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Hard mode or not, your oppinion please

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by thomas59160, Feb 7, 2014.

  1. Feb 7, 2014 #1
    thomas59160

    thomas59160 Fapstronaut

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    I've decided to start this NoFap challenge since monday, first for 30 days and then probably for 90 days (or more), I really have a strong will to hold on and I'm 99% sure I won't fail but I've still one doubt : should I do it in hard more (no MOP + no real sex) or not ?

    Here is my situation, I'm 24 and like all of us I used to be addicted to porn/masturbation, and it has really affected my real sex life, for example it's really really hard for me to cum during penetration, most of the time I've to ask the girl to finish me with a handjob or a blowjob...

    I've always had a lot of sex partners, I mean sex friends, and it's quite rare for me to spend more than 15 days without having sex. And for example, one of my sex friends I haven't seen since a while just texted me yesterday to tell me that she will be in my city next week-end and she thinks it would be nice to "meet" as we used to do it, and I don't really know how to react to this.

    So what's your oppinion :
    - "real NoFap" challange has to be in hard mode (no MOP + no real sex)
    OR - Real sex has to be accepted
    OR - Real sex has to be accepted only if you love the girl (I mean you're in couple)

    Thanks in advance
     
    thomas59160, Feb 7, 2014
    thomas59160, Feb 7, 2014
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  2. Feb 7, 2014 #2
    Inspector

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    As a virgin, I would go for sex with the girl I like if we had the relationship. Because it's a part of what I want to get at the end. Relationship and sex. *wet dreams*
     
    Inspector, Feb 7, 2014
    Inspector, Feb 7, 2014
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  3. Feb 7, 2014 #3
    thomas59160

    thomas59160 Fapstronaut

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    You're probably true, I'm really early in my NoFap Challenge so I guess I should try to avoid my sex friends for a couple of weeks and see how I react to a couple of weeks without orgasm.

    Thanks to both of you for your messages, it does help :)
     
    thomas59160, Feb 7, 2014
    thomas59160, Feb 7, 2014
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  4. Feb 7, 2014 #4
    c-l-a-s-h

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    Try to avoid any kind of release until you've rebooted (About ninety days). That way it's not your brain rationalizing to get it's fix, you won't have any fantasizing while you're having sex, and you won't have a chaser effect. Be committed to nofap until you've completely reset your brain to live without the porn. Even the neural pathways that you access during sex will trigger the porn pathways in your brain because of their relation to orgasm and sexual settings.

    Where you go from after the reboot, whether it be back to sex or exercising complete abstinence, is up to you. But let your brain decide without the influence of your dick.

    One last idea - some great men never let themselves orgasm. Nikola Tesla even had a philosophy which is summarized thusly, "Tesla was known for being celibate, despite having women throw themselves at him throughout his successful years. He believed that there are two ways to make full use of your sexual energy – either fuck an enormous amount of women, or don’t fuck any at all. The middle way, he said, was for continuation of the species, whereas the two extremes were for your own development as a human." (http://www.kratosguide.com/teslas-instructions/)

    Gandhi was always notorious for abstinence. As was Socrates, Plato, and Artistotle. Hell, even Mark Wahlberg doesn't put faith in jerking off. Just something to think about ;)

    But in the end, it's not really a big if you have sex but I would abstain until the end of your reboot as any release might set you back.

    Stay strong ;)
     
    c-l-a-s-h, Feb 7, 2014
    c-l-a-s-h, Feb 7, 2014
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