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Can sex toys help

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by rishi123, Aug 9, 2020.

  1. rishi123

    rishi123 Fapstronaut

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    So I'm 30 years old.... I started porn and fapping at age of 14...half of life wasted.. My nerves damaged.... From past 3-4 years, I'm recovering with nofap...... I want to marry next year..... But I have premature ejaculation problem.. I can't last longer than few seconds... I'm impotent.... So can sex toys help my marriage?? I dont want to lose my vitality after marriage....so I want to use sec toys....Something like strapon hollow etc..... Any advise please.... Will they help in marriage..
     
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  2. Rustcan45

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    Do you already have a gf or are you just setting a goal? I hear about men with erectile dysfunction induced by porn but not the opposite effect.
     
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  3. DrabToLight

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    Could you explain a little more? How do are you impotent with premature ejaculation?
     
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  4. rishi123

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    Your body gets developed completely by the age 21....starting fap after 18 or 21 doesn't effect much, as our organs already developed.... But when you abuse yourself at age 14...it effects your organ development..... So years of abuse, porn addiction destroyed me.... Now i'm recovering from porn damage.... But I can't do anything with ED, as it's a permanent damage...... Few have this problem....i won't be able to stay strong with future spouse... So I want to use sex toys....
     
  5. Prince6543

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    Yes, physical growth stops after 21.
    But mind can develop and can be reformed even at 40 age.
     
  6. I would suggest a doctor. First an urologist then a psychiatrist.
    Sex toys won't help you.
     
  7. Just be sure to tell your potential spouses about this before marriage. Using sex toys is a mutual decision.
     
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  8. rishi123

    rishi123 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you... That's our only hope... Taking mind in control, the last option...
     
  9. rishi123

    rishi123 Fapstronaut

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    Useless... Urologists, doctors don't have much clue on ED, porn effects... waste of money..
     
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  10. rishi123

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    Yes.. I will surely tell..... But want to know how comfortable couples are... Good if some experienced give suggestions
     
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  11. Why don't you make a poll about it bro?
     
  12. ccml

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    You're getting premature ejaculation because you got used to jerking in 2 minutes to porn. Nofap will help, believe me. It did help me.
     
  13. Use sex toys? Why? Have you just given up on yourself altogether that you want to rely on those? I wouldn't suggest that man. Yup it is your choice after all. But while focusing on a recovery you shouldn't think about not recovering. If you're considering sex toys, you've already somewhat given up. I haven't given up on you, others here haven't given up on you. It can take about 1-2 years for recovery even if it takes more, your recovery should be your priority over anything else, i.e. marriage. You hustle and marry, your personal problems will ruin your marriage, so what's the point of it? 16 years isn't half of your life it's literally less than 1/4th of it. You can heal bro. Trust me, give me 1 year, I'll help you out to get back to normal.
     
  14. rishi123

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    Thank you for support bro.....i had stayed away from fapping for almost 500 days in between, longest streak.....but things dint heal as expected. Some things are permanently damaged....Rather than losing vitality after marriage, I want to conserve my vitality...that is i dont want to spill my milk, which makes me further weak. Every drop is precious.....so I want to use Toy as replacement......
     
  15. Bro you didn't heal because you didn't have the right mindset. Healing takes place at a mental level more than just physical level.
     
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  16. rishi123

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    Bro you can heal mentally over a time.. But physically you can't... I understand this...
     
  17. Arjuna's path

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    Hey mate!. I would tell you that what you make in your bed must be measured in how both of you feel while having sex. Remember that having sex is not just about penetrating, there are a lot of things, including positions, hugging, holding, caressing, obviously kissing, etc. 2 mins of penetrations is more than enough, sometimes, remember that we assume a lot of false claims from our society, like sex is not sex if it doesn't go for more than half hour, or if you are not a pornstar is better not to (even) try.
     
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  18. billijean1990

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    I once had this problem and this is how I solved it. The urologist told me that my body has lost the habit of having sex with a woman, so you can't help yourself with your hands, just forbid yourself to do it. You need to have sex with a girl more often, and then the quick ejaculation will pass. You are not impotent; by the way, it is better to take another ointment for warming blood vessels with a cooling effect, sold in any sex shop. I tried the take remote control classic vibrator for a girl, but she said that I was better, and the toy would remain in reserve just in case.
     
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  19. Little Prince

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    There is no such thing as undeveloped genitals, your issues are in your mind. You can recover from this. Make sure you quit all forms of porn, sexy pictures, sexy music videos, social media, fantasising about sex, browsing dating apps, etc.
     
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  20. Peter.Parker10

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    Are you sure you stopped all the porn and masturbation for the number I see in your badge? This sounds really bad, and if you stopped all of it, I suggest you better go to see a urologist.
     
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