one of the best posts i have read. being okay with being single. 500 days

The worst things I suffered from during this darker period during my hard-mode journey was probably the feelings of self-pity and loneliness. I felt like the loneliest and saddest person in the world as I was walking down the streets of Belgrade and Sarajevo. I was once again stuck in the former counter-productive, self-victimizing mindset that is called the oneitis-syndrome. In other words, the concept that only if I had a girlfriend here and now, I would feel great instantly and all of my troubles, concerns, shortcomings and complexes would magically disappear, just like in any of those Hollywood or Disney-movies. I might be generalizing but most men these days seem to suffer from one-itis in one form or another and never care about working with themselves and overcome these crippling feelings and thoughts by doing some serious work from within.
Because, it all starts on the inside and the more you become detached from the external world and what’s happening in it, you will begin to heal for real and the needy and desperate feelings for others’ approval will slowly fade away. This isn’t easy in any regard but will ultimately set you free in mind and spirit when you are on your way. One good way to know you really are on your way is to be okay with and accepting the following scenario: You might be single and never ever have sex again during your entire lifetime. If you want to take it even further, consider being on a deserted island in the middle of an ocean, not seeing a single soul for your entire life. If you are okay with that, you have become quite enlightened and developed a strong spiritual side that 99% of people in the developed world don’t possess. It baffles me to see all these people who have recently been heartbroken after their last relationship ended and who can’t stay single for even a few months until they need to find a new partner to fill in that void they just got left with.

That time should not be used chasing for a new partner right away (as being attached to external factors will never make you feel happy or fulfilled) but rather be used for reflection and development of your mental and spiritual powers which will bring you more fulfillment and success in the future. Almost everyone will notice and sense this type of person who has a peace of mind whenever he/she enters a room. Not only that, this kind of people are very capable of and inclined to talk about the deeper and more profound issues of life itself. Ever since the beginning of my NoFap-streak, I have myself become more repellent to and uninterested in socializing with people who only talk about superficial and meaningless subjects who have no meaning to me. Although I have a quite open mind and always give people a chance, I usually leave these conversations politely when I realize I won’t get any kind of intellectual exchange from them.

Apart from that, the benefits continued to appear gradually over the upcoming six months and I dare say that even to this day, the cycle of slowly regaining my masculine traits, confidence and self-acceptance hasn’t come to a halt at all. It still continues but with more gradual and progressive changes than it did right at the start of the streak. It is hard to describe but prolonged periods of NoFap hard-mode (in combination with good and productive habits) really makes you glow, shine and radiate a sort of confidence and grounded-ness that few men these days possess. That fact makes me feel a bit sorry for most men out there who will continue to live in the PMO, blue-pill matrix for the remainders of their lives, not even being receptive to the concept of NoFap, semen-retention and the aspects of self-improvement that comes with it. They will continue to waste and dispose of their life-force and hence drive, force, motivation and all of that creative power that could make them millionaires (and social magnets) within a decade or less.

These days, it becomes more and more evident why the men who spend years and decades in voluntary celibacy (living a very aesthetic lifestyle) look so young, fresh, vital, glowing and at peace with themselves. They have practiced semen-retention and self-mastery for so long that they have gained extraordinary powers that very few men possess in the developed world. Although I am probably not going to live my entire life in celibacy, I will at least shoot for two full years of NoFap hard-mode and see where it leads from there. This Indian man has practiced it for almost his entire life and doesn’t look older than a Western 80 year old which is amazing in itself:
https://www.sbs.com.au/topics/life/…-old-man-reveals-his-secrets-living-long-life

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/reb...-skin-and-texture-of-hair-leaner-muscles-etc/