Sever depression!

Hey don't feel too bad brother! By age 25 I'd never even managed to go more than 2 weeks clean. Among many other things, I've realized for me this is about choosing to truly grow up. You want to recognize a PMO as a step backward in your development, but not a death blow by any means. The focus should be on the positive goal of that Bigger man–in mind body and spirit—that you're meant to become. The faster we overcome this herdle, the faster we'll develop, and you've already got a head start on many of us.
I actually thought it was impossible to improve for years, but that's just devil's lies a in my opinion. I deny them.

 

Get offline and stay offline. Do things unrelated to your computer and devices. I know it sounds impossible, but its possible if you try. During early days of recovery you need to avoid all temptation. For us, temptation comes from browsing the internet. Turn your devices off during critical, bored and isolated moments of the day. And force yourself to do other things. This is especially crucial during the first week when urges are strongest.

 

Look what you are going through is completely normal . Honestly no one I mean no one can recover from porn without having relapsed a couple of times . Relapse is part of the process and unfortunately unavoidable . But i promise you someday you are going to be able to resist the urges and maintain a streak . I personally have been 2 years clean (cold turkey ) and in order to turn my life upside down and make it better i have accepted that i am human and relapse is nothing to be ashamed of . If you hated yourself for real you wouldnt be trying to recover and improve . You have a lot to live for and a great future waiting for you . Just have faith and trust me when i say that even if it seems impossible to recover and achieve your goals you have already made the most important step , your choice to stop .
In my first days and failed attempts i tried the following : 1 Cold showers help take your mind out off porn .
2. Find something that you really love doing , something that makes you happy . You need this to keep yourself motivated .
3. Go for walks and exercise as much as you can , in that way your brain will produce dopamine in natural ways and wont make you relapse in order to get some .
4. Find support from people you trust or even comment here about everything that worries you
And things will get better . I give you my promise. I am 18 and been addicted to porn for about my entire life , so i know how desperate someone can be . If anyone told me , 2 years ago before all this change , that i could change and have a happy life , i would have said yeah i dont think so mate . But i did it and you can do it . If you manage not to give up and keep going thats all you need . And when things are really bad think about the WHY am i fighting for . I literally would prefer to go through hell than feeling that hopless , and take back my life .
I hope i could help , if you need anything I am here to talk.

 

You need to love yourself and be happy being alone. Otherwise you will act needy and desperate with a woman. You will create an unhealthy relationship with a woman who is also lonely and emotionally vulnerable. Once you start to feel love for yourself and stop PMO for a while, your natural sociability will return. And thats where all the superpowers for female attraction come from. It comes from healing your brain and getting comfortable being present in the world without anxiety.

It doesnt matter where you are in the world, I have travelled a lot even without speaking the language, and you will attract people to you. But you need to care for your emotions with some kind of spirituality, religion, philosophy and literature to soothe your soul and open your mind to the great legacy and classics of mankind.