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Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Darren hutto, Aug 13, 2020.

  1. Darren hutto

    Darren hutto Fapstronaut

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    i fear sometimes I can’t overcome my addiction to porn it’s weird it’s like having a long term relationship with a woman and when you want to break it off with her she keeps coming around just to keep you around her and with her and when you to to quit porn it’s the same way because of all the problems you have with quitting porn withdrawals and to get free of this addiction you have to fight like hell to get free from her I was using the girlfriend as an example thanks nofap family
     
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  2. Alpharon

    Alpharon New Fapstronaut

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    Hello @Darren hutto
    Whatever you resist..will persist.

    I suggest you should let go of streaks and fighting yourself for now. Go one day without PMO. If you relapse...learn from it. Also try to keep it vanilla as possible if you must relapse or even better if you can stick to MO with fantasy.

    Too often, we bully ourselves to gain some streak of no pmo but then binge proportional to the size of the streak if we relapse. Its much easier to taper this addiction without fighting ourselves for every little slip/setback.

    What you must avoid are heavy binges that really harms your reboot. Went 7 days and then slipped and pmo once...no problem..forgive yourself..you’re only human..and get back on the wagon.

    I’ve found it better this way than to always fight myself and sometimes binge for not making that ever elusive 30/60/90 + days.
    Just my opinion...
     
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  3. Really good analogy, man. I suppose on the one hand, getting rid of devices is less personal than getting rid of a human, but on the other hand, the draw is inside your own head, so it's a psychological game, and devices are hard to avoid altogether.

    I agree with the post above, though. When all hope seems lost, rein in your expectations and take the next tiny step forward. Just one step at a time - pressure is a killer. Kill the addiction with kindness, rather than killing yourself with despair.
     
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  4. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    I hear you, man! We all do. This is NOT an easy thing to get rid of. Its not like a bad habit. Its an addiction, and as such, it is EXTREMELY hard to fight. That's why there are so many resources and an entire 12 step program devoted to fighting it. I'm in therapy for it (which I encourage all addicts to do as well!!) and I decided to write a letter to porn. Basically, it starts with "Dear porn,...." and it is written as if it were to an actual person, and goes into detail about how good I felt when I was with "her" and that when we weren't together, I was always thinking of her. I loved that she never got jealous, no matter who else I looked at, but that she was poisonous to me, even though it never felt like it when we were together. Its like drug addicts doing to hard street stuff that tears them up, but they feel so good doing it. Porn obviously doesn't tear our bodies up like those hard street drugs do, but it still does damage. It does damage to me, my wife, our kids, and everyone that cares about me because I shut them out and they were never as important to me as my porn was. But now that I've separated myself from the porn, I can see all the damage it was doing and how it never cared for me the way my wife, kids, family, & friends always have and always will.

    THAT is why this fight is worth fighting.

    BEST of luck, my friend!!
     

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