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Can't make it one week. Need help..

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Belching_Booch, Sep 3, 2020.

  1. Sep 3, 2020 #1
    Belching_Booch

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    Just relapsed yet again after nearing five days. The past two months I've been trying nofap, but always end up relapsing day 4 or 5. Honestly it's much better than beating off 3-4 times a day like I used to, but I still can't even make it one whole week! I'm very active and keep myself busy, but still get thoughts and urges especially late night/early mornings. I work out 6 days a week lifting intensively and do cardio. I walk a lot, go to the park to do calisthenics, I meditate, sungaze whenever I can, take cold showers, etc. Basically the last two months I've been working on many forms of self improvement, but deep down I'm still a pervert, especially when it comes to older teenage girls. Even when I'm in the park working out, I can't escape the dirty thoughts especially when I'm surrounded by them constantly. It's taking a toll on me mentally and even though I spend way less time on social media and my phone (deleted Insta/tiktok) I still have urges that I can't contain every couple of days. I'm not going to give up, and I never binge. It's one fap per relapse and then it's 4-5 days of no nut. However, I still struggle with it. I know that being an addict gives me that creeper vibe because I ALWAYS check girls out, and I'm not even subtle about it anymore. I'm a good looking guy and in pretty good shape, getting more muscular and attractive by the day, but there is still something about me that turns girls off and I'm pretty sure it's the creeper porn addict vibe I give off. I need to STOP but I always relapse... I watch many motivational nofap success stories on youtube, and am motivated the first 2-3 days, but then the demon within me awakens. I need help. Any advice for long term success is appreciated.
     
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  2. Sep 3, 2020 #2
    Fallacious D

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    The hardest part for me is also around days 3-5. That seems to be when the withdrawal is the strongest. You need to have a reason to quit. Be kind to yourself and believe that you can do it. It's very hard to push through the first week of urges without some kind of motivation. Maybe you need to make some progress in other areas - clean up the house, study a lot, have a good work out routine - and those things will motivate you to succeed with NoFap.
     
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  3. Sep 3, 2020 #3
    Jarad999

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    Yeah, the hardest part for you to do NoFap is at the begining at those days the urges are very very powerful, now you went through NoFap for 2 months but your only able to get to 1-7 days? What i can share you from my experience because i started at 11 YO but began at 13 YO so what helped for those first days is:

    1) I'd put away my phone after i relapse for 1 or 2 days atleast just a day, because if you relapsed and you get back up and there's your phone infront of you and your going to think PMO easily so try not to get on your phone for a day or half a day.

    2) identfy and elimanate your triggers, this trick is very accurate you can find this in a website or probbaly in the NoFap Forum. Start writing your triggers what caused you to relapse those days, were you stressed? were you just automatically triggered by looking at your phone? Now try to elimanate those triggers by putting something positive. If you were stressed then start meditating and if you were triggered instantly by looking at your phone then put away your phone for the time being.

    3) your doing great with excercising all day, keep going at that.

    4) meditation, as i said in the second advice meditating will help your mind have mindfulness try to listen to music, do yoga postions, take deep breaths in and out and etc.

    Thats about all of the information that i have for you, oh and a bonus+ try socializing if you haven't already! If you need more help you can search here in NoFap, stay strong!
     
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  4. Sep 3, 2020 #4
    ShogunGeneral

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    You've just told yourself your sticking points 3-5 to days now you know. For me it was always the weekend when I was first trying to kick this meant if I could get through fri and sat I'd almost get a boost and shoot through the rest of the week and BAM! Suddenly be on a 10 day streak. Keys are put your phone, away, computer away and stay as busy as possible and days 3-5 once youve busted through the pedestal keep going. Remember that pain you feel when you relapse? Keep it close by and go back to it when you feel that pull to engage in your triggers.

    Remember a few moments of fapping are no where near the feeling of power, control and mastery you have during a good streak. GOOD LUCK!
     
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  5. Sep 3, 2020 #5
    Belching_Booch

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    Honestly it's not even the pleasure of the orgasm that im addicted to, I relapse because it helps me relax and shelve the dirty thoughts. For instance today I was in the park with a buddy working out, and I swear all these older teen girls were out and about wearing barely anything. I was so distracted that it even messed with my workout a bit. I can't stop looking at them because I'm thirsty and want what I can't have. It's a vicious and depressing cycle, and the main reason I'm on this journey. I need to be able to take control of my life before my thoughts overtake and consume me. When I got home all I was able to think about was all these girls and that's usually when a relapse happens. It's not even the porn that I'm addicted to per se (although there is an addiction there too), it's the real girls I see that I want and can't have.
     
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  6. Sep 3, 2020 #6
    Belching_Booch

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    Going from beating off 3-4 sometimes 5 times a day to once every couple of days is a HUGE step for me. I've been an addict for a long time, and this is by far the hardest addiction I've ever tried removing from my life. I've quit both pot and cigarettes after smoking for over 11 years, and it was hard as hell. Believe me when I tell you it's NOTHING compared to what I'm trying to do now.
     
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  7. Sep 3, 2020 #7
    Srisurya

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    I feel you bro. This was me once upon a time. It takes time to train your mind. It's frustrating. But it's worth it. Keep hanging on there. Your streaks will improve. It's just the addiction is too deep.
     
    Srisurya, Sep 3, 2020
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