.

Sure if you have a good blocking system on your computer that's next to impossible to bypass but you can just go get another device and go on porn and artificial sexual stimulation with that then I am not surprised this doesn't work.

It's a bit different when you only have one device you can access porn and artificial sexual stimulation on though, and you have this blocked to the point you basically can't access any porn or artificial sexual stimulation on it, and it is next to impossible to bypass. Potentially impossible to bypass.

I guess in a way you do have a point though, because I do still sometimes relapse, as I can plan to get porn and artificial sexual stimulation a week in advance, and I do occasionally do this. But the system I have in place compared to easily being able to access porn and artificial sexual stimulation is like night and day.

The system I have in place I'd say 95% of the time I'm never on porn or artificial sexual stimulation. I get month long streaks constantly away from all porn and all artificial sexual stimulation with the system I have in place. Where as if I didn't have this system in place I know for a fact I would likely be relapsing and binging constantly.

I mean I agree blockers don't really work if you have a rubbish blocking system that you can easily bypass, that you can still access loads of artificial sexual stimulation on. I agree even if you have a good blocking system in place on your computer but you can just easily get another device to go on porn and artificial sexual stimulation then I agree this doesn't really work either.

But restricting your self to the point you have one device you can access the internet on, you have one device you can access porn and artificial sexual stimulation on, and having this device blocked to the point you can't access any porn or artificial sexual stimulation, you can't access anything that would cause you relapse, and you have a set up where it is next to impossible to bypass, potentially even impossible to bypass. Doing all of this is a completely different system, which I believe through my own personal experience does for the majority of the time work.

That being said I do believe if you are strong enough to use your own willpower and stay away from porn and artificial sexual stimulation this way, then this is the best way.

But what if you know for a fact that you aren't strong enough to stay away from porn and artificial sexual stimulation just using your own willpower? What if you know for a fact that you will likely relapse and binge much more just trying to use your own willpower? Then what is the answer for guys like this?

Like I said I constantly get month long streaks away from all porn and artificial sexual stimulation, and I 100% put this down to the system I have in place.

I could only imagine how much more I would be relapsing and binging, getting no where near month long streaks if I didn't have this system in place.

I don't believe I am back to square one after every relapse, or even every binge. I know some guys believe that, but I certainly don't. Constantly getting month long streaks completely away from all porn and artificial sexual stimulation is clearly adding up. But I am trying to push my self further, getting longer and longer streaks.

 

This is something that somewhat concerns me. Maybe I more feel this way because of the way I do achieve streaks is by completely restricting myself, and it doesn't really have so much to do with willpower.

But what really concerns me is I have a worry that I will always have an issue with PMO. I don't really believe I will ever get to a stage I am strong enough to just completely cut this out my life altogether just through willpower alone.

I think a lot of guys believe that after they have been away from porn and artificial sexual stimulation for so long, that this will cause them to not feel the need to go on porn and artificial sexual stimulation the same, that urges and cravings to use it will be much less. That they will somehow now be completely in control and never need to worry about relapse again.

Where as I believe ending up back on that stuff could easily happen, and is even likely to happen, regardless how much you have recovered.

Simply feeling horny could cause you to get a powerful urge to want to go on it. Feeling stressed or low in life could cause you to get a powerful urge to want to go on it. Even just feeling bored could cause you to get a powerful urge to want to go on it.

Something I have actually noticed is after I have been on a lot of longer streaks I actually haven't enjoyed PMOing as much initially. But what I noticed is it didn't take much for it to get a grip of me again, for me to get extreme pleasure from it again, for me to feel like I couldn't control my self again. This happens quickly. Initially it's not as enjoyable, and then before I know it I can't stop doing it again.

I do believe urges overall will be much less than what they used to be the more we recover. But I don't believe this would cause me to become so strong that I could always just refuse it, and like I said it doesn't take long to get a grip of me again when I do start using it again.

It's a great feeling when I get a powerful urge to use it but I simply can't get it. It's sort of a feeling like I don't even need to try to refuse it but I simply can't get it. I couldn't count the amount of times I have been desperate for it but just done without because I couldn't get it.