Breastfeeding

This place gives me an opportunity to ask - is breastfeeding a trigger for men generally? I'm not talking about your own wives, but other women, in public. Do you feel uncomfortable ? Do you want to look? Are you able to see it as a baby taking food or is the breast still sexualised in that context?

This isn't a thread about whether or not women should feed in public - it's just asking if it's a trigger or not.

Thanks in advance for your respectful discussion.

 

No I don't find it a trigger for arousal. Just seeing an exposed breast isn't sufficient to get me aroused unless it's already in some kind of sexual context - which breast-feeding most definitely is not.

That said I certainly can't speak for everyone and I'm sure for some it probably is a trigger since porn really does sexualise women in almost any context.

 

Thanks for your reply. Opinions are exactly what I'm looking for in asking.

 

Just out of curiosity, Saskia,

why are you asking?
Personally, women trigger me every now and then while it then mostly depends of my own state of mind. I can't and don't put blame on them.
If it comes to women and them avoiding being triggers - as long as they are not deliberately trying to send sexual signals to men it should be considered in the responsibility of men to deal with a trigger.

Admittedly, it is a twilight zone if it comes to clothing...
But IMO the matter can be easily exaggerated to the point where it is prohibited for little children to play naked at the beach or women required to wear long sleeves and cover up their skin.

 

Hi lionace

I'm asking because I think the anonymity here means people will be honest. In my country, women are sometimes quite aggressive about feeding in public. They are known as "lactivists" and will do breastfeeding sit ins at establishments where feeding women have been asked to cover up. It's a funny social oddity that we can have breasts exposed for sexual purposes but not to feed our babies.

Full disclosure is that I am feeding a new baby now, and although I take care with modesty, I honestly wonder if it makes men uncomfortable. The answer so far seems to be that it's not triggering, so great. I am not a lactivist or particularly passionate about breastfeeding (it works for me - others can do what they like).

 

Honest opinion here, breastfeeding makes me uncomfortable, and I am a woman. haha that being said, it only makes me uncomfortable if the woman is one of those super-activists who refuse to cover themselves at all. That, to me, is just inconsiderate to others. You can still feed your child effectively and be somewhat modest, taking other people into consideration. It's just common courtesy. I don't think you have to be totally crazy about it and go to a different location to feed your child or whatever, but to me, there's no reason not to be respectful and cover yourself to some degree.

 

I guess I kind of didn't answer your question, though. It makes me uncomfortable, but it's not "triggering" in a sexual way, for me.

 

¹No, it's definitely not a trigger for me but it's a rather inappropriate thing to do in public imo. Get in your car or go to the bathrooms to do that shit. I don't need to see that happening, even by a glance. Carrying a small bottle of milk for use in public situations won't kill you or the baby either.

Public breastfeeding is not something that's inherently wrong, but something that should be shunned on by social conventions imo.

 

You're in public and some dude might sneak a peek on your breasts. That is why he (probably.could be wrong) thinks that it should be shunned. I do agree with him about the public not really being an appropriate place to breastfeed but I also do not know where one would breastfeed and I'd like not to think about it in the midst of things.

 

Just realized this thread is 4 years old. Just let it die already lmao.

 

Doesn’t bother me. Keep my eyes forward, mind my business, and leave the woman alone. Kids got to eat!

A side note:

Did you guys know that Castielle is in this thread? In this thread can be seen one of her old nics before using Castielle.

“TakingTheSteps”