Holy shit does it ever end?

One of the best advice I got is start small. Find one new habit that you want to do every day, and do it consistently for a week or two. Then you can add another one and do the same thing. You can't just stop porn, you have to change your life. You have to replace your bad habits with good ones.

Porn blockers don't work, pill don't work, because the change has to come from you. From the inside. Also, identify what triggers you, so that when you have urges you can disarm them by recognizing the trigger. It takes practice. You will struggle. But if you keep trying you can succeed.

I also recommend reading as much as you can on NoFap. Understanding how the brain is trying to trick you.

Good luck, friend!

 

To all the people who doubt this person, stop. That's not helpful.
I've just hopped of the same boat. I can happily masterbate 10 times in a day. My usual was 7. You get two or three where you cum (less each time) then it gets thinner and eventually nothing comes out at all. I've wanked myself to the point where I couldn't even get hard and still reached orgasm many times. Doesn't take long when you're just going for a quick hit.

I'm younger than you, just turned 30. I'm 17 days no pmo right now and I am a complete mess. It's hard and every moment where I think I could get away with it I'm finding the best thing to do is get out of there asap to avoid temptation. Quick showers, no baths, no being alone indoors anywhere. You can do it, weaning off won't work. You need to cold Turkey if you're anything like me.

 

You don't have a brain tumor, you are just having hypochondria symptoms as a result of PMO. Trust me, I know all about that. Paranoid thoughts, etc, is a result of too much PMO. You also most likely don't have a high sex drive. Most of us in this forum think we do, but we really have just been conditioned by porn. When you recover you will find that you sex drive balances out and your fearful and negative thoughts disappear.

Best of luck, my friend.

 

Call me heartless, skeptic, whatever, but if therapy didn't work and you've been fapping over 5 times a day for more than 20 years... I don't think anyone here is even able to help you.

Doesn't mean we won't try, but anyway. Why can't you stop, exactly? I want you to pinpoint the reason that makes you fap when you try to abstain.

 

Hey, you're in a tight spot, but nothing's impossible. I believe that you can win against your addiction, but it would take a lot of dedication. You're ONLY 40, so living in this nightmare for another 40 or so is going to be even more painful, since your organism will get weaker and weaker. It's high time to stop it, but you really have to dedicate your time.

I think that based on your description it will take more than 90 days to feel recovered. However, 90 days of no PMO should give you reasons to stay on that way much longer.

However, the best advice I can give you is to find a good psychologist and invest your money. Really, maybe you encountered somebody who was not good enough, or your dedication was not enough. Still, since your problem is so deep and you're even married, then statistically there's more to it.

Read everything you can on NoFap. Learn how your brain tricks you. Stop looking at women like they were objects. Start living.

Happy to have you with us.

 

(I am taking your word for the incredible frequency you propose, and in my trust that the human body is an amazing machine that can adapt to extraordinary circumstances and achieve what can only be described as miraculous!).

Persistence will defeat any obstacle, keep trying and do not give up.
If you ever want to take drastic measures, quit your apparently meaningless job and go camping without electronics, you will probably go nuts but it's something.
Note I am not responsible for any failure to pay the mortgage or bills!

 

I am hoping to get a nocturnal emission out of the blue. I would be very happy

 

You have the power of change, but you need to ask yourself: do you really want to?

Forget PMO man, this shit only will bring bad to your life. Try to read something to occupy your mind, i recommend Battlefield of Mind by Joyce Meyer, amazing book.

 

Yo, i see all these assholes out here judging my man by all the possible ways... in this situation, we have been judged by ourselves for a long time, we dont need anyone judging how many times my dude jacks off in a day
We need some compassion down here.. this man has a serious condition and, apparently, we are the only ones that can help him
brother, here's the deal.. you cant let them win.. u gotta stand up for urself, get in front of a mirror and scream out loud "ENOUGH!!!".. from that point on, get ur things together and start a new life... read a book, go running, ride a bike, weightlift, SOMETHIN to get ur mind right!
Again: YOU CANT LET'EM WIN... u determine ur life and its aspects, so you gotta put an end to it

 

That rage is your brain wanting you to PMO again.
if you are successful and push behind that wall you will make progress. But its how much you want it if you want something in life and you give everything you have for it you will achieve it no matter what it takes.

The prefrontal cortex enables us to make rational, sound decisions. It also helps us to override impulsive urges that may trigger reactions that are not in the best of our interests. If acted upon, these impulses urges can cause us to act without thinking. It is the prefrontal cortex that helps you to even maintain sound relationships around you. Each and every day you may be confronted by this impulsive urge but it is the prefrontal cortex that helps us think rationally and help override the impulsive urges.
lets say you start today and you go for 5 days the next time you go for 7 then 10 and so on that's how you train your prefrontal cortex again that has got very weak over the years.

you are now 40 think back how many years you lost doing nothing wasting your time masturbating. Think where you would have been if you stopped early let that rage fuel you to stop this addiction for once and for all its never to late to stop any addiction until we are put in our coffins and we stop breathing.
your prefrontal cortex is responsible for regulating your dopamine levels and saying no to Pron or other behavior that releases dopamine levels.

Best of luck on your journey friend, believe in yourself and your half way there

 

It’s true. I started masturbating 5-10 times a day as early as 4 years old. So 20 times is believable that’s like once an hour with a crappy night sleep because of it

 

Some people are really bad. Why they judge anybody easily IDK and I can't believe in my eyes. Ignore them, every individual has a different life and this is a real addiction. Anyway, blockers did not really help me in the same time because it is about brain. Learn everything as possible. yourbrainonporn.com is a great website for learning science behind this. Porn addiction is in the same time internet addiction, but it has more arousal because it feeds from our instinct. Pornography producers knows a lot about human psychology and they use this. Constant shocking, surprising, endless novelty, hot babes who we could never meet... I think the best technique to recovering is avoid all possible ways to porn, this includes internet pornography, masturbation with or without porn, sexual Youtube contents, bikini nudes in Google images, swimsuit magazines, even fantasizing in your head. No stimuli, no response. If you have a really bad situation like most of addicts, try to seek professional help or take time to understand with yourself this addiction. You can take benefits from yourself with learning different resources. By the way I highly recommend this workshop: http://www.recoverynation.com/recovery/recovery_workshop_contents.php

As a younger person who struggled to quit porn for 7+ years and who has addiction half of my life, I never lost my hope. I always know there is hope and I will end this addiction. It is really not easy, but it is possible. Have a good journey, I'm with you!

 

There's no necessity to quit caffeine , but i advise you to reduce it and quit alcohol for your health. A cup of coffe in the morning it's enough

Please, start studying carefully what's happening in your mind > https://oceanrecoverycentre.com/2016/07/the-ultimate-guide-to-overcoming-internet-porn-addiction/

First time without porn will be stressful , but if you resist , in some months you will feel reborn.

If the first times a person relapse easly, it's okay.
The streaks becomes even longer , day by day.
Don't porn anymore, it's better to struggle and at the last to relapse than to look at porn.
No more instagram pictures of models. No more erotic imagines , erotic stories or erotic asmr.
If you experience ''flatline'' and low libido , resist.
> https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/por...l-size-and-or-libido-are-decreasing-flatline/

Spoiler: About Relapse Prevention

An effective weapon to overcome urges and thoughts : mindfulness.
The brain will try to win you and to get some triggers for the seek of dopamine. Resist

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About your case it seems to be a compulsive behaviour to masturbation. So it's needed a hard mode with no PMO.
You should work on emotion management with mindfulness , and app like Youper , an emotional assistant.
Good luck

 

Do you have any hobbies that do not include MO'ing to P?