66 days in. Apparently not at all recovered.

90 days will not cure everyone, it's a general goal to strive for. The "resetting" you talked about means rewiring your brain to have normal sexual functions. When you mention real sex being worse than porn, that's your addicted brain speaking. Abstinence will slowly heal you and reverse that thought process.

EDIT: By the way, taking a peek is not good, it can lure you into relapse.

 

90 days is nothing.
I am on my 96 day soft mode...and I am far from recovered. Keep pushing.

 

Hey man, I am struggling really hard with this sissy porn hell too. For me, it is something so strong that nearly nothing can overcome it. Once that ball gets rolling in my own head of self doubt and everything that turns me on about it, it is almost like an entirely different person takes over. I am on my third attempt at a reboot (sitting at 15 days porn free) and am also pretty uncertain what is going to happen or if I will be able to overcome this. Story is too long to include in this comment but you can find it here: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/sissy-porn-and-lifestyle-is-killing-me-help.285074/ . The times when I have felt the furthest away from it and all the self destructive/horrific thoughts has always been when I've had my life together the most. Or maybe not even had my life together the most, but I was doing and pursuing things in my life that had meaning. I know thats probably what many people have said on here, but it is the truth. So far, just stopping PMO has not been enough for me and it might not be enough for you. You know very well how powerful this shit is. It is going to take something very powerful to overcome it. No matter how many relapses you have or reboots you have to attempt, you gotta keep trying. Your life is worth it. Our lives are worth it. A good life, thats not consumed by this poison. I am considering seeing a therapist. Might be good for you too. Keep fighting brother, I hope we make it out

 

Don't have your mind set on a set amount of days. Instead put your sights on a better life. PMO must go completely. Have patience my friend, just keep up the fight. You will get there. Start shaping your new life!

 

I reset it after 250 days. The process taught me a lot. Do I regret it? I'm very regretful. But don't give up. We must take control of this end of life habit. As your friend mentioned, we shouldn't be stuck on days. The important thing is to be in control.

 

The reality is that once you are an addict you are always an addict. So if you return to your addition you just slide back down that slope. It is why persons with alcohol addiction continue to go to AA meetings even years after. The temptation never fully goes away. From experience, when you take a good break from porn and then go back the stimulation and pleasure is better. This makes you want to do it more and more. Do not fall for this, you will end back feeling just the way you did before you decided to call it quits. This can be avicious cycle.

Porn is stimulating! That is why it is so addictive. You add in masturbation and you are pretty much screwed. So like the guys above said, it is about control and staying consistent. PMO will almost always feel good at the time.

Resetting is about getting you back to a place where normal sexual interactions are pleasing. Consistent PMO will impact your ability to be with a real partner. Only time away from PMO will allow you to readjust to being with real person. Eventually you senses will become in tune with real sex, the touch, smell and warmth of another human being. Just keep away from the porn, life will improve as a result.

And just to reiterate some of the other persons who commented. NoFap is a journey about self improvement. It is not just about stopping PMO. It is about building yourself a better life. The time and energy you spent sitting engaging in PMO could have been dedicated to more productive activities. Part of the recovery process is to improve your life, this may be exercise, starting a new business, learning a new skill, forming a relationship with a partner etc.

Stay strong bro!! Don't let it suck you back in.

 

I have the same issue...ive done so much gross stuff can anyone please help...im on the subreddit, same name i really need advice on this

 

96? I'm on fucking 163 and still get urges that last hours, and by hours I mean 5 or 6

 

urges for sex or for porn?

 

I guess since I'm 14, yeah porn

 

I would say 90 days is just a good starting point, for many 90 days with out PMO allows the body and mind a long enough break that you will normally see a change in the direction of your improvement. In general, before NoFap you would be heading down and after 90 days of NoFap things should be improving. E.g. For many who suffered with porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED), they may find that after 90 days they can an erection again with a partner they find attractive. In may not be the best erection, and your sexual performance will still be diminished but you have moved from being flaccid and impotent to being able to get an erection and have sex. Essentially 90 days is the start of the continued improvement journey for many. I view it as a small milestone on your path to sobriety.

 

how are you now? any of you?

 

Doing well, how about you?

 

82 hours without porn. Some hours ago I had hardcore problems, I started to shake, it is 28 degrees here, but I was freezing, I wanted to watch porn, but started a 10 minute workout video, and at the end it was better. Still fighting....thanks for asking.