20+ year old virgin, should I go see an escort/prostitute?

Do what you can do about your appearance. Make sure to be clean, dress nice etc. I highly doubt that you are actually ugly. Some girl out there will find you attractive.

 

Hello mate. My case is very similar to you. I'm 22 and also a virgin.
I also have some acne scars in my back. Since I remember, I've been fighting to have some self confidence. It's been hard. However, since I started NoFap I noticed a huge change on confidence. I feel different, in a better way.

I am sure you have good physical features. Maybe you are tall, have good eyes, good eyebrows, ears, I don't know and I also do not care. It does not matter. Sometimes I forget this too. It is a hard path to walk. There are thinigs you cannot change that easily, do not worry about that unless your health is very compromised.

You have to be honest and start thinking about the real things that matter in life.

Another thing that I would like to mention is something I'm also struggling with. I'm not that in contact with girls. Now, with the pandemic stuff I'm not going anywhere but before I was not trying to interact with them either. So that is something you need to change. I need to change that too.

I know how you feel because I kind of feel the same sometimes. I hate when people say everyone has its time because I've been waiting for 22 years and I do not want anymore. The only solution is to go and try to change the things we can change.

Anyways, I hope you keep doing well.
Take care!

 

Here's a poem for you:

You're a virgin? Man, so what?
You're an addict? Focus on that!

 

I feel the same because women are very demanding nowadays.

But the first thing to do, if you haven't started, is to complete a full 90 day reboot.

You don't have to go to an escort.

You can improve your self esteem through the NF program,

and then you can have sex with a single woman who is not an escort.

First, get your life together so that it spins like a top.

Then, decide what kind of woman or relationship you want.

It will all come together, but you have to put in the work,

my friend.

kmp brother!

 

I’d be proud and glad to be a virgin on your place. It’s great! You can step into marriage without ever having slept with someone.

 

I look back on my life and I would quite happily have my virginity back.
You keep going on this journey and one day you will meet someone who will absolutely love the fact your a virgin its a very attractive trait. And rare. Your doing the right thing stay away from escorts especially given the state of the world imagine dying of covid from paying to lose something so precious. Heck.
Also the person you see in the mirror will be someone you are very happy with once you've started to heal and you understand just how much you have to offer just gotta let time heal some of those emotional scars and they will your in the right place. Stay strong your gonna make it.

 

I echo that, and also, I can tell you one thing that every man over 30 will

agree with:

sex is all build up, and is not that great.

(This is to the thread-composer, not necessarily you, Henry.)

 

NO.

You’re fuckin’ fighting PMO, sex Addiction,
And you feel you should hire an escort!
Do you wanna further worsen your misery?


Start reading books to improve your self confidence, stop fapping, Find a Girl for yourself.

 

Okay, that’s how you feel now. Wait till you be in a real one.

That’s not the only thing that matters.

“Pretty sure”? Have you talked about that to one? Experienced that with many?

I think it’s the Confidence that kills ‘em.

 

That's good advice.

 

I've noticed some pressure in other answers. In my view, each of us has own life and own ways to go through and make it better. Maybe, somebody could get a benefit by having sex with prostitute. Maybe that experiance might teach one something (just in case: I am not promoting prostitution and use of their services, I don’t think it’s a good thing).

For me, what's really important here, is to try to understand your true desire behind the intention to pay for sex. For example you can ask yourself "Why do I want to have sex with prostitute?". Next, if you want to have an orgasm, then "why I can't just masturbate?". Because it's unnatural behavior which causes changing in our brain. Okay, then "Is having sex with prostitute so natural? Is this really what I want to achieve?". And so on.

For example I'm also virgin. I had desire to use escort services. I was thinking that this gonna make me more confident with girls. But then I thought - will it really happen that after that I will immediately find the courage to approach and meet the girls I like? Will I really stop being embarrassed and complex in front of a beautiful girl? I'm not sure that one visit to prostitute gonna change me that much.

Speaking about your appearance - probably for many women this is not the main trait they are looking for in men. At least not the only one. Here too, I would like to ask, do all people who have a boyfriend / girlfriend have a perfect appearance? I guess not. At the same time, nothing prevents you from being neat and well-groomed, dress well, have good manners, etc.

(sorry if I made any mistakes, I'm not perfect in english)

 

Tip look for some one with same level of beauty, if your average looking, look for average looking also, not all women are models you know. You can try to chase models, but lets be honest everyone is looking for their level of beauty, so if you get rejected be realitistic, you are not attracted to all woman too right ? Everyone has preferences, but have realistic preferences 4 yourself. Try to improve your looks as much as you can, dressing nice, take care of hair, teeth etc. Eat well, keep fit, go to the gym or do some sports. Have some goals, Build your life, be financial independant, save for car house pension, work on your carreer etc.