Dealing with real triggers (females in public)

i think that you re right about that we have to be able to deal with these triggers
i have few tips which may help you

1. meditation will help you to control your thoughts and imaginations
2. try to distract yourself from thinking of her
3. if you believe in god you can pray to help you and be pure and holy as he wants you
4. think of her in another way like "oh she is smart her clothes are pretty "not sexy""
5. you should express your feelings and thoughts in appropriate way in a paper or to god or someone you love and respect or even to yourself
6. it would take time and practice so if you tried ll these and failed you can escape from this trigger

 

Don't ogle. If you want to look, look into their eyes. That's my "rule".

Of course, eye contact can be triggering also, but I feel like a bit of an idiot if I completely avoid looking at women altogether.

 

you provide as much value to the world with your life force as them. Physical beauty only represents so much, although it is an advantage especially for hot chicks, they get hit with inflation. Twice as many women, they get old and lets pray they dont have kids, their intrinsic value ultimately goes down. Once that beauty is gone thats it. Now you my king, there is less of you then them. You are a deflationary asset. If you arent ridiculously physically gifted like some of these models, then so be it. Be so great at something that not only are you a limited supply, who's bank accout & stock increases with age, but you also add this much value to society with your niche.

you got this brother. Women arent shit. The only reason hot chicks freak you out is because you dont believe in your heart & probably actually dont have a skill or something to be confident about. Which is good. All that means is you know where to start my brother. Time to get on the grind. Men are usually the priority of women. Women cant be your priority or thats all you will have.

 

I mean... In some ways this might be healthy -- not the ogling, but the fact that you're finding yourself wanting and desiring a real woman. Just keep pushing through, maybe stop staring and start engaging? I mean definitely don't go back to PMO, but a little healthy jump in your heart rate when you see a beautiful woman you'd like to engage in conversation, that sounds like sobriety is working, you're getting some of your energy back. Just my thoughts...

 

First thing: accept that you will be triggered.

Second, acknowledge it. ”Dam she fine look at those legs...” Wait I'm being triggered.

Third--Remind yourself that just b/c you're triggered does not mean you have to execute triggering behaviors. Take a moment, look away and try some controlled breathing or counting or any other simple mechanism to regain your focus.

 

Bro Dosent it release dopamine like in lusting ...??

 

First it's normal ... we are biological creatures. Men looking at women is a completely normal thing. I tell myself there's 6 billion people in the world and while this one I am looking at is beautiful, there are at least a billion other "attractive" female women and this one is nothing special herself. That usually does the trick ....

Acknowledge that the attractiveness is there... and move on.

 

Probably but you can’t always control your brain chemistry. Hence the redirect.

 

thats what i am struggling with whenever i see a women I automatically start lusting.... ...in this situation what should I do ???