after sex i feel as bad as i do when i pmo...

I've experienced just what you're talking about. I think it is because we have placed so much shame around sex that we feel bad when we have sex. I also think that it will go away, it has for me. I don't feel bad when I make love to my wife but I sure feel bad when I look at porn.

Do you maybe feel guilty about all the porn use and thus are feeling bad about sex with your significant other? I don't think you should feel bad man.

 

After around six days your testosterone starts to peak and that's what gives you the "feel good" hormone where you feel strong and more confident. However, it does go back down naturally even with or without reaching an orgasm eventually. And it will rise and peak again on it's own. I'm sure a lot of guys can't articulate a sentence after having sex. That will go away too bro. Don't be so hard on yourself.

 

Yes, hard mode is the quickest and most effective way for your brain to recalibrate the neural pathways which have distorted your reaction to sexual stimulation. A complete break will enable your brain to heal. Don't panic, trust the science. Of course, if you relapse along the way, that will slow down the process. So, be vigilant!

 

Hi IGY sorry to hijack your post but last night I had a wet dream only on day four. Now I feel fatigued and anxious again. How am I supposed to get better when my Brain is sabotaging me in my sleep lol.

I feel really down and just want to know why and how it happened so quickly. I'm trying to correct hormone imbalances and although people wouldn't class it as a reset it kind of is for me due to my goals for recovery. Thanks in advance

 

Hi I literally posted something similar. Although mine wasn't sex I had a wet dream after four dam days. Maybe you have a hormonal imbalance? I think it's normal to feel tired after orgasm but to feel all these negative effects aren't right.

 

I'm wondering if it's not still your brain being in the habit of feeling that way due to PMO addiction. Perhaps try hardmode for now. Try get your brain retrained first and then maybe the issue gets resolved.

 

That happend to me and I felt drained always after I masterbated so I'm now on the road to stop of ever trust me it's for the better.

 

You might be going through a transition phase. I've had this too . You want to have sex but physically and mentally not transistioned? If that makes sense?

 

No i sort of faced "oh no it won't get up again " if i had sex without a pill it would feel weak n crap like am focusing on my sausage to stay hard n i know it won't. I had this feeling even with 50/100mg viagra or 20 cialis.

I hated the side effects eventually viagra made me puke n cialis cramped my stomach for three days.

Fuck me sex isnt suppose to have such side effects that your subconscious all the time! I don't want that anymore

Jeez i put on 7kg on in two months flat. If i can do that i can do this. I'm a skinny twerp but am better now. Just need another 5kg am happy. And that meant eating loads!

This? This is easy fk me u don't have to do anything that's best part!

A penis is designed for u to piss... whether u stand or sit... it's function is to easily allow u to urinate unlike women

A penis is not designed for your hand! If u want that then become gay!

Your woman is the queen of your penis she decides (no not in a fetish way).

Ok that was me talking to myself

Back to you. .. you said you got a woman considered having a chastity belt? She keeps the key? (AGAIN NOT A FETISH)

 

Sounds like hardmode until you get married would be the best. No sex or masturbating with or without orgasm. Just 3 months of putting that all out of your head and focusing on other things.
If it's still a problem after that, I would talk to a therapist. It sounds like it's in you're head, that you associate orgasm with masturbation and shame, and a good therapist could help you figure it out. It could also be some chemical imbalance in your body, so you could talk to your doctor too. But I suspect you just need a hardmode reset.

 

I think the way you feel about you feel about sex might not have anything to do with your PMO addiction and more with your views of sex. No, getting rid of this addiction will not cure you not being able to have sex with your SO. Nor will it fix anything else in your life, but it will help and get you started on the right path.

You feel disgusted with yourself when you do those things for a different reason. You need to figure that out for yourself. Good luck buddy.

 

Did You solve this issue mate?

Theres something called "pois".
You can check this thread:
https://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/index.php?topic=6576.0

Try ginger for example before an o...
Peace

 

Strange, I never felt half as bad after sex as PMO. You could try tantric sex I think it's called. It's something I plan to experiment with in the future myself. Sex without ejaculation; supposedly you can have full body orgasms for minutes at a time, multiple times once you get good at it. The idea is that most of your sexual energy is stored in your 'seed' so by retaining your sperm you keep a lot of your vitality and strength.