Time to become real men.

Wrong...

90 days means something...

It means that you had the strength and discipline to condition your body and mind to attain a certain goal, and you succeeded in getting there.

What it doesn't mean is...

You'd get women falling left and right for you. Your President will award you with a shiny medal for excellence. Your town would erect a statue in your name. And your friends would bow down to you and kiss your feet.

 

VERY well said FalsePromise. And I agree completely. One point of clarification, though, it is HER with some resentment and not me. I feel stronger about my future than ever. Not sure exactly why, but it's almost as if I am not even thinking of a "streak" this time....it's like a "decision" instead of a streak.

And, yes, her and I are both using her minor angst as a motivator.

Thank you. It's plain to see that you are inspiring a LOT of men here. Keep up the great work.

 

We have ALL been here. So don't despair. We have all despaired....so keep coming back. It's the will to keep getting back on your feet that matters most.

 

yes! It's funny about how men say oh no I relapsed, but dude....

you did WANK your dick and you lost your semen. No one is stopping you. So @MHero is correct when he said that to the other guy.

Yes as a male myself, I get how strong the need to wank, etc. I am a man. I GET THIS, but what is important is this: If you want to retain your semen, just don't wank. That's it. No one is forcing you to do this. No one.

Truthfully, I'd trade for a lifetime with sex with a girl over just wanking. If I have regular sex, I wouldn't even be thinking about wanking at all. I would just go to her and have sex. That's healthy. That's real connection with a female. Human connection. When you are wanking, it's just you and your hand. Having sex beats that anytime.

Own your actions then move on. If you are struggling, maybe it's time for you to start dating and find a girl and when you are ready, have sex. We as men are meant to have sex.

I don't think our male ancestors cavemen really did jack off. They just have sex. That's the most healthiest biological urge.

They did actually research that when we have sex, the orgasms are much better and stronger. That alone should explain why jacking off doesn't make sense biologically.

So find a girl. Develop human connections with your friends/family/girlfriend, etc... instead of just focusing on your own hand. Go out have a beer. Have hobbies with your friends. Life's short Enjoy it, but not over your hand. Get where I'm going?

I'm just having an insight. I was just thinking I don't want my life to be defined by having series of orgasms done by jacking off. I want to get married and experience the deepest intimacy. But not... to the hand.... yes to a human.

 

True, I shouldn't care about days, I had times likes that when I don't care about my counter. I think that counting days is a way to track progress (can be a motivation too). I'll change this mindset "Stop counting days, @MHero stop counting days." because I'm struggling right now, I'm open to change, and fight stronger.

You said that "Failure comes from a lack of conviction", I agree, after each relapse I swear that I'll stop forever, after a couple of days, I miss the false pleasure of watching P, "The false promise", as you call it.
So I'm living in a loop, an inner war between my conscience and my primary brain. Yes, I fail because I don't have conviction, how can I have this conviction? My conviction die by time and even when I try to remember my goals, relapses pain, even if I told myself that I'm wasting my life, the urges still won each time.

All, I can do is learn, change, and try again.

YES TRUE, I'll aim for building a life styling, I'll do semen retention forever.

Thanks, bro, I'm despaired, right now, I cry, I don't want to be a porn-addicted, I deserve more than that, this act is very low, devil and destructive, I don't want to be a low man. I want to be successful, happy, I want to be a good man.
I wonder why I get addicted to porn? I think that most the men watched porn at least once in their life, but they didn't get addicted, why me? Never mind
I have to fight, sometimes I wish if I'm addicted to something else rather than porn.
I believe that this is an opportunity for me to build the best version of me, I'll use my addiction as fuel to success. I'll build this lifestyle, free from porn and masturbation.

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Thank you, my friends, for your support, I can't find enough words to thank you all. You are a group of elite people, I'm glad that I'm with you here.
Good luck my friends

 

Thank you for the thoughtful reply FalsePromise. To elaborate on the use of the term "decision" a bit: I truly feel differently this time. I have no "goal" at all. I don't care if it's 100 days, 500 days, or never again. I have simply chosen to be done. It's been very liberating.......and much easier.

Obviously, the danger is ALTERING that decision. So I am far from out of the proverbial woods. But for now, I have very little worry about this whole thing. It's far calmer now. Urges seem gone. And I don't think it's "flatline", I think my mind knows what I decided and has no choice but to go along for the ride.

Thank you again.

 

Excellent video. Agreed, VERY appropriate to the observation StarRider made.

 

Create a better site then? Put your money where your mouth is? Lead by example?

Or are you just empty talk?

 

Yes, You wouldn’t have thought of WANKING had you not been exposed to P.
P has popularised this concept.

What’s sad is, I remember when I was in Grade 6 or 7,
A bunch of kids would ask people, “Do you shake?”. Few’d get what they Were saying. I didn’t know what they were referring to!
Until Over the years, I got to, by hearing from such spoilt people.
And One day My curiosity Struck me, at night while on Fox Life!
It was done.
I slowly started to resort to P.
I consider Myself Lucky I didn’t watch weird shit. I quit P within the 6 months I had started it. I’m fighting MOing now.

So these kids, merely 10 to 11 years old, are having their ideals spoilt by P!
This is Indirectly, a Cyber-Sexual Attack. These websites are not banned in my country. They do not ask for age before giving access to videos.
I hope someone helps these kids.

 

You whine. That's not a suggestion.

 

And I don't understand why you are still here, when you hate the people running it, and the userbase so much. Everytime I see one of your posts on threads by people who don't believe the same thing as you, you insult them and call them petty names and try to sound intellectually flaccid. And yeah, you whine. A lot.

 

I was talking to my friends about this the other day.

Imagine if there's no porn industry and imagine no one wanks off their dick (Impossible reality, I know, but just in this case, hypothetically speaking).

What would the world be like?

Very different. If sex is THE only outlet to control your sexual energy, you bet you'll devote TIME in finding the best girlfriend.

This is one reason why LDS men find girlfriends so easily and so fast - why? They aren't allowed to wank off according to their religion and only can have sex after marriage. So they DEVOTE all their energies in dating women, and not on porn. It's one reason why most of them are married in early 20s.

We men waste too much time on porn. Waste too much on wanking. We should be devoting our energies toward having healthy human relationships.

Find a girlfriend or boyfriend or partner. Whatever. Just have real human connections. That's what matters most.