My ex!

Yes, you should move on. She is clearly in a moment where she wants to have sexual experiences with other people, and that’s not uncommon at all, especially around your age. Knowing that she thought you were “jealous and needy” is great info, because those are things a guy can and should work on. It’s bad for relationships but also just makes you much less attractive. Keep going with NoFap and read about overcoming neediness. For some guys this is rooted in nice guy syndrome. I guarantee you’ll meet other women and have great experiences and relationships. Good luck!

 

Well, she's a succubus right there.

 

To be frank, youll meet someone, probably more than one someones who are much better and much better for you. Youre 18, life is only just starting, have a little perspective.

If something like this hurt you this much, then dont go looking for someone else to make it better. Thats immature. Look to yourself, otherwise you will do this pattern on repeat for the rest of your life. If you find the strength in yourself to work through how you feel, accept reality for exactly what it is and not what you wish it was, and move on, life will get better.

Nofap will not come down like an angel and take your pain away. But it will give you just enough energy and clarity of mind to see the world is not your enemy and that life goes on.

And if you continue to respond to people with "yeaaaahh, but..." Then just stop, you dont want to get better, you just want attention. In which case, she was right, and you should work on being needy. Eventually you have to stop asking and just do.

 

Hi Byhope,

Porn will never be the solution of your problem. It's sad to see your ex left you like this, down and depressed, but perhaps you could find an actual way to win her over, or move on, without relying on a potentially addictive outlet.

 

Hey, i really appreciate you sharing this ! That is very honest and brave.

I suggest you break this awful toxic relationship with that girl (i had some experience in my life similar to that), she's toxic, or at least the relationship isn't healthy and is hurting you both in different ways.

I also suggest that you start reading about relationships in general and how to be in a healthy relationship, not only in a romantic sense but also all kinds of relationships, study the topic of Dependency and Co-dependency in relationships, becs i can see some of that in what you shared, also study topics like Stages of emotional development and needs for every stage of life, Eric Erickson is great at tackling this and will give so much insights on what childhood needs weren't fulfilled for you and how they manifest themselves in your adult life ..

Also if this looks difficult or unmanageable alone, a trusted adult who understands these topics, or even a counselor would be a greaaaat help. I know from experience.

I know i wrote a lot and gave a big list of advices, i just want to help, i believe that these issues are a big chunk of why we fail in relationships and why we fall into compulsive and addictive behaviors like PMO, and that's the kind of self improvement you need to overcome both areas of life, focus on self improvement rather than trying to treat the symptoms of the problem (pmo or failed relationships) .. you're young and still have a long life to be happy .. i wish you all the best in life ..

Thanks for tolerating my long comment, stay strong, brother !

 

I also started NoFap hecause of a breakup. Only later on my journey I realized my motivation for NoFap were wrong. You're here for yourself - to make your life better.
About the difficult feelings after a breakup - these are emotions, and we're often misguided by them. Think about it logically: She failed you by cheating on you, and therefore you deserve better then her. This should give you the drive to move on from her, so that one day you'll find a better relationship. Getting over a breakup might take time, but try to think about what I've said.