When the urge comes knocking

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Exit To Freedom, Sep 7, 2020.

  1. Exit To Freedom

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    I'm at the stage I always get to after about 5 days. This time around I have done my best to shut down images and lustful thoughts, stop and no seem to work or focusing on something else or remembering the pain from the last episode. However, I also reach a physical craving that doesn't seem totally connected with thinking. Sensations, horniness, a feeling down there - this is the toughest thing for me. Any advice?
     
  2. Love2LongBoard

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    You are making an assumption that we all make: That the craving you are feeling will be met by acting out or looking at pornography. Viewing pornography or acting out is like drinking caffeine when you are dehydrated. There is an initial feeling of being hydrated but it actually dehydrates you faster, requiring you to drink more.

    The feelings that you feel will not be solved by acting out, it will only lead to more cravings. You may not be thinking about lusting after others, but there is wrong thinking still that leads to acting out. It's that thinking that needs to be rewired.

    Here is another one. "I am abstaining". While that is a true statement it is not a helpful statement. Try this instead, "I am giving myself freedom." They mean the same thing, but one is about denying yourself something that you think you want while the other is about giving yourself something you need.

    Give yourself the gift of peace of mind, a healthy life, healthy thinking, freedom to relate to others.

    Not sure if this is what you are looking for but hopefully it can help some.
     
  3. Exit To Freedom

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    Yes it did thanks. Changing thinking habits is really key and when I come up with everything I've done before like above, it's habit and just as important an excuse to act out which will lead back to the cycle. Appreciate your logic.
     
  4. If you can do 5, you can do 6. No cheating, no searching, no looking at anything sexy or porn related. Think about the guy you'd like to become and do it a day at a time. Also, when you get to a week - stop counting the days! Forget the past and only focus on today & tomorrow.
     
  5. @Valley_Warrior this is good
     
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  6. Exit To Freedom

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    One day at a time for sure, thanks.
     
  7. ElizabethManning

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    You need a girlfriend...
     
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  8. Exit To Freedom

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    I'm married so that's not my problem, just have the same problem many others do whether single or married.
     
  9. Love2LongBoard

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    For those who read the reply above: finding a girlfriend doesn't solve anything. It actually just makes it way more painful for you and for the girl you subject to this. Get healthy, then find a girlfriend.
     
  10. Exit To Freedom

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    I'm finding by doing this all the self limiting beliefs I have about myself and the way I've punished myself for so long. Not just for this, but in general. I've started talking back to myself rationally. We can't let the bullies inside us dominate. Fortunately it's not all the time but it's there. This is not just about porn. This is a definite challenge in more than one way.
     
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  11. Habbapop

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    Ride the wave man. The feelings thoughts and outher stuff. You can't shut it down, you have go with it, see it as a wave coming into land. It get bigger and bigger but it will go away and go back out in the oacen. That is life, there will allways come wave @ you. Sometime bigger sometimes smaller. This is probobly big waves cous all the shit you have been suppressing with porn. feelings, guilt, blame and all. BUT you can do it, just like many here. Ride the wave. Grab your surfingboard and ride the wave till it dissapears.

    Goodluck my man !
     
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  12. Exit To Freedom

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    Thank you buddy, great reply appreciate it.
     

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