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Anxiety from real females

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Liven, Aug 5, 2020.

  1. Liven

    Liven Fapstronaut

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    The last 2-3 weeks i’ve been dealing with anxiety. However now i get anxiety started sometimes when i see women in public.

    Recent weeks i’ve started to react with what i think is an anxietyattack-like reaction when i see some girls/women in public. My mind/body reacts with what i think is anxiety, i feel like i lose control allmost and feeling lightheaded, weak body and my mind is like ”You need to look at this!” like it gets obsessed. I dont know why and i i dont like it.

    Why do my mind/body react likes this? Im starting to feel like i dont want to go out anymore because these effect i’ve gotten during the last 2-3 weeks.

    It happens more easily and often when im in a emotionelly more fragile state when i already feel some anxiety built up in my body and thinking over and over about stuff related to nofap.

    Maybe it’s using my fear of failure? Maybe it my old body/mind trying to drag me back, but it uses real girls.

    I just felt the need to write, and if anyone have any input or similiar experience i’d be intersteing.
     
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  2. To be honest I shouldn't even be replying because I have no idea what you're going through, but I want to help. You've been PMO free for 91 days, which means at least 91 days without sex, maybe more. Do you have girl friends? If not, then maybe the lack of sex combined with the lack of talking to actual girls creates this anxiety. If you do have girl friends, then maybe there's fear of getting to know them and failing, like you said. Did I get close?
     
  3. Liven

    Liven Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for replying. Sex was a long time ago, march 2019. Since im having ED i can't date or pick up girls, even when i have oppurtinety. My best friend is a girl (also my ex), however besides here i dont meet a lot of new women since this reason. I think this has something to do with my old self trying to get me back to pmo. Since when i react with anxiety its more anxiety than excitement. It's very strange and i hope it will pass. I get a strong feel of fear of failure of relapse when this happens, so the brain triggers some sort of fear wich causes anxiety. Strange, i hope it will pass soon.
     
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  4. Good luck, my friend. There were many things that I did not understand as well, regarding real women. I ended up never figuring it out but those feelings passed. The same will happen to you, have faith. This path is the right one, keep at it and stay strong.
     
  5. All females or just attractive ones? I get anxiety around females I’m attracted to
     
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    I've noticed a pattern that i often react likte that to teens who where leggings/spandex, and also new type of sweatpants but they are thight. I've allways have a weakness from spandex/leggings since i even was young. I dont know what regards as fetish. However it freaks me out since i don't want to be a creep who can find teens attractive. It makes me sad and dissapointed in myself.
     
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  7. You need to separate things inside your head. You need to be able to see a big butt and not find it inherently sexual. Of course this is hard, but we go to the beach and see people nearly naked, right? It's the same thing, it just requires practice.
     
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    Liven Fapstronaut

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    Yes your right, i think that im in a state that is very fragile and sensitive emotionelly and also to triggers. Until around day 75 i had amazing confident i was also at the beach and saw girls in biknin and just looked away no problem and they really didnt bother me. Im in a real trial phase right now.
     
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  9. Y'all get anxiety because you are scared of yourself. In truth, the woman you are looking for should be the first to get anxiety, how you should try to approach a woman that is litteraly a piece of meat that should wish just your dick At this point we are saying that sex is the only thing we want from partner, not the love. So if you think this is what a women is searching fro! you, Turnabout and search someone else.

    Sorry for the outburst.
     

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