I failed twice. How to think less about sex?

I know maybe it’s not a big deal, I know other people's problems are worse, but I started a next challenge and I failed twice. After one day. I can't understand, why... I feel awful with it, it makes me depressed and not worthy person. I know it’s not true, it’s not rational. Maybe I think about it to much. My problem isn’t porn, because I don’t watch any porn videos, but I think about sex and fantasize a lot… It’s horrible for me… Have you got any tips for thinking less about sex??? Maybe I should just stop thinking? It’s sound stupid… But it’s not easy at all.

There's a lot of stuff to do... I can get distracted. But when these thoughts come to me... how do I deal with them?

sorry for my English btw

 

I found the Wim Hof Method of Breathing. I will try to do this for the beginning.
Have you got similar problems to mine? Do you practice mindfulness?

I endured 12 days of abstinence and it was hard for me, but I felt better after it. Now I had relapse and I fell guilty and awful with myself. I want to be free of this...

 

Thank You for good advice. I'm a total beginner in mindfulness, so I'll try to explore this topic a bit. It seems to be helpful and useful thing.

 

That's a good point. I probably have to much free time.

 

Maybe you should try a shorter streak? A week, two weeks or three? Maybe it would be easier for you and when you achieve one goal you will be ready for the next? Achieving even a short goal will make you feel more self-confident and satisfied. It’s also more likely to reach. Going for a year, while you masturbate four times a month may prove imposible for you at the moment. Whereas, if you try a shorter break and live up to your expectations, you'll build some self-discipline.

And it'll certainly pay you back in terms of well-being, and achieving a longer goal won't only be easier, but also possible.