Scared to date because you don't think your mental health is good?

That’s the thing. Everyone has some sort of flaw. Usually many flaws. Everybody has baggage.

I guess you have to ask yourself whether a person is worth the trouble of helping them walk through their circus. And find a person that’ll walk with you through yours. Because i’m not sure anyone really ever fits the definition of being “ready”.

People who are mentally unstable should refrain from relationships until they are mentally stable-if that ever happens. Everyone else has issues that are a lot like everyone else’s issues.

 

Exactly.. if that ever happens. My depression has kept me back for many years now. I'm often unhappy, or even miserable. It's as if everyone is easily walking through life and you're still struggling staying upright. I'm at the same cross road; should I push through with dating, or wait for better days. If they ever come! I just think women have the advantage that they will be able to get dates wether they're mental health is good or not. As long as they're attractive, men will approach them and ask them out. Don't think about me that way - I'm actually quite embaressed about my issues and poor self confidence so I'm not even going to try asking someone out I barely know.

 

There's another school of thought that says the only way out of the vicious cycle is to throw yourself in the deep end and start dating. If you don't have specific ideas about what constitutes 'ready', you'll never know whether or not you're there, is another point.

I need to take my own advice. :/

 

I don’t know anyone who’s doing it every day with stunning ease. A year and a half ago I was miserable: 80-90 hours a week of work, routinely canceling on my son to get work done, living with the guilt of that, doing it from sun-up-to-sun-down, seven days a week. It sucked. I wouldn’t say I was suicidal, but I had zero zest for life. I certainly wasn’t in a position to date. So I shut my business down for over four months and did nothing. I trusted God, and He worked it out. Business is now better than ever.

Sometimes, radical changes are needed. Sites like this provide support for problems a large percentage of the population either denies it has, or doesn’t understand. At least you are talking about it. A handful of people will have taken their own life by the time you read this.

I’m really not sure how you measure whether or not someone is ready to walk through life with someone else. But you can’t do that by constantly questioning yourself, picking your flaws apart and throwing in the towel.

 

Everybody is going through something at any given time. You just live a sheltered life and/or don't really pay attention.

 

You didn't tell us what your mental problem is. Maybe it's something no one would really care about? Maybe something can be done about it?