Reality check. Life is short. Let’s quit wasting our life.

When were in our 20’s or younger, it’s easy to feel like life goes on forever. But as I just turned 37, and I have been thinking about this the last couple years: I don’t have a whole lot of time left. At the age of 37, if I’m lucky, I have maybe 40 years left to live. And for those of you who are a decade or two older than me; well, you can do the math for yourself.

I’m 37 and single; and at this rate, I’m going to wake up tomorrow and be 50, and my computer screen is still going to be my girlfriend.

So the last two months I’ve been making some changes: I’ve been hitting the diet hard, and I’ve been in the gym 3 days a week (but that’s about to improve to 4-5 days a week soon).

My short term goal is pretty simple: I want to continue to get myself in shape from here until about january 1st (so 4 more months), and then I’m going to do what I’ve been wanting to do for a long time, but kept on putting it off; I’m going to start dating and online dating.

Of course, after January 1st, I’ll keep on with the diet and working out; but the way I am now, chubby and out of shape, I have no desire to date now. So that’s my short term goal, that has been keeping me focused on the gym and diet.

And of course it would be nice to have nofap under control by January as well.

Sometimes it’s easy to forget that life is short. So I found it helpful to just do a little math. Be honest with yourself: how many years, if you’re lucky, do you really have left to live (or, at least how many “quality" years do you have left before arthritis and stuff kicks in). And just think about the number that you come up with for a few days. If like myself, you found yourself a little sick, with all the years you have wasted by jerking off to a computer screen and not focusing on your diet and the gym and your health. Then maybe that’s the motivation you need.

I know I just relapsed last night, but my diet and working out is rock solid; and nofap will come. Don’t give up. Keep up the good fight, because the clock is ticking.

 

“I think that there is no perfect recovering.” Good point.

 

I’m sure you’re aware of the basics to avoid relapse: regular exercise, good diet (crucial), reading every night (read in bed and that will put you to sleep like a rock), 2 cold showers per day, keep busy with work and overtime (days I usually relapse on are days I’m not working. I generally work 60-66 hour weeks).

The big thing for me right now though is what I wrote about earlier; I have that short term goal to trim down and get in shape over the next 4 months; so that I can look good in my clothes and feel confident and feel good about myself when I start dating. Plus, the idea of going into dating, not having jerked off or looking at porn for months, sounds like a lot of fun...

On a side note: what kind of man jerks off and looks at porn? Is that person even a man? Sounds more like a little boy. We gotta grow up don’t we at some point?

The best way to not relapse, is to find something that excites you, so that you actually want to get nofap under control...for me, that is wanting to transform myself into a better man over the next 4 months as I go into dating.

Whats that one thing that excites you at this time in your life?

 

You got that right buddy. Tell me a book I should read. Appreciate it.

 

sounds like you have some life experience. Are you in your 50s to early 60s? If so, sounds like one is never to old to be hooked on PMO. Best get PMO out of my life now, because as I get older, it sounds like it aint going anywhere. Either fix this now, or have to fix it 10 years from now or later.

 

I’m just curious. Are you doing nofap at the age of 73? At that age, do you still feel the desire to look at porn and masterbate?
Answer if you wish. Thanks.

 

Wow. Interesting. I guess one never really loses that desire.

 

I can relate. In the last decade I’ve had a handful of dates and now I’m 37. Time to get trucking. No reason to think another decade won’t go by with me being single if consistent changes don’t get made for the better.